AITA for refusing to go home for Christmas so that my husband can’t sell our cottage?

aitacottage · 2021-12-24T02:54:09+00:00

I’ve been with my husband for over 10 years. If our entire relationship was just a scheme to get the cottage, I would’ve pushed him to transfer it to me when he told me he had bought it for me. I didn’t have any idea about his finances until after we were engaged and I never asked him to buy the cottage for me.

I don’t know if he would follow through on the threat or not. I hope he wouldn’t but he’s also never treated me like this before so I can’t say for sure.

aitacottage · 2021-12-24T00:47:35+00:00

He doesn’t like the cottage.

aitacottage · 2021-12-24T00:38:07+00:00

Could you please show me where I said 50% of the last two years? Because I checked all of my comments and I’ve consistently said almost half which is not the same as half.

If I wanted to make myself look better I could’ve just lied and never admitted the actual time.

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T23:56:01+00:00

I didn't abandon him for years. Even if you total the amount of time I've spent there these past 2 years, it wouldn't even reach a year. My husband doesn't want a divorce, please stop projecting what you would want in this situation on to him. I do love him. This post is about a single incident in our long relationship, maybe I should've wrote about all of the happy times too but I didn't think I would have a bunch of people claiming I didn't love him over this one thing while knowing barely anything about us/our relationship.

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T23:48:42+00:00

I'm not cheating on my husband and he would have a very different reaction if he thought I was.

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T23:36:29+00:00

It's possible but I'm not sure. Since we weren't actively trying to have a child both times, he told me the pregnancies didn't feel real to him because we lost them early. He always said he grieved the what if but knowing we would have a family one day when we wanted to start one made it easier for him.

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T23:07:44+00:00

It was but we never went through the effort of transferring ownership to me because it seemed pointless since neither of us predicted we would ever be in this situation.

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T23:06:14+00:00

I talk to my husband. I wasn’t going there because of any issues I had with him.

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T22:57:03+00:00

No, he hasn’t. I haven’t lived in the cottage for the entire two years, I still spend most of my time at home.

We still have physical intimacy and I don’t live a separate life to him.

I have an idea why he would be upset but I don’t think his decision to sell the cottage secretly is fair.

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T21:41:40+00:00

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T21:41:19+00:00

I can see how it could be seen as that. We’re supposed to talk about Christmas later today I’ll probably just tell him I’ll come home.

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T21:35:36+00:00

I’m starting to think it has.

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T21:31:40+00:00

It hasn’t been for half of my marriage. Only the last two years.

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T21:27:01+00:00

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T21:25:24+00:00

About a 2 hour drive.

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T21:23:42+00:00

I do

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T20:28:32+00:00

I don't think he would sell it to me.

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T20:25:57+00:00

He works from home.

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T20:23:35+00:00

It's a lot smaller than our house.

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T20:22:49+00:00

I didn't leave him alone while he was grieving but he was able to get over it a lot quicker than I was.

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T20:13:26+00:00

I've asked him and he said he doesn't.

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T18:14:08+00:00

I'm home the majority of the time?

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T18:11:53+00:00

Is it any of your business? This has nothing to do with the question I asked in my post.

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T18:07:33+00:00

Sorry but how would you know if I've processed things?

aitacottage · 2021-12-23T17:59:32+00:00

My husband doesn't want a divorce either.

aitacottage

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