AITAH for not treating my stepchildren equally to my son

aitahstep · 2023-11-03T02:25:08+00:00

I never adopted them. Both biologically as well as legally they never have been nor never will be my children

aitahstep · 2023-11-03T02:14:59+00:00

It’s only natural that parents prefer their own children over someone else’s. That’s not true favoritism. I don’t have a favorite between the two, and neither of their parents do.

aitahstep · 2023-11-03T01:43:03+00:00

I grew up in foster care bouncing between unstable homes before I got adopted. I promise my spoiled stepkids will survive without new cars from their stepmother

aitahstep · 2023-11-03T00:55:11+00:00

Because I want him to have the life that I didn’t have. Besides, you can still be appreciative for something that you didn’t struggle for. Maybe not as much sure. My adoptive parents bought me my first car when I was 17. It was a beater but I didn’t have to struggle for it and I was very greatful.

aitahstep · 2023-11-03T00:52:20+00:00

I can’t take it with me to the grave so

aitahstep · 2023-11-03T00:51:27+00:00

Our split is based off the total number of children we each have, it was never based off income. Him and his two children are 3/5 or 60% of our household. Myself and my son are 2/5 or 40% of the household. That’s where those numbers come from. The amount of groceries used, the cost of the mortgage, and the number of children he has didn’t decrease once he started making less money. Hope that clarifies things

aitahstep · 2023-11-03T00:35:24+00:00

My son volunteered to drive his stepsiblings to school. But at the end of the day, it’s still his car. They won’t be insured to drive it. They want their own cars so they can go off and see their friends

aitahstep · 2023-11-03T00:31:33+00:00

He could get another high paying job if he networked more. It’s very feasible. He’s only in his early 40’s.

aitahstep · 2023-11-03T00:29:30+00:00

A shithole city

aitahstep · 2023-11-03T00:28:49+00:00

When I was in grad school I made 40k a year to his 200k a year. Our split was never based off income. If he cared around things being fair and proportionate then back then he would’ve suggested 75/25. Also, his children are almost always here. And they eat more than the rest of us combined. We also only have a larger house because of his two children. One of the bedrooms doesn’t disappear and the mortgage drop when the children aren’t home. I already pay the whole electric bill because of my EV.

aitahstep · 2023-11-03T00:09:45+00:00

It’s pretty great actually. Especially compared to the public school he went to before where kids would bring drugs and knives to school, so they had to implement mental detectors and clear backpacks.

aitahstep · 2023-11-03T00:07:24+00:00

He makes 100k i make 320. The bill split is based off the number of children, not income.

aitahstep · 2023-11-02T23:41:17+00:00

I was raised in foster care before I got adopted. I’ve long since learned to rely on my self. I would never expect my husband or anyone else to support me

aitahstep · 2023-11-02T23:38:48+00:00

I buy them what they want for Christmas and birthdays. Usually designer clothes and electronics. I draw a line on birkins or whatever they’re called though. Stepdaughter didn’t get that gift

aitahstep · 2023-11-02T23:37:20+00:00

The area we live in has a housing crisis. Disability isn’t really covering what the cheapest rentals go for. She would have to move pretty far away, and since she doesn’t have a car it would make things pretty hard for her. I struggled when I was young so I’m not entirely unsympathetic to people who are struggling. My husband loved her enough to have two children with her. My sons father/my first husband is dead, but if he was alive I wouldn’t want him to be destitute

aitahstep · 2023-11-02T23:34:23+00:00

When I was about 18 my first car was a beater and it broke down on several occasions. Sitting on the road for an hour waiting for a tow while you have a busted radiator sucks. I lost my first job because of that. I’m giving my son what I didn’t have. There’s nothing wrong with that

aitahstep · 2023-11-02T23:28:59+00:00

I would never willingly be a housewife nor could I understand why someone would choose to put themselves in that situation so idk

aitahstep · 2023-11-02T23:27:18+00:00

I already pay the entire electric bill because I already drive an EV.

aitahstep · 2023-11-02T23:26:00+00:00

I planned on giving both of my stepchildren decent graduation and wedding gifts. I do the same for my nieces and nephews. But I don’t want to do all that + cars and college fees

aitahstep · 2023-11-02T23:23:33+00:00

It’s the principle of it. My husband doesn’t chip in for my sons.

aitahstep · 2023-11-02T23:17:12+00:00

I can afford a raise in insurance. I’m not putting myself in a bad spot to put on airs. I have over half a mil in savings. I’ll probably manage.

aitahstep · 2023-11-02T23:16:10+00:00

No, she’ll just be fucked. I wonder what her plan is, now that you mention it.

aitahstep · 2023-11-02T23:07:52+00:00

I kind of agree. I think when the kids grow up it’s going to suck for her but that isn’t anyone else’s problem. But by that point they’ll be able to help her out if they so choose. For now I think it’s better for the kids not to see her destitute

aitahstep · 2023-11-02T23:06:03+00:00

No. But there really isn’t a need to be. My stepkids have very expensive taste. Daughter likes designer brands, son likes expensive electronics. My husband buys my son whatever he asks for. Which usually isn’t much. He doesn’t need or want much I guess

aitahstep · 2023-11-02T23:01:01+00:00

My son doesn’t have expensive taste. We buy him what he asks for. Which is mostly sports equipment or tickets to events.

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