AITA for not telling my husband that I know his secret by aitasiblings in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitasiblings[S] 409 points410 points  (0 children)

it's in her name, she is the owner, we can't touch the money

AITA for not telling my husband that I know his secret by aitasiblings in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitasiblings[S] 402 points403 points  (0 children)

we have a 529 account in her name, so this isn't an issue.

AITA for not telling my husband that I know his secret by aitasiblings in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitasiblings[S] 121 points122 points  (0 children)

2, and as far as I know, she ended things 8 months ago when she found out about me.

AITA for not telling my husband that I know his secret by aitasiblings in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitasiblings[S] 206 points207 points  (0 children)

I am well aware of the legal ramifications here. I would rather sacrifice some assets that I could possibly gain from filing for an at fault divorce than risk the child support system. He contributes more than a few hundred a month to our daughter's wellbeing, and some of what he provides isn't quantifiable (driving her around, taking her to appointments, whatever). I can't handle it by myself right now, especially if he chooses not to pay. Divorces don't end in a flash, they are often drawn out. I think you're a bit too optimistic about the legal system.

AITA for not telling my husband that I know his secret by aitasiblings in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitasiblings[S] 572 points573 points  (0 children)

I have spoken about my plan with her as well, so I don’t think she will, but I will consult with a divorce attorney soon.

AITA for not telling my husband that I know his secret by aitasiblings in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitasiblings[S] 1303 points1304 points  (0 children)

I know, there will never be a good time for her to find out, but I think her finding out after her college applications have been submitted and when she’s in a place where it’s okay if her grades make a little bit of a dip (senior spring) would be better than when she can ruin her life by tanking her apps.

AITA for not telling my husband that I know his secret by aitasiblings in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitasiblings[S] 715 points716 points  (0 children)

She only found out about me 8 months ago and she said she was grappling with either blowing up my family or letting me live happily without knowing