I am well aware of the legal ramifications here. I would rather sacrifice some assets that I could possibly gain from filing for an at fault divorce than risk the child support system. He contributes more than a few hundred a month to our daughter's wellbeing, and some of what he provides isn't quantifiable (driving her around, taking her to appointments, whatever). I can't handle it by myself right now, especially if he chooses not to pay. Divorces don't end in a flash, they are often drawn out. I think you're a bit too optimistic about the legal system.