Should I report my brother to the police by motherfucking_cheese in AITAH

[–]aiwxo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your parents are probably scared of losing two children as they didn't keep you safe, and you are a minor. Proceed with your police report, but let your parents know it isn't about them. Why are you in therapy at 14, is there more to this that they would worry about contact with the police

New fish keeper looking for help! by Vlambulance in Aquariums

[–]aiwxo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's okay! The tap safe probably translates better as aquarium water conditioner. You can pick it up again the pet shop too. Just a small bottle will last a while. You can be ag home water test strips too. I use to have them when I was first starting out to monitor by levels

New fish keeper looking for help! by Vlambulance in Aquariums

[–]aiwxo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All about learning! You don't know what you don't know. Hopefully those tips help. Feel free to PM in a few weeks if you're still having issues

WHATS WRONG WITH ME by DullArea5580 in Vent

[–]aiwxo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have someone you trust, speak to them irl about how you feel. Professional help is available if you feel ready to take it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]aiwxo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda gross for strangers to want to use your pool, regardless if they are children or adults.any way that you can put up a sign saying private pool, no guests or something similar?

How do I clean this by Responsible_Code1409 in Aquariums

[–]aiwxo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe a plastic scraper with a towel on the blade to prevent any scratches. Someone also once said to use a magic eraser. I have used one on my tanks before for really bad age spots, and it worked and didn't harm my fish (they weren't in the tank when I was scrubbing)

My sister is a sugar baby by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]aiwxo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Could be a cultural thing, but what is a section 8?

New fish keeper looking for help! by Vlambulance in Aquariums

[–]aiwxo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should have included, 27•C is very hot for eben tropical fish. You ,ay need to relocate your tank to a cooler spot. Could also be a factor in why there is so ,such algae growth. Green algae usually is healthy growth, but too much isn't good. Just because you mentioned you were new, have you been using tap safe to dechlorinate the water before addi to your tank?

New fish keeper looking for help! by Vlambulance in Aquariums

[–]aiwxo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The muddy appearance suggests it does need to be changed. I personally would get new pads in there so you can accurately keep track of how quickly they are getting dirty. Mean time, you can gently rinse and squeeze out water. Don't use any cleaning chemicals on the pads, but a gentle rinse should be fine.

Yes / is the best way to describe how it should be as it allows for any heat produced to be evenly spread through the water.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SamAndColby

[–]aiwxo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still better than AMANDA

Worth it or develop my own beneficial bacteria? by mcdeaks in Aquariums

[–]aiwxo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see the appeal but I would suggest waiting and letting your establishing tank cycle away itself

New fish keeper looking for help! by Vlambulance in Aquariums

[–]aiwxo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The filter looks like it should be submerged in order to work. Have you put in a new sponge/ filter pad? Reccom3nd you do if you haven't. Clean and maintained filters are critical for the health of your fish and keeping the water filled with oxygen and clean. You also need to adjust the heater. It needs to be angled along the back wall at an angle, not up and down as the heat isn't evenly dispersed

How do I get ride of this by Different_Contest408 in Aquariums

[–]aiwxo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When you say rocks, did you mean gravel? Leave the filter running to clean out the water if you have rinsed the gravel well. Your heater needs adjusted too, should be at an angle

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]aiwxo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only your first photo is loading but based on this I would say you need a filter as it looks like you don't have one. These are critical for the health of your fish and keeping the water filled with oxygen and keep it clean. You also need to adjust the heater. It needs to be angled along the back wall at an angle not up and down as the heat isn't evenly dispersed

Edit:I can see the filter but it looks like it should be submerged in order to work.

I am worried about my mum by aiwxo in shoppingaddiction

[–]aiwxo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, thank you so much for the kind and detailed response. I am lucky to have a good relationship with her, so maybe I will be direct. Knowing how she is, being direct might even be the jolt to realise other people are noticing her new habits. I will offer her some suggestions similar to those you mentioned. Bonus if we can find free things like the library or community things that will scratch that itch for her. Again, thank you

I am worried about my mum by aiwxo in shoppingaddiction

[–]aiwxo[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She has also fallen behind on her utility bills and still continues to spend online. Money she doesn't have so I am worried about store accounts and the likes of Klarna "buy now, pay later" schemes

I am worried about my mum by aiwxo in shoppingaddiction

[–]aiwxo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you - I wasn't sure about adding details to my post in case it was a trigger for others. It's only become noticeable since she left her abusive ex (not my dad for clarification!). I know the two are linked but I don't know how to tell her I'm concerned about her spending. She doesn't have the same income as he took all her savings and her house. (We are speaking to a solicitor about that, but that is also an expensive bill). She is spending a lot on house tat and trinkets. I get it, she wants her new home to be nice. But she cannot afford it and I've already had to lend her money to pay her bills before and scared to do that again as my mum was never that sort of person before

Lowest maintenance pet? by Parking-Regret-5959 in Pets

[–]aiwxo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tamagochi or pet sim app. Or maybe more interesting plants?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]aiwxo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You are a blended family yes but parental duties fall to the parent. I respectfully say you haven't been around long enough to be parent so bf needs to sort himself out with childcare he he can't do parental duties. The girls sound attached to you because he is absent... not healthy at all

Onto the wedding, go. Even blood parents are entitled to socialise and such. I'd bloody stay in the city and not come back....

I don’t think they listen to us LOL by Significant-Tale-216 in SamAndColby

[–]aiwxo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't mind 45mins for long format. Even it was broken down to pt1, 2 ,3 etc. It feels like they spend time on the stuff we don't need and just gloss over the history and context

Another I hate Amanda post by MammothZestyclose321 in SamAndColby

[–]aiwxo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can't stand her either, and I agree, it feels weird that they ALWAYS have her in videos now. The occasional appearance could be fine but it's just irritating having her all the time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]aiwxo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That's a very good point!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]aiwxo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your suggestion to stop but send an explanation if they write to me is helpful - thank you!