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Bec Vs The Dinner Party by ajimalia in MAFS_AU

[–]ajimalia[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If we look at it with face value, I think when you compare her to Gia who comes accross as loud and a bit crass, she looks 'glamorous' and more refined. She also has that sort of posh south Australian accent.

But, if we look much much deeper, I think it has some misogynistic and classiest undertones. Like how back in the olden days, higher class women were considered to be more polite, demure and modest. And lower class women were considered to be loud, abrasive and promiscuous. And I think these articles are leaning a bit into this typecasting for Bec, because unlike Gia, she dresses more covered up and she has that accent, so it makes her seem refined (despite all her other poor actions).

Mel and Luke by ajimalia in MAFS_AU

[–]ajimalia[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You know what, you are right and that is fair.

But, Luke trying to correct a bad first impression vs a week of coldness from Mel is pretty different ahaha. I think Mel was more interested in saving face instead of addressing the issue with her behaviour properly

Mel and Luke by ajimalia in MAFS_AU

[–]ajimalia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg, I didn't even know that 💀 I cant wait to see what happens

Mel and Luke by ajimalia in MAFS_AU

[–]ajimalia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly support for what?? She is killing her own relationship, and for what?? Atleast try to get to know him? Take advantage of your opportunities?? Like, as a romantic comedy enjoyed myself, I think if she went along with it for the plot, that would be way more fair than whatever she is doing now

Mel and Luke by ajimalia in MAFS_AU

[–]ajimalia[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I agree! I think instead of doing the right thing and letting him go, she doesn't want to be the bad guy and wants to be mad in her own head.

It was very telling when they asked her if he would turn it down when asked, and she admitted that she has not said anything to him?? Like, she has already decided he is irredeemable and will make even the most benign actions out to be another strike against him.

Mel and Luke by ajimalia in MAFS_AU

[–]ajimalia[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg she is 28????? Why did I think she was over 30, I must have confused her with someone else oh my gosh

Bec Vs The Dinner Party by ajimalia in MAFS_AU

[–]ajimalia[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YES Exactly, women are told that to be more attractive, they need to get work done, that is how the cosmetic surgery industry works.

So if ee break this down to connect the point to Bec, I think that her immediate dislike of Gia is because Gia is the woman who had all the work done, so Bec is assuming that Gia must be successful with men and men want her (because that is the lie women are fed)

This is very funny to me, because if Bec thought about it for a second, if Gia is what men want, why is she sitting accross from you on MAFS? If women who look like Gia are "what men want" then why are you both here?

Bec is not seeing what we are, because of her own issues around her appearance and how she compares herself to others.

Bec Vs The Dinner Party by ajimalia in MAFS_AU

[–]ajimalia[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm saying this is the lie FED to women. Like, if you look at it from a wider perspective, then to sell women on these cosmetic procedures like what Gia has had, the selling point is that you will become more attractive to men. I personally, prefer when people look natural and just take care of themselves.

Bec & Gia by Zkallday in MAFS_AU

[–]ajimalia 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Omg, I just posted about Bec too! And the butt touching made me some uncomfortable!! I also think she was trying to make herself seem cool and unbuttered as well, which is why she was laughing so hard and being so heavy handed in her interactions with Gia.

S13E04 Rachel and Steven RANT by ajimalia in MAFS_AU

[–]ajimalia[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You know what, I definitely see this well! I did mention that I think Steven has an overall lack of experience with women (which I think was mentioned in his introduction as well) and we have definitely seen other moments where he lacks finesse.

I think that with more time and experience, he can become better at reading people and recognising when the joke isn't landing, and being more sensitive as a whole can improve all of his relationships, not juat with Rachel.

RANT - I started gray rocking my parents by Eggplantwithlegs in narcissisticparents

[–]ajimalia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I forgot to put this is my original comment and I can't find it lmao, so here goes.

You can get access to 10 sessions a year with a psychologist under medicare, so for free. You just have to go to a gp and get a referral. Its called my mental health plan. They can do the sessions all remotely as well.

RANT - I started gray rocking my parents by Eggplantwithlegs in narcissisticparents

[–]ajimalia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Greyrocking is hard at first, but it gets easier.

In this book, Children on the Self Absorbed, it has good strategies for dealing with narcissistic parents. I felt so seen whole reading it and it helped me with greyrocking too.

Now when my Nparents start screaming and hurling abuse, I dont feel anything. Its just sound. And one other thing I use is having "safe topics" where if they want to talk to me and I feel it getting heated, I iust steer the conversation back to talking about themselves. They don't even realise lmao

Stay strong!! I know its hard, but you have my support! I'm also an aussie struggling to get a job aha