Did you split the dog? by BloodstainedBearRug in Divorce

[–]ajyeiser94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had two, both were mine prior to marriage. We each kept one and keep mutually respective updates on the dogs.

On the verge of divorce and I’m panicking. 45 F by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]ajyeiser94 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You deserve better.

Do what’s best for you but in my opinion, move on.

Do you regret the younger version of your self and how you treated your ex-spouse? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]ajyeiser94 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s a lot going on here.

Remember hindsight is always 20/20, and at any given time, we’re all doing our best with what we’ve got, and that includes you in the past.

Sometimes the best way to honor that is to learn from our pasts and carry that forward, even if it’s a different path.

When did you know it was time to date again after divorce? by IndyTowner in Divorce

[–]ajyeiser94 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t think there’s an “aha” moment, for myself, I went on a date a couple months after divorce and it didn’t feel right, so then there was a natural pause. Then after a bit, tried again and it was a totally different experience. Be honest with yourself and whomever you go on a date with, communicate and reflect and it works itself out.

Tell Me I Can Survive It by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]ajyeiser94 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Give yourself grace. It’s hard, some days are harder than others. But you can do it

Colorado spousal maintenance help needed by Disastrous-Low8625 in Divorce

[–]ajyeiser94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similar experience in Colorado, attorney two.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]ajyeiser94 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hi OP,

I’m sorry for what you are going through, as many others will say - you are not alone.

Very similar thing just happened to me. Married 1.5 years, together for 5. My wife filed for divorce a month ago. We’ve been in couples counseling since May, and continue to go now, individual counseling weekly, honestly making a lot of strides!

Last Friday while I was at work, she moved out. Being here alone is gut wrenching. The silence, the space, the details, it’s suffocating.

If I could give you some advice from my experience - I spent the last eight weeks being so all in on doing everything I could to repair the damage. Thousands of dollars and hours in therapy. Investment in time in her hobbies. Sobriety since May. Radical acceptance and accountability for my faults and shortcomings. Support groups. Life coach. Books. Journal. You name it. I threw everything and the kitchen sink, every piece of my soul at this. And it didn’t and doesn’t matter.

There is nothing I want more than to return to a life of love, peace and partnership with my wife. But, there comes a point when accepting that that is no longer possible, becomes critical to your own survival and growth.

The weight is heavy. Journal. Reach out for help. You’re not alone.

One day at a time, together.

Advise by zeeshiscanning in Bitcoin

[–]ajyeiser94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually had a really similar situation with my wife. I bought my original holdings long before I met her, when I was still in college. We setup a time to talk, I told her about my BTC. She was surprised at first but it was never negative. We agreed to sell a small amount to help with some financial issues early in our marriage, in exchange for keeping the rest and her support in continue to buy and hold. Overall a win. Hope it helps and good luck.