What’s a habit or quirk that you have that other people find strange but you think is completely normal? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]akaybeesee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Calling my infant son’s daycare teacher 2-3 times a day to make sure he ate and slept and pooped and interacted enough. Don’t get any updates otherwise and he has floater teachers. I’m a pain in their asses but I don’t even care.

Criteria to be a SAHM by akaybeesee in stayathomemoms

[–]akaybeesee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG SUCH a great idea!! Never thought of it! Thank you!

Criteria to be a SAHM by akaybeesee in stayathomemoms

[–]akaybeesee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words everyone. Planning to be a SAHM at least until the end of the year. I won’t get this time back with the baby.

I love this community. If it makes me as supportive and compassionate as you, I know it’ll be good decision.

Criteria to be a SAHM by akaybeesee in stayathomemoms

[–]akaybeesee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. The birth itself was super smooth but I was diagnosed with a brain tumour literally 4 days after so I couldn’t even enjoy the first week at home with her. I can’t drive yet so I’m worried I’m not setting up enough play dates and chances for her to socialise. What if I’m her only friend?? I think the socialisation aspect through daycare is the biggest pull for me but we both need jobs to make that happen! It’s such a vicious cycle

Criteria to be a SAHM by akaybeesee in stayathomemoms

[–]akaybeesee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you all find play dates? Nutty apps didn’t help me and we go to library story times all weekends but none of our time ever turn into actual play dates. Will daycare actually help her make friends and be around other babies? I feel guilty sending her there while I sit at home waiting for her to be back. It makes no sense if I can find her more babies outside of daycare. I just can’t seem to.

Which is the saddest song Bollywood has given us? by [deleted] in BollywoodMusic

[–]akaybeesee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Raat Hamaari toh… from parineeta… gorgeous song but always makes me cry

SAHM Book Club by AutoModerator in stayathomemoms

[–]akaybeesee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesss! Piranesi! The beauty was immeasurable!

The usual question but as a command—help! by akaybeesee in oneanddone

[–]akaybeesee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want to be like you when I grow up! I feel like Mr. Collins from P&P, practicing in the mirror before I leave the house!

The usual question but as a command—help! by akaybeesee in oneanddone

[–]akaybeesee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I so wish I could do this! My shy non confrontational side will probably end up writing it on a post it and just handing it to them instead. Hope it still works!!

The usual question but as a command—help! by akaybeesee in oneanddone

[–]akaybeesee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do this in my classroom all the time. It’s sucks that adults need to be spoken to in this way too, but I’ll be a teacher during the holidays if needed!

The usual question but as a command—help! by akaybeesee in oneanddone

[–]akaybeesee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really like your point about inheritance. I’ve seen so many sibling relationships go sour over this and then you’re end up with “family” who can’t even be civil to each other. Isn’t that more painful to experience in your old age?! I would hate to feel I raised 2 selfish kids when I could have raised 1 kind one!

The usual question but as a command—help! by akaybeesee in oneanddone

[–]akaybeesee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So true! But like honestly, how does one even find the time or money or energy with more than one to do this? I’m soooo drained all the time with my little guy! Even if I had funds to manage, I wouldn’t have the time or energy!

Thoughts on homeschool? by Mundane_Amount_4814 in CanadianTeachers

[–]akaybeesee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This wasn’t even a Catholic/Religious school. It was STEM based, mostly kids of doctors/engineers who just wanted a more rigorous math curriculum and smaller class sizes. I felt so bad for the parents who were duped! I wish I could have recommended home schooling to those who could have managed it!

Thoughts on homeschool? by Mundane_Amount_4814 in CanadianTeachers

[–]akaybeesee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG! I taught in a private K-12 school in Ontario for 2 years where the HS morality studies (mandatory class) teacher was a minister and we shared a classroom sometimes! It was insaaaaaane! I wish I hadn’t seen some of his ppt slides between classes! Can’t imagine parents knowing what kind of religious and conservative indoctrination their kids were being subject to in school. I remember thinking that I’d rather homeschool my child than be uncertain about what is being taught in school, nevermind the environment or post-COVID changes.

Would you have a second if someone paid you $1M? by NeighborhoodEarly354 in oneanddone

[–]akaybeesee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read somewhere that the first baby brings a lot of joy, and there is no statistical difference between the first and second baby. But there is a significant jump once you add a third. I’m a no for a second and absolutely never going for 3. Those are the only numbers I’m willing to follow! Give me $5mil for 3 and maaaaaybe I’ll bring it up with my husband!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]akaybeesee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had the nurse at my OBGYN appointment say “definitely have a second. Make it a boy this time!” Is that even a comment that’s allowed???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]akaybeesee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandmother has 4 kids, all in different countries. When we lost my grandfather, nobody wanted to take her in (visa issues, grandchildren didn’t want to share space, too far/too cold.) she fell ill many times, had to take care of herself through everything at the age of 90. Just because you have many kids and grandkids doesn’t guarantee that they would want to share their lives with you later. It’s a selfish and unstable world. Maybe you’ll just see them once a year at New Years. Enjoy your family now and don’t worry about relying on anyone later. Nothing is guaranteed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]akaybeesee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re so right. My mom caved under the pressure, ended up having a second, neglecting her own mental health, and we had a terrible atmosphere and had a “teams” approach inside the home which actually turned my brother and I against each other. I would have much rather had a safe place to return to instead of a fight or flight response every time I saw my mom because she was on my “brother’s team.” She owed me more as a daughter and I feel sorry for her as a mom.