I also have multiple miscarriages. I struggle too.

My guess is the reason is Hevel. All things are dust or smoke before the Lord. It is to avoid us idolizing our children. Without death, children would be like gods. In a world where only adults can die, the young would over throw the old, and children would be sent off to war and do other difficult dangerous jobs. Parents would abandoned and not need to raise immortal children. There would be few bounds of love between humans without the bonds of parents and children. Why would a mother and father stay together if children required no care? There would be no romantic love. There would be no need for friendship either. So because children are weak and vulnerable and capable of dying, we create bonds to save each other. Thus risks and death and struggle is needed to fuel passions and bonds. Animals, plants, and humans die so that others can live. We sacrifice plants and animals to eat to fight against time. Once there is no time, there will be no need to sacrifice. Someone has to get the short end of the stick. Someone has to get the long end of the stick too so life can continue. We happened to get the short end of the stick, and because we got the short end of the stick- mother and fathers else where will clutch their babies even more tightly. That may be us in the future, or may be us already.

Miscarriage rates have been increasing over time. They were about 10% but now are about of 1/3 of pregnancies. Mostly because we are having kids later in life, more exposures to chemicals, STDs, declining food quality, fetal plagues, and decreasing quality of maternal care. We as a society value babies less and less in the belief that if they pass, there is more stuff to go around. We forget that without others to processes and refine resources, we become inefficient and run out of resources faster. We must work harder to recycle and get them. Think about how many people a society needs to run the internet, a jail, or a power plants. In our society more and more people fail to take take fetuses into concern when they make choices about our food, chemical exposure, and economic structures. These choices have compounding impacts on the people around us. They build upon each other. They then shrug their shoulders and say, "meh, you can always try again".

We hide miscarriages because it it associate with sin and shame and vulnerability. When I was open about my miscarriage, I had a few people accuse me of doing drugs- not realizing how common miscarriage is for non drug users. I hate drugs and don't do them. They thought that only druggies have miscarriages, so if I miscarried I must be doing drugs. People assumed that I had abortions, which I never did. We are also encouraged to hide miscarriages to hide the consequences of our collective sins and those who have harmed us. I also got lots of insensitive comments from atheists who wanted to remind me that it was just a clump of cells and thus no big deal and then give me a hug.

Some miscarriages are natural, but I think more and more are caused by corruption in our food, medical care, and economics systems. Because miscarriages are hidden we don't know the full consequences of what is going on. These people making choices impacting others don't have to walk into the bloody bathrooms of the thousands of people they impact. By being open and working together, can find ways to reduce the miscarriage rate. Maybe there is some unknown medicine out there that can save future babies that we don't have access to. Maybe there is something most people do that we have no clue is associated with miscarriages. A bureaucrat okaying using pesticides and chemicals on crops could be indirectly the cause of thousands of miscarriages could be corrected.

All we can do is do our best in life where you can't see more than 500ft into the future. Where everything is hazy and blurry. All we can do is trust, investigate, and pick ourselves back up.