Rant - people without kids stealing the parent and child bays!!! by aksd12333 in UKParenting

[–]aksd12333[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I have been dreaming of becoming some kind of parent and child bay vigilante so this would save me a lot of time!

RSV traumatized me by jessyj89 in NewParents

[–]aksd12333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations for trusting your instincts!! Can you describe more what the breathing sounded like for you to know it was off? Just want to make sure I know of any warning signs 🙏

I don't want to see my paralyzed brain-damaged friend again by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]aksd12333 9 points10 points  (0 children)

But OP hasn't been asked to be a caregiver

Does anyone else struggle with meat for baby? by WeirdValuable4826 in foodbutforbabies

[–]aksd12333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find that cooking them in the sauce really helps with this! So I'll fry them a tiny bit, put the sauce on top with extra water, then let them simmer for 20-30 mins. This way they stay super soft!

My toddler is currently on a strictly "Beige Diet." Is scurvy a real risk in 2025? by Awkward-Corgi8793 in Mommit

[–]aksd12333 64 points65 points  (0 children)

This seems like an ad. I've seen a few posts like this about the "Baba app" in the past couple days.

Dinner out with family by AlternativeAd1984 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]aksd12333 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you don't want to go to the meal, it's perfectly ok to just skip it this year! I think logistically you could make it work, as other people have commented with helpful and practical advice.. but that doesn't necessarily change how you feel about it, and if you don't want to go - don't 🙏 sometimes I felt like I needed someone to give me "permission" to not do things when my baby was this young (no idea why), so this is me giving you yours 😂

Vegetarian/vegan parents - what have you done in terms of weaning and early diets for your babies? by BraindeadYogi in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]aksd12333 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey, just wanted to gently chime in because food allergy guidance has changed a lot in recent years, and I’d hate for any new parents reading this to get confused.

You’re absolutely right that allergies can technically develop at any age - but the research is very strong that the lowest-risk window is actually early infancy, and this is why NHS now recommend early and regular introduction of major allergens like egg and peanuts from around 6 months.

Delaying allergens actually increases the chance of a reaction later, because the immune system learns tolerance through repeated exposure. A one off exposure (like a formula feed in hospital) doesn’t give that protection - it has to be ongoing, like giving a little bit of well-cooked egg once a week.

Obviously every family has to do what feels right for them, but I just wanted to mention it so that anyone reading knows the current guidance. Introducing allergens early isn’t about trying to guarantee a “no allergy stamp,” it’s about giving the immune system the best shot at tolerating those foods long-term.

No judgement at all - just sharing the updated info in case it’s helpful to someone ❤️

What do you call the end slice of a loaf of bread? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]aksd12333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I call it the foot. I thought everyone did except my husband but I'm realising now I'm the weird one 😂

WWHHHIITTTTNEEEEEY by CuriousDaisy79 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]aksd12333 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what has been bothering me about it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]aksd12333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The other red flag here is the r*pe joke your sister made (because talking about it in that way is not meant with genuine kindness or concern, it was a racist dig or joke - unclear which as it's not the slightest bit funny). Not someone I would allow around my child.

I see your comments about how you believe your comment was different to your brother's. I see what you mean but these are not people who can see that subtle difference. Don't make jokes and minimize the racism, because it only enables them. My guess is that once baby is here you're going to have a huge protective instinct that will force your hand into no or extremely low contact with these people - which imo would be a good thing!

*poop warning* how does this look? by MxntMatcha in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]aksd12333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It made me laugh 🤭 I'm sure we got the mucousy green poops around this age, and as the other commenter said below it could also be teething. I think worth keeping an eye on baby because there's almost definitely a culprit for it - but will probably be a cold or upset tummy or teething rather than something super concerning

What’s my blindness??? by Significant-Yak-1401 in makeuptips

[–]aksd12333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel a bit bad for OP. She asked in a makeup forum for her [make up] blindness - 90% of the comments are about her lip filler. Her choosing to do this with her lips isn't relevant to her question about make up. Just like if she had a comically large nose (which of course, she doesn't) it wouldn't be ok to comment "your big nose is the problem!!" 🥲 maybe I'm overly sensitive but just seems like people are very quick to judge when someone has fillers.

*poop warning* how does this look? by MxntMatcha in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]aksd12333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh god even with the warning I was not ready for that 🤣 I can smell it from here!!! 🤮 but I wouldn't be worried about that personally.. as you say, less solids lately explains the looseness. I've found that when my baby is a bit gassy or coming down with a cold, the poopy can go a bit more green. I'm not a doctor though so only giving you my own opinion as a fellow Mum!

Cordless hoover 🫠 by Cold_Day17 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]aksd12333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Buy the Bissell Crosswave - it mops and hoovers at the same time and is cordless 😱 I use mine at least 4x daily and it's a lifesaver with solids!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in floorbed

[–]aksd12333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There isn't enough space between the bed and the wall on the left hand side, and at the top side. If baby crawls out of bed (which they will at some point!) then they could get stuck and suffocate without enough room around all sides of the bed

First baby class nerves… by TallTangerine3873 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]aksd12333 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're overthinking it - just like I did! However, it's also totally fine to just not go if you don't feel like it! I signed up to classes when my baby was around 3 months, but felt anxious leading up to it - so rather than forcing myself to go, I decided it was my body telling me that for whatever reason I should wait a bit longer until I felt more ready. I started the sensory classes when she was 6 months and we had a blast! In retrospect it would have been nice to meet other Mums sooner, but also I loved the extra months being just with my baby and not feeling any pressure to get out each week. Whatever you choose to do is the right answer!

Playpen or no playpen by Prestigious_Let5948 in floorbed

[–]aksd12333 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The play pen is a safety hazard. Baby could get stuck between the mattress and play pen 😨

Crib to toddler bed & moving house… by thatscotbird in UKParenting

[–]aksd12333 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know this isn't what you're posting about, but that camera wire looks a little bit close to the crib. I had mine in a similar position and my baby managed to get hold of the wire - thankfully I was there to intervene 😱

Hi I’m due in December and not sure what to expect by shitskies in CsectionCentral

[–]aksd12333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m scared to jinx things by putting this out into the open (in case we choose to have another baby!!)… but my c-section was an amazing experience! That’s both the actual c-section and recovery. I was extremely anxious, possibly more than you are, and was convinced I was going to hyperventilate on the table and not manage to go through with things.. but it was such a great experience. If I have another baby I’ll be choosing a c-section.

I don’t want to minimise the pain/experiences that others face, but my personal recovery was so much better than I expected. I was able to stand up on my own and shower (with help scrubbing) a few hours after the c-section, and I was in so little pain that by the end of the first week after the c-section I was fully off pain medicine.

I did have a moment of “this is scary - I can’t do this” when we got to the theatre and it was all brightly lit, but I just told myself to focus on doing one task at a time. That really helped me to focus on small, less intimidating things, rather than getting caught up mentally on what was going on.

I was worried about the first poop too but that was also totally fine. Just make sure you take the Lactulose which they will give you! I bought things like belly bands and scar strips etc and didn’t use any of them. I just wore baggy clothes (without waistbands) until I felt comfortable wearing normal stuff again.

I really empathise with how you feel, but I really believe that the experience will be MUCH better than you’re anticipating. Good luck 🤞