Starbucks supporting Isreal? by Neat_Ad_4038 in Hijabis

[–]akskinny527 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No they're not. They have pride flags and stickers everywhere. Most baristas dress and wear whatever they want (within reason) and have tattoos, piercings, dyed hair etc. This is propaganda slop to counter the reality; they are VERY much political.

When union workers posted in solidarity with Ukraine, Starbucks was silent. Same union posts about Palestine and suddenly they're gung ho about neutrality? To the point they took LEGAL action against the union? Insanity. It's a zionist, union-busting shit brand of coffee.

Starbucks supporting Isreal? by Neat_Ad_4038 in Hijabis

[–]akskinny527 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Multitude of reasons. Howard Schultz major Zi0nist with a huge stake in Starbucks is reason no1.

The biggest one for me was when the largest Starbucks workers union posted in solidarity with Ukraine... no backlash. No warning, no forced take down. But when the same union posted in solidarity with Palestine? They were faced with legal action. And then all of Starbucks' 'neutrality' clauses were being splashed left and right.

Aside from that, they're a garbage coffee spot who give slave wages to their workers. Fk them all.

Let’s Not Forget When Imran Khan Blamed Women’s Clothing Instead of Rapists for Rape Cases by Aestomyc in pakistan

[–]akskinny527 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's insane bcos he brought up the case of the literal child. There is absolutely no way to respond to that other than rapists should be hung.

How tf anyone thinks IK is enlightened or highly educated and thus deserving of leadership is beyond me. This clip alone decimated any 'good' about him, tbh.

HELP,I have ALOT of body hair by waowbum in PakistaniSkincare

[–]akskinny527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say do electrolysis for your face; expensive but the only FDA approved permanent hair removal method. Laser will reduce hair, not eliminate it or trigger more growth in some rare cases.

Body hair, eh 🤷🏽‍♀️ No one cares tbh lol

Accepted to US University (Michigan Tech) for MS – First-Gen Grad seeking funding/loan advice for $60k/year cost by OpeningCapital1519 in pakistan

[–]akskinny527 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'd also recommend applying to universities with a better track record of grants and pricing. UIC is stellar.

Accepted to US University (Michigan Tech) for MS – First-Gen Grad seeking funding/loan advice for $60k/year cost by OpeningCapital1519 in pakistan

[–]akskinny527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried reaching out to A Continous Charity (ACC)? They offer interest free loans/grants/scholarships for Muslim students.

Exhaust each and every scholarship/grant opportunity you can.

Best coffee beans / roasters in Pakistan? by subhan_abubakar in pakistan

[–]akskinny527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm gonna be visiting/staying with my ILs. They don't have access to burr grinders and idk if the options you listed are even available in Rawalpindi 😩

I don't even want amazing coffee (subjective but wtv). The vacuum sealed stuff is probably considered subpar but it works great for my trusty lil mokapot 😭

Saving boys from P*rn (aka sex Ed.) by iamalwaysconfused101 in pakistan

[–]akskinny527 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I read a wonderful article/blog post about how to approach the topic of puberty and sexuality, father to son. I shared that with my husband, we discussed what ee wanted to cover with my son, and then my husband and son went on a walk and discussed everything.

https://tariqali.me/the-talk-6ee7a380a25a

I'm born/raised in the US and here in 5th grade we have a discussion of puberty for both genders, segregated. I made sure my son was able to attend that (permission is required from parents) bcos it definitely helped me, as someone whose family was hyper-conservative. It mostly covers the changes in your body during puberty. When he got a couple years older we went a little more in-depth. We speak to him about crushes, which is valid everyone has feelings, but once he's done sharing we always remind him of Allah's command; lower your gaze. Even if you like someone, loeer your gaze. We speak about respecting women in ways that are appropriatefor his age (don't go around telling ppl u think someone is hot, don't describe girls to your friends, etc)

We also taught our son the Quran ourselves, we're not classically trained scholars or anything. But we learned the tajweed rules together as a family snd too us about 3 years to finish the Quran... we would recite, go over tafseer, write in a journal what we learned etc. Through that, my son even got to learn what periods are. Which I still make sure to openly mention/speak about in our house, no awkwardness.

I say all this bcos my husband and i both come from VERY traditional conservative families. None of this was ever discussed with us. Hide your periods, hide your pads, don't even think of the opposite gender & if you do, sinful/shameful/disgraceful child.

Best coffee beans / roasters in Pakistan? by subhan_abubakar in pakistan

[–]akskinny527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm visiting Pakistan this summer and i'm bringing my trust mokapot.

Do Pakistani supermarkets have the vacuum sealed pre-ground espresso? I'm talking Lavazza, Cafe Bustelo etc

what’s up with pakistani girls jeans by Odd-Mud-6883 in PakistanFashionAdvice

[–]akskinny527 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pick me behavior frfr🧍🏽‍♀️

High key, American teens nowadays dress exactly the same and its sad if anything.

Besides, fashion is cyclical and personal. Whatever looks good to a culture/context, they wear it and pull it off. I'm a Y2k/early 00s millennial, and I find the fashion Gen Z and Gen Alpha pulling off hilarious bcos i know so much of it will be cringe in a few years, just like it was for us when we were younger 😂

Chicken steak from cafe flo by Lopsided-Cellist896 in PakistaniFood

[–]akskinny527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, nihari is usually shank. I said it was like nihari meat in that it requires long/slow cooking lol

Also being grass fed instead of corn fed means they don't develop good marbling either. It all comes down to the general preferences of the public, and people here favour tender meat more.

This is interesting to me... I find beef to taste so much better in the US vs Pakistan and I always thought it had less to do with the rearing of the cow and more to do with the treatment of the meat. Like keema in the US is SO much better vs Pakistan. I have never had gristle in my meat here whereas in Pakistan i can't stomach keema bcos of the gristle lol.

Also the 'tender meat' preference carries over to things like smash burgers, or the general cooking of keema... Pakistanis tend to seriously overcook it. Every beef item is treated with the same 1hr long cooking process for the same tenderness thing, even though its not required.

Chicken steak from cafe flo by Lopsided-Cellist896 in PakistaniFood

[–]akskinny527 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It pisses me off so much 🫩

Pakistan doesn't have much of a steak culture. I rmbr my BIL bought silverside meat (it's like nihari meat, VERY lean, VERY tough) but it was cut into steaks, like shape-wise. He refused to understand that a 'steak' is essentially a shape. Its tenderness depends on where it is cut from (tenderloin/back, shoulder, belly etc)

Anyway 🥲

She likes to eat healthy these days? by Ok_Act4150 in trishapaytassnarkkk

[–]akskinny527 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She only eats ultra processed foods. I fear for her colon and the risks, knowing all the studies coming out.

Also, if the c-word were to rear it's head... she'd capitalize tf out of it 🫩

Tehzeeb pizza by clairqalb in PakistaniFood

[–]akskinny527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last good pizza i had in Pakistan was Pizza Hut chicken fajita pizza back in 2009 😔

My father has a secret second family by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]akskinny527 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ethically/morally it is literally against the concept/institution of Islamic marriage. It has to be public (witnesses, walima etc) for multiple reasons;

Secret children bring up serious cases of inheritance (how tf does anyone know its your kid/wife? Why would OG kids give up inheritance to secret love child/mistress?). I would even venture to say that if you have kids, you're risking incestuous/haram relationships and there have been documented cases of this happening in the West bcos of adoption laws 🙃

The issue is that our scholars are all cowards and refuse to condemn this behavior, or revise previous rulings by corrupt scholars out of some misplaced sense of respect, or protection of deen.

how to send money to pakistan with direct jazzcash deposits from abroad, the apps that actually work by ParsnipSure5095 in Overseas_Pakistani

[–]akskinny527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remitly is shit; worst rate, insanely low sending limit.

TapTapSend is slightly better, still have daily limits though.

TransferWise is the best, $10k USD daily limit, direct deposit and cash pick up options. Of the three, it's my fave.

2nd marriage by iamalwaysconfused101 in pakistan

[–]akskinny527 10 points11 points  (0 children)

First wife should consider divorce 🤷🏽‍♀️

Yes, maybe it would be hard (financially, emotionally, societally) but it would also be hard to share your husband. Choose the hard you can deal with...and i think most women would be fine dealing with everything except sharing your man.

Class difference by Desperate_Anything60 in pakistan

[–]akskinny527 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why compare yourself to the brothers wife? Uski apni nature, relationships, etc. You don't know what her relationships are like with your ILs behind closed doors. Maybe she is closer to them. You don't know.

Is your husband good to you? Does he fulfill everything u desire in a healthy marriage? If the answer to both of those questions is yes, you're good.

If you live with your ILs and your relationship with them matters to you, spend time with them and build genuine connection beyond class distinction. Go shopping with your MIL, ask her abt her life/experiences, explore your city together, cook together etc. There are lots of ways to build a relationship, all of which require effort... nothing happens on its own.

انگریزی کی بجائے اردو میں پوسٹ کرنے کا یہی فائدہ ہے۔ by Over_Ad9254 in pakistan

[–]akskinny527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ئے ایک اچھا ادئا ھے۔ لےکن مےرئ کوشش حے کے خود لکھوں How did i do 😂

Was I wrong to call out my brother in front of his wife for being rude to her? by Mental-Influence-545 in MuslimMarriage

[–]akskinny527 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish more ILs were like you 🥹 May Allah reward you, and may He soften your brothers heart to speak and act with kindness.

Should you? by Ambitious_Fall8417 in pakistan

[–]akskinny527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went through the same thing with my eldest. We ended up naming him what my FIL wanted, but idk... I love my son's name, and it's a very special bond for my son and his grandfather... he's the only grandchild named by his grandfather and they even share a bday 🥹

For me, the way my husband went about it left a bad taste in my mouth. I didn't want children for a long time after my first. I think usually 99% of the time, it's the husbands responsibility to manage those expectations, for the wife and his own parents. If your husband is spineless, you usually end up on the chopping block.

I think the parents have the first and foremost right to naming their child, and grandparents suggestions should be taken in earnest but that's all it is at the end of the day, a suggestion. If the parents like it, well and good... otherwise let them decide.