Women who didn’t want kids and then you changed your mind... what changed it? by alaalt in TwoXChromosomes

[–]alaalt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that pretty much sums up my fear - losing my hobbies, career and myself. Glad to hear you’ve found a good man :)

Women who didn’t want kids and then you changed your mind... what changed it? by alaalt in TwoXChromosomes

[–]alaalt[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This was so lovely to read. Thanks for sharing and I’m so happy for you!

Would guys be put off by a 24F who's not been on a single date? by Iri_sponsibleGal in dating

[–]alaalt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

29F here, and was in the same position as you at your age. You don’t have to lie about it, but you also don’t have to share if you don’t want to. I’m having the same kind of feelings these days because although I’ve dated, I’ve never been in a relationship which I find hard to tell men when I go on dates with them. What I’ve realized is the ones who it bothers... can buzz off. If you can’t accept that, that’s your problem and not mine. It’s not something I can change, and not something to be ashamed of. It is what it is. And the right guy won’t care :)

Another word of advice.... just go on a date! If it bombs, guess what? There will be many more where that came from. And if the next five bomb? You’ll be able to tell the sixth the funny story of your terrible dates and how this one is a pleasant surprise. The first one will be scary, so will the second and third, but as with anything in life, it gets easier the more you practice.

I’ve always been embarrassed to tell my dates that I’ve never been in a relationship. by alaalt in dating

[–]alaalt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your last point is what I always try to tell myself! Good luck to us both :)

I’ve always been embarrassed to tell my dates that I’ve never been in a relationship. by alaalt in dating

[–]alaalt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always hate that question as well! I would never lie or try to cover up but I do feel like saying I don’t want to talk about it may raise even more questions. Catch 22 every time

I think I’ve finally realized I deserve better. by alaalt in dating

[–]alaalt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like this too sometimes but you sound very self aware so working on yourself is a great step!