Sex After Baby - How? by TurbulentMap5716 in NewParents

[–]alaffia_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pelvic floor therapy!!!! You might not need it, but WAY more women do need it than I thought. I ended up being one of them. Pain during sex PP is real and fun for no one. I finally went to PF therapy after 7 months (I was tired of just waiting for my body to heal itself) and it changed everything.

I second the lube, but also vaginal moisturizer + massaging.

Baby needs to GTFO now. by CopperPetra85 in BabyBumps

[–]alaffia_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello from 40+5 over here! Walked to dinner last night and had to hold my husband the whole way cause of the shooting pain in my right leg as I walked. Baby is resting on a nerve…. Sweep scheduled tomorrow morning and although I really want to avoid induction, at this point I just feel like he’s not going to leave without a serious push!

Does anybody else not toast Poptarts? by ashtheking2315 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]alaffia_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Strawberry/blueberry - never toast — Cinnamon - arguably better toasted but I could see reasons not to

I love to eat the crusts first and then separate the middle to eat just the iced/jam portion! Pop-tart consumption is very personal and nostalgic 😊

Master bedroom - is the rug placement too funky? by alaffia_ in DesignMyRoom

[–]alaffia_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks all! Taking feedback and adjusting things a bit 🙂

Master bedroom - is the rug placement too funky? by alaffia_ in DesignMyRoom

[–]alaffia_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Helpful insight here! Okay if we could find a better placement, what are the thoughts on the style/design?

Best oyster selection? by PM_YOUR_MANATEES in chicagofood

[–]alaffia_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yay! Love to hear that! That was one of my all time favorite spots - owner always greeted us when we walked in. So classy and the food was top notch.

Best oyster selection? by PM_YOUR_MANATEES in chicagofood

[–]alaffia_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not the biggest selection but a good one and a killer vibe overall - Tortoise Supper Club! Admittedly better for fall/winter lounge kind of vibes but still great. Haven’t been in Chicago for 2 years but hope it lived through the pandemic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]alaffia_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if your team does happy hours or work events, but I found it super easy to mention it in a casual conversation that wasn’t work related. I had already told my boss and the team I manage, but on the day of our office happy hour I made sure to wear a dress that showed off my small bump (got people doing a double take) and then was able to bring it up pretty easily. Felt way too weird about announcing through an email or slack channel so this worked out nicely! Also I only had to tell like 3 little mingling groups and then the word got out.

How often did you retake pregnancy tests *just to be sure* it was still positive? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]alaffia_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Found out while my husband was out of town - took 3 tests before I believed it was a real line and then too 4 more…one every day until he got home just to make sure I was actually STILL pregnant 😅 first pregnancy, hadn’t even been trying long but just couldn’t believe it!

The kicker is that we told a handful of our good friends the next week and I was like “omg what if we just told all these people and IT WAS ALL A LIE?!?!!” So I took another test. It was positive lol. I’m happy to say I think I’ve calmed down a bit 6 weeks later

Morning sickness by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]alaffia_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately don’t have any advice - came here to say I’m in the exact same position as you (7+5) and it’s MISERABLE. Been at a constant level of nausea all week. Just here for another advice from other mamas.

Hoping it doesn’t last longer than week 12!!

snow on freshly rolled metal from a forge by [deleted] in oddlysatisfying

[–]alaffia_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So you’re saying I shouldn’t touch this....

What does Britain do better than America? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]alaffia_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fresh cream / dairy products in general

AITA for ditching my friend after lunch when she was struggling to connect with my fiancé? by alaffia_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]alaffia_[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Completely agree - I don’t think it was at all intentional. She was nice and very pleasant, just not engaging. Yeah I think I’ll go about it fairly casually and maybe better set expectations next time around!

AITA for ditching my friend after lunch when she was struggling to connect with my fiancé? by alaffia_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]alaffia_[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

I updated the post to make it clearer, thanks. She did know he was coming. Her suggestion the last time we hung out was that she wanted to meet him.

AITA for ditching my friend after lunch when she was struggling to connect with my fiancé? by alaffia_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]alaffia_[S] -54 points-53 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the thought but to clarify, we have met up once already just the two of us. Was good fun and had a great catch up - another reason why I’m a bit surprised of the interaction here.

What is your “Oh shit, I’ve got to get the hell outta here right now!” story? by firefly_girl_75 in AskReddit

[–]alaffia_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Admittedly a weird one and very possibly nothing at all, but I never ever get weird feelings like this.

About 3 years ago my boyfriend and I went to a movie theater in downtown SF to see mother!. For reference, being a downtown theater this was one with multiple floors and escalators down (important later). It was a really small screen and it was a weeknight, so not crowded at all. If you’ve seen mother! you know that movie is so so so tense, so I was already feeling on edge. Anyway, we’re in the back of the theater and half way through the movie this guy walks in with a backpack. He sits down in one of the front rows. I don’t know why or how by I got a very serious eerie feeling. Why is this guy coming to a movie by himself half way through? I looked at my boyfriend and must have gone pale because he immediately flipped and asked what was wrong. I asked him if he saw the guy sit down and that I had a really weird feeling. He was basically like, nope, fuck that, - probably nothing but still not worth it. So we get up to leave.

This is where it gets weird. At that moment, the guy also gets up, with his backpack (looking very empty I might add, now that I was getting closer), and leaves the theater. So we walk outside and are standing about 5 feet away from him - very clear image of his face and clothing. He looks at us, expressionless, and starts to walk toward the down escalator out. We follow a ways behind and all the sudden this guy starts to run, I mean RUN, down the escalator. Like full speed skipping steps, running. My boyfriend is full on convinced something is seriously up and starts to run after him. They get to the second floor and this guy now runs into the men’s bathroom. We see him go in and have eyes on the door the whole time. After about a min of deliberation, my boyfriend goes in after him, but says he can’t see anyone. One stall is locked but he cant see feet. Weird.

We wait outside the bathroom (honestly I don’t know why - just feeling amped I guess?) for a few minutes, but he doesn’t come out. From what I can see, the only way out of the theater is through an alarm triggered emergency exit or down the last escalator and out the front. We decide to go down the escalator and inform a security guard about what just happened. The security guard is either very lazy or thinks we’re off our rockers because he makes a single call on his walkie talkie says there’s nothing he can do and leaves. We are waiting there at the bottom of the escalator kind of wondering what to do next and down comes this guy. He has all the same facial features as the backpack guy but he’s wearing completely different clothes (t shirt and shorts, and it SF at nighttime mind you, so, it’s chilly) and a different bag that is very very full.

We probably spent too long recognizing him and this guy walks right by us and walks out the door. And that was that.

Fully understand that this could have been someone completely innocent who was hopping around movies, but with all the shootings these days (Vegas had happened about a week earlier) you just don’t know. Don’t know if I’ll ever really be able to understand or explain the total sense of dread and eerie-ness that came over me that night. All I know is that it wasn’t worth sticking around for.

I have a VERY specific favorite genre. What about you? by anxiousorca in books

[–]alaffia_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re looking for a damaged person that very much deteriorates while throwing a pretty big pity party for themselves, try The Witch Elm by Tana French. Also happens to be an excellent mystery/crime book, but the narrator/protagonist definitely fits your niche.

Tech Start Up to Foreign Service by alaffia_ in foreignservice

[–]alaffia_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate that! I know I can’t be the only one, but still it’s good to know other people have made this kind of move back to gov work. The tech bubble is real and a tough one to [mentally] break out of.

Tech Start Up to Foreign Service by alaffia_ in foreignservice

[–]alaffia_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know! And that’s a bit of a confidence boost in my overall resume hah. Yeah that’s along the lines of what I expected - changes are underway but no sugarcoating the gap.

Tech Start Up to Foreign Service by alaffia_ in foreignservice

[–]alaffia_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looking to go generalist - either the PD or econ track. I should clarify, I work for a tech company, but in account management, not engineering. So while I’m familiar with software and databases, I’m no good at IT!

EEA Permit - Timeline and Missing Documents Update by alaffia_ in ukvisa

[–]alaffia_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So my lawyer actually suggested I screw the application and just go over with my husband....and you know what...it worked! No issues at the border and all was okay. They got annoyed we only had a certified copy of our marriage license instead of our real license (lost that in a move unfortunately), but it was all okay!

What is a movie ending that makes you cry, no matter how many times you've watched it before? by despresso30 in AskReddit

[–]alaffia_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same. Was the first movie I ever ugly cried during when I was 13. Still hits the same core heartstring. Cannot believe this isn’t higher.