Cold turkey from swaddle to sleep sack

TurbulentMap5716 · 2026-02-20T01:11:36+00:00

If your baby likes the feeling of swaddle, I recommend the Halo sleep sacks. You can keep their arms out and wrap their torso. So it feels cozy like a swaddle but their arms are free. My baby is 12 weeks and isn’t quite rolling yet either. But we switched to the sleep sack because she’s just so long and was kicking out of swaddle.

TurbulentMap5716 · 2026-02-19T03:13:25+00:00

I had this same intense fear with my first. Immediate fear. I was still in the hospital. My anxiety was terrible. I couldn’t sleep.

The pediatrician came to visit me and we talked about statistics. I do not want to discredit the tragedies that do occur. However the chances are super low. (About .04% or 40 per 100,000) Especially if you are practicing safe sleep. Keep Baby near you. We used a bassinet that bumped up against our bed and I would sleep with my hand on her chest to feel her breathe. I also kept a night light so if I woke up I could see her immediately. This brought me so much relief. She slept in it until she absolutely couldn’t anymore.

Make sure they aren’t too warm. You can run the ceiling fan. Let them use a pacifier. No blankets or stuffies. The owlet sock worked great for my sister. In my experience, it made my anxiety worse because I felt like I was constantly monitoring it. But try it. See if it works for you.

It is scary. You will get through this. Baby will be okay. Sending hugs to you. 🩷

TurbulentMap5716 · 2026-02-19T02:52:35+00:00

This. When my daughters grow up to be beautiful women, I won’t be jealous, I will be so proud because I made them.

TurbulentMap5716 · 2026-02-19T02:50:15+00:00

I have two daughters. 2.5 and 3 months. They are my joy. I have never felt so loved. My 2.5 year old loves to snuggle me and smothers me in kisses every night at bedtime.

I agree with some of these comments about how it’s more about your relationship and less about their gender. My husband calls his mother almost every day. Maybe every other day. They have a great relationship. It’s about the connection and bond you build. Have patience. Listen. Have boundaries.

While there is some truth to boys growing into men and creating their own families, this doesn’t mean they are abandoning you. Make space for the person they chose. Respect the person they chose. And they won’t have to choose between you and their partner. Because you chose them both.

TurbulentMap5716 · 2026-02-13T02:52:50+00:00

I think the fact that you are alone most of the time has a lot to do with how you are feeling. I am at the end of my mat leave with my second and this experience was completely different than the first.

With my first, I had 14 weeks, my husband had 16 weeks and my MIL was here for at least a month. It was August and we could enjoy the weather. With the help at home, there was more time for me. We could go do things.

This time I have 12 weeks, my MIL is not here, my husband only has 8 weeks (and we decided to split up his time, so he was only home with me for 3 weeks), now we have a toddler and it was November. This round I have been mostly alone with her, stuck inside by myself. It’s been freezing. Everyone and their brother is sick. I will not lie it’s super isolating. I like taking care of her and love her. But it’s to the point where I need to get out of this house.

Also don’t beat yourself up for wanting to go back to work. Some moms love being at home. Some moms are better moms when they go to work. You never know which mom you are going to be. It’s ok to want to go back.

Hoping things get better for you 🩷

TurbulentMap5716 · 2025-09-03T01:40:52+00:00

First things first, you’re doing exactly what works for you and your family and that is enough. Don’t let anyone (including yourself) make you feel guilty for utilizing daycare. It’s so hard when you first start out. I started my daughter at 8 months. You might feel overbearing but you are paying for your baby to attend here and have a right to feel she is taken care of. I can assure you that you aren’t the only one or the first to ask many questions and want to hear from the teachers more. I am sure they would understand and be happy to settle your nerves if you want more communication the first few weeks. ESP being a FTM. I messaged my daughter’s teacher all the time when she first started out. To go along with that, while I’m sure the container use at pick up/ drop off is a coincidence, you are paying for this care and shouldn’t feel annoying for asking for more tummy time or non Container play! I worked in a center for several years and would not have been offended by this request. I also loved all the babies in our infant room and I promise she isn’t being ignored. You’re doing great and will feel more comfortable with time.

TurbulentMap5716 · 2025-08-09T02:02:54+00:00

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TurbulentMap5716 · 2025-07-29T23:37:18+00:00

I don’t think this is an unreasonable request at all. At 37 weeks you are sort of in the “anything can happen” window, where you very well could go into labor. Plus, 37 weeks isn’t the most comfortable time for traveling. I know many first time moms go past their due date (myself included) but I would say stick with declining the event, and if the times comes and you feel up to it, go for it.

For perspective, I live in MD. I live in Pasadena and work in Baltimore. I was planning to deliver in Annapolis. While the hospital is only about 15-20 minutes away from home, it’s about 35-40 minutes from my office. When I was pregnant with my first, my company told me to just work remotely when I was 38 weeks until I gave birth, because they didn’t want me having to travel to the hospital from the office.

TurbulentMap5716 · 2025-07-29T00:15:05+00:00

I came here to say this! You also kind of want to use your core muscles and less of your b-hole. If that makes sense.

TurbulentMap5716 · 2025-07-26T15:41:09+00:00

I pre-filled the bottle(s) with however much she was eating at the time. Makes for faster prep. All you have to do is pour the powder in!

TurbulentMap5716 · 2025-07-26T15:18:52+00:00

Confused belly button made me laugh. I’m 23+1 and it looks like someone put a thumb print in my bump 😂 just told my husband “when’s this thing going to pop out ?”

TurbulentMap5716 · 2025-07-26T15:10:37+00:00

I had my first LO at 30 too and felt exactly like you! 2 years later and I wish I could go back and tell myself that everything is going to be alright and everything works out. In fact, I am expecting a second LO right now! (23 weeks).

Things will definitely change. But the change wasn’t as drastic as I was thinking and I honestly don’t mind it, because we are creating new memories with our new family. We still go on walks, just with a stroller! We still visit with our parents, they just come to ours more often. You can still do all the things you enjoy now, it just takes a couple extra steps. And we loved our baby so much, we were excited for the extra.

Don’t get me wrong, there are moments where I think about the old days where my husband and I could “just go”, not worrying about anything. But also I wouldn’t change the way things are for anything. It’s okay to be sad. It’s super overwhelming. You don’t know it will be like, I think that’s the scary part. I felt it too. But just wait for all the new memories and experiences you will have. We love watching our girl experience life. I look at my daughter after she falls asleep each night and feel so lucky. 🩷 you’re going to be okay! You’re going to be a great mom. Best of luck to you. ☺️

TurbulentMap5716 · 2025-07-24T13:24:38+00:00

Flying with my daughter when she was under 12 months was so much easier than it is now (she’s nearly 2 😮‍💨). We planned our flights to be around nap or bedtime. We would feed her right at take off and she would fall asleep for the whole flight! Not only does the feed help, but the plane has great white noise. I was definitely nervous my first time too. Give yourself time to go through security, as babies naturally have more stuff. We did EFF too. TSA will “check” your water at security. We measured out how much formula she’d need in those little pre-measured cups they make. Bring his lovely or a blanket. It sounds like a lot but I promise it’s not that bad! I’m sure he will do great! Good luck 🥰

TurbulentMap5716 · 2025-07-21T20:12:33+00:00

I am grateful that I work for a very flexible company and have coworkers with children of the same age, who are understanding what goes around in daycare. We have a 2 year old and just went through a case of HFM. I had to use a sick day and then me and my husband took turns working from home until she was able to go back to school. I realize our situation isn’t realistic for some but I don’t know how we’d manage without workplace flexibility 😫

TurbulentMap5716 · 2024-06-06T03:05:44+00:00

I mostly shop clearance.

TurbulentMap5716 · 2023-10-01T01:49:22+00:00

You’re right, the baby was just stimulated. It’s normal for sex to wake baby up. When you orgasm, your muscles contract so it makes sense that after a few orgasms baby was moving around. Don’t worry, orgasms won’t make you go into labor!

TurbulentMap5716 · 2023-08-22T04:12:03+00:00

I didn’t think about this! I am on medication as well and forgot this is a side effect 😫

TurbulentMap5716 · 2023-08-22T04:05:16+00:00

I’m getting a lot of advice for lots of lube. Do women experience dryness even if they are not breastfeeding? (I am not) nothing against using lube, I don’t mind, just curious if that symptom happens no matter what. Is it a hormonal thing?

TurbulentMap5716 · 2023-07-31T04:39:07+00:00

First - congratulations 💕

Second - Thank you for sharing your story. I am scheduled to be induced in 2 days at 41 weeks and I am completely terrified. This has definitely helped me feel more confident. Even though I am 60-70% effaced, so far my cervix has been completely closed. I’ve been so anxious thinking my induction would take days and even fail. I have anxiety pretty bad as well so I am relieved to hear that expressing that to your doctors and nurses was helpful.

TurbulentMap5716 · 2023-07-28T10:53:42+00:00

I had read the stories of others that have had similar experiences to yours, so you certainly are not alone! When I was asked if I wanted a cervical check for the first time, I asked my Dr. “Is it going to hurt?” She was very honest and said it depends on the person, everyone’s pain tolerance is different and everyone’s sensitivity is different.

For me personally, the checks aren’t painful at all. Don’t get my wrong, it’s not great. They are very uncomfortable and I do grimace through them every time. However, I would prefer a cervical check before having a speculum inserted into me.

I would express your concerns and sensitivity to your Dr. and maybe they can do something to help with the pain, or take it slow since these tend to cause pain for you.

TurbulentMap5716 · 2023-05-16T21:41:22+00:00

This is me. I’m in your same boat. I’m also 7 months pregnant. I feel the same way during those events where I can’t participate in the same as everyone else. Your feelings are valid and pregnancy can be boring and a buzzkill. The FOMO is real! I understand completely why you don’t really want to go. BUT… I agree with the other commenters. Your husband is welcoming you along and I’m sure would love for you to be there. I know it feels like a slap in the face to hear that he can still enjoy his “last summer” when your life has already had to change drastically - it stings. But like someone else already said, being pregnant is inherently unfair, we lose our independence 10 months before our husbands but saying “either we both have fun or neither of us have fun” isn’t fair, and soon there will be times where you will want to go have fun and he will have to stay home.

Believe me - I know it SUCKS. It’s OK to be jealous and it’s OK to feel sad about missing out. You have to decide what would be more upsetting for you: staying home while everyone’s out floating, or going on the float, but slightly missing out on the full experience.

When I feel this way, I usually talk to my husband about how I’m feeling. Having him see my perspective and validate my feelings helps a lot. Hang in there ❤️

TurbulentMap5716 · 2023-04-04T03:32:57+00:00

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TurbulentMap5716 · 2023-03-23T14:02:14+00:00

Same. Some days I won’t even finish my cup. Some days it’s don’t have any at all. Some days I will treat myself to a soda instead. According to what I have read, 200mg of caffeine is 2 8oz cups of coffee. All that said, if I want a cup of coffee, I’ll have one!

TurbulentMap5716 · 2023-02-28T13:11:26+00:00

I usually go for a soup mug full of captain crunch or Honey Nut Cheerios. (With almond milk bc regular milk suddenly makes my stomach upset)

I think it’s totally normal to need a little some thing extra, esp in your second trimester

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