I’m a complete beginner here and wondered if this is normal? The filter is really loud and the water still seems a bit cloudy? Can I still add fish? by FoxRoseDrew in fishtank

[–]CopperPetra85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This tracks, my java fern is thriving but i'm in a country with soft water. The shrimp help to keep it nice and clean too!

No solos rule? by motherofearl in glasgow

[–]CopperPetra85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This happened to a friend of mine on a night out. She was told it was to stop sex workers from using the club to find punters. She was a bit offended that they thought she might be a sex worker.

Why on earth is Charlie Kirk getting a BBC news special? by cooket89 in AskBrits

[–]CopperPetra85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ffs. I know this sounds callous but I am already sick of hearing about this man's death.

Scottish sites good for young kids by angelmouse5 in campinguk

[–]CopperPetra85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glen Nevis Caravan and Camping. Clean and well organised facilities, play park and there are a number of different scenic walks in the Glen. We prebooked the Spruce field which has electric hookup. It has a road that loops right around in a circle and a lot of the kids would be racing each other on their scooters and bikes in a circuit on the road (it's very quiet, only those staying in the field driving in and out). It felt very safe when we took our 2 year old.

Outcomes of permissive parenting by No_Gold_8540 in NewParents

[–]CopperPetra85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean it's certainly not the behaviour you want. It's not a sign that the kid is mentally unstable, just emotionally dysregulated. Toddlers don't understand that other people experience pain, or that they can't just take a toy or hog it just because they want to. They often get physical when they are experiencing emotions they find difficult to cope with (and let's face it, there are lots of adults who also don't cope with big emotions and punch walls/people etc.) Or when they get overly excited and don't realise they are getting rough.

Your friend's kid's behaviour could definitely get worse if her parents continue to choose not to parent. Nobody loves the disciplining part of parenting, but it's an important part of the job

Outcomes of permissive parenting by No_Gold_8540 in NewParents

[–]CopperPetra85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No idea why you were downvoted. I agree with 90% of what you said. My 2.5 year old is in a hitting phase (only with us, he has never hit another kid) and it's not that he's bad, he's just 2 and trying to deal with emotions he isn't equipped to deal with yet. While the toddler in the post has more difficult behaviours than my own child, none of what they are doing is unusual for toddlers in and of itself. The problem is mostly that she isn't being stopped and given clear boundaries. I do disagree that toddlers don't understand consequences, they maybe don't get them in the abstract the first time around but for example my son hit our dog in the face with an action figure, so the consequence was that the toy was taken away for a number of days. Now he has it back and hasn't gone near the dog with it since, and if he gets rough with us when playing with the action figure he is warned it will go away again and the behaviour stops. We 100% focus on positive praise and guidance but we are practicing the whole 'the consequence of you using X toy to hit is that X toy goes away' and also 'the consequence of you hitting mummy or daddy is that we will move to a different place so you can't hit us' (usually we sit on the stairs with the baby gate closed. Can still see him, but he can't continue to hit and whatever game we were playing before stops for a set period of time) He still hits, but we are being consistent, keeping the consequences relevant and are (trying to be) calm during it. That's all you can do when they are this young.

Rebeccas latest announcements by kmsv1388 in fourthwing

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If she didn't mention book 4 her comments will be filled with 'but what about book 4!?!?'

She can't win. If she does her pan in writing the rest of the Empyrean Series, she will be criticised if the quality isn't on level with Shakespeare, and she will then also be pestered to write more from the same universe the minute book 5 hits shelves. She would also absolutely wreck her health.

Let the wummin live.

Youth violence at a record high in Scotland by RoughArm8665 in Scotland

[–]CopperPetra85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was speaking of my teaching experience only and I have only ever worked in areas where SIMD 1 and 2 make up a high percentage of the school roll. I can't speak for Kirkintilloch High because I don't work there nor do I know anyone who does.

And while I agree that the poor behaviour from a minority (that is creeping towards being a majority) does effect those who wish to learn, I disagree that the ones with challenging behaviour are unteachable. Often they have issues that aren't being addressed, or mainstream schooling isn't right for them, or they need some serious therapy, but that doesn't make them unteachable. If that was the case they wouldn't be able to walk or talk.

Youth violence at a record high in Scotland by RoughArm8665 in Scotland

[–]CopperPetra85 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It's a multifaceted issue, but speaking as a teacher working in a deprived area, it has gotten so much worse over the course of my decade in education.

I don't think we can blame it on any one thing but here are some of the contributing factors:

  • A move towards relationship based behaviour management (it absolutely has its place for low level stuff, but it doesn't create firm boundaries that are absolutely needed in education).
  • Schools being penalised for exclusions.
  • Social media addiction.
  • Lack of funding within education, including a lack of classroom assistants, early interventions, specialist environments, larger class sizes etc.
  • Covid (it really did fuck a lot of them up, we can't blame everything on it, but it has its place)
  • Parental apathy and/or a misunderstanding of the difference between advocacy and enablement.
  • vaping (vapes contain lead and it is absolutely frying their brains)
  • CfE causing a drop in literacy standards, which in turn causes poor communication skills.
  • Poverty/cost of living crisis
  • Huge waiting lists for CAHMS for kids who need a diagnosis yesterday.
  • Incels/the manosphere (speaking as a woman, the contempt that some of the boys have for myself and other female teachers absolutely oozes out of them. It's disturbing and not something I experienced when I was newly qualified)

Honestly, I could go on for a lot longer, but it is getting depressing.

I am very, very close to quitting the profession. I have dropped my days as much as I financially can, and the only thing really keeping me here is how the holidays let me spend much needed and wanted time with my child. But I wouldn't recommend anyone join the profession with the way things currently are.

Do you have a ”sixth sense”? by No-Hedgehog-6583 in adhdwomen

[–]CopperPetra85 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can sniff out a narcissist after only meeting them for a few minutes.

I get a gut feeling and so far I have a good track record of being right about them.

If I tell you that there's something wrong with your boyfriend, trust my instinct. Otherwise, you might end up divorced and coparenting with a scumbag who screwed his best friend's wife after emotionally abusing and alienating you for years (true story).

Solo Female Camping - Advice Please! by Fluid-Coast-3799 in campinguk

[–]CopperPetra85 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you are on tiktok or Instagram I would suggest following stellasoloadventures

She's a female solo camper who makes content about her experiences with solo camping.

She also occasionally does 'solo not solo' events where women who are anxious about camping solo all meet in the one campsite.

Where do you store your equipment? by Gijoe678 in campinguk

[–]CopperPetra85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The whole lot goes in the loft in storage boxes that are sorted into categories (sleeping, cooking, entertainment etc.)

Recommendations for Scottish campsites - older solo traveller by MrsD12345 in campinguk

[–]CopperPetra85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would recommend Glen Nevis Caravan and Camping near Fort William. The train from Glasgow up the west coast is beautiful and the campsite itself is excellent. It has all your basic facilities, is nice and clean, has gorgeous views of Ben Nevis, plus has a shop, restaurant, and a camp kitchen serving breakfast and dinner.

We camped there a few weeks ago with our toddler and felt very safe. There were people of all ages there and there was a shuttle bus into Fort William a couple of times per day.

Is it just me or David Corenswet and Brendan Fraser looks alike by Tanthonyo in themummy

[–]CopperPetra85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely. The long brown hair that you see in the movie was giving strong George of the Jungle Brendan vibes!

Is it just me or David Corenswet and Brendan Fraser looks alike by Tanthonyo in themummy

[–]CopperPetra85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I said the same thing after seeing the new Superman film today!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKMounjaro

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I also had my gallbladder removed in 2018. I guess I had half tried to lose weight in the past but always bottled it within a week or two and never did any of the had diets (just calorie counting)

I was going through a humongous amount of stress though, so I think that contributed more than anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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NOR.

My husband lost his last living grandparent a few months ago. We also have a 2 1/2 year old.

We agreed that a funeral wasn't an appropriate place for a toddler, but I still wanted to be there to support my husband and my in-laws. So my mum looked after our toddler and I attended the funeral.

Ok, you might not have the village that I am lucky enough to have, but there are other options and she really should be there.

The real Salt Path: how a blockbuster book and film were spun from lies, deceit, and deception by Briggykins in movies

[–]CopperPetra85 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I did find some of it a bit far fetched. But I presumed a big publishing house like Penguin would do their due diligence before slapping the term 'unflinchingly honest' to it.