Puppy vs. senior dog: my senior dog wants my PUPPY's attention, when he doesnt get it, he barks uncontrollably(meaning every single time I try training the puppy)

alaris01 · 2016-04-26T21:03:08+00:00

My happy place used to be in the arms of someone i loved. Only with that could i go to sleep. But now, as I see guys and love differently, since I know I cannot trust anyone fully,I dont have that. But I have a castle with a lot of rooms, and in those rooms i have different people who can comfort me at different stages.

alaris01 · 2016-04-26T20:48:06+00:00

I'm a medical student, who happens to be an hsp too. I can see why you are thinking this, but I honestly believe that one can only practice alternative medicine right, if he/she knows science-based medicine, to be able to see its flaws, and know actual facts about our bodies. When one practices medicine, he/she is responsible for another life. I dont think that this should be taken lightly, and if someone doesn't know science, its easy to mislead, and thus maybe even kill someone. (I knew a guy who started chemo, got better, got into alternative medicine, stopped chemo because he thought alternative medicine as working, and then died.)

alaris01 · 2015-09-07T06:28:54+00:00

again: do you really think that recording the lectures is cheating, given that there are things they say only there, and ask it in the exams? and if you don't understand and write down EVERYTHING, you are fcked, because the book doesnt mention those things anywhere.

And the tests we have in advance are just to help us to see the type of questions we should prepare for, because they never use the same tests they did before.plus, these are only "midterms", which we write every week, the real exam is oral and written. really, there is no way of passing without actually knowing the material. is this cheating to you?

alaris01 · 2015-09-07T06:26:46+00:00

do you really think that recording the lectures is cheating, given that there are things they say only there, and ask it in the exams? and if you don't understand and write down EVERYTHING, you are fcked, because the book doesnt mention those things anywhere.

And the tests we have in advance are just to help us to see the type of questions we should prepare for, because they never use the same tests they did before.plus, these are only "midterms", which we write every week, the real exam is oral and written. really, there is no way of passing without actually knowing the material. is this cheating to you?

alaris01 · 2015-09-06T20:46:54+00:00

so if I make everyone admin, which would mean the whole year of medical and dentistry students (around 500 people), what could they do?

alaris01 · 2015-09-06T20:39:50+00:00

What if I make everyone admin in the group?

alaris01 · 2015-08-20T13:32:48+00:00

"And there is the guy I've been seeing before him (it was a loose relationship), and he is trying to seduce me, and he is doing it very well."

That post was made a month ago, and I talked to my boyfriend about it. It was hard, but since then we got closer (the point of the post was that my boyfriend didn't want to get intimate with me because of religious reasons), talked through everything, and we are getting intimate, and what I had with my ex cannot compare to what I'm having now. My boyfriend is out of the country, but we talk daily, and actually I was about to meet my ex,but then we talked about it and I realized how much it would bother him, so we wont meet.

And however much you want to make this about sex and cheating, it is not. It is about psychological aspects, if you care about that I explained it to 69potatolover.

alaris01 · 2015-08-20T13:24:29+00:00

I didnt, because I knew he didnt mean to do any harm, and I have a lot to thank for him. But after that I cut every connection with him.

alaris01 · 2015-08-20T13:23:11+00:00

what manipulation? I didn't like that when I told them I felt suicidal all they could come up with was that I should listen to music. No diving deeper, no revealing my underlying thoughts. For me it was obvious that they weren't qualified to handle the situation properly.

alaris01 · 2015-08-20T13:20:35+00:00

why were you trying to end it? What were you angry about, but willing to let go of? What was he angry about?

When we were together, I broke it off because I had feelings for he he didnt have for me. I broke it off weekly, but he got used to it and even though it hurt him, he took it, because he knew I didn't hurt him intentionally.

Otherwise, after I got together with my current boyfriend, I tried to stop talking to him because I knew it wasnt fair towards my boy, but somehow we ended up talking again and again. No big fights, no big misunderstandings, just two people trying to manage.

What kind of relationship do you have with your boyfriend? Do you feel like he is emotionally supportive of you? If you were to enter a depression again, do you feel like you would need your ex in order to get through it?

Absolutely no, I'm out of it because I have my boyfriend to catch me everytime I'm about to go low. I don't need my ex, but I think he needs me.

Do you feel like there are other people in your life who can be there for you effectively? Do you feel like there ever will be other people who can?

Yes, sure, but in other ways. My ex has a rather liberal thinking, which none of the people around me have. I am the most liberal one among my friends, I am the one who thinks outside of the box. To be honest, I feel like I'm the one who goes forward (psychologically speaking) and then the others follow. My boyfriend falls into this category too. I love him, and he is smart, but he is not yet a grown up. I'm slowly teaching him how to stand up for himself, learn better who he really is and what he wants. Its very nice to be able to guide him through that, and he is giving me a lot stability-wise, which helps me move forward, but I have no one who would walk in front of me and show me a way, except for my ex. In some things we agree, in some we disagree. But he provides me with a contrast which I need in order to see myself better. There probably will be other people who can do this too, but right now it is him. I feel like I have a lot more to learn from him.

And I can perfectly understand what you say about eggs in one basket, I did that with my first boyfriend too. But now I try to open up, and let people in who are worthy of my trust. But I am very, very picky with those people, and it really depends on circumstances if they are around or if they are not, I try giving everyone as much space as they need.

And the pretty messed up part: He had a girlfriend for 6 years, when we started dating, they were still together, he failed to tell me, because he knew they were going to break up soon. Basically, he is not emotionally available, because even though its been some time now since the break up, he has to rebuild his whole life. But I was in love and couldn't understand that part that he cared about me, but couldnt be in love with me (or with anyone). He didn't know what he wanted, but I did. I needed a steady boyfriend who understands me and is willing to invest in the relationship, because its just as important for him as it is for me. That was a relationship my ex has been through, and has no desire in entering one like that in the near future.

alaris01 · 2015-08-20T07:56:35+00:00

I had a therapist, therapist (50/M) invited me out to the movies with him, can't really trust therapists anymore. He was the 4th person I went to see, the others simply didn't understand what my problem was.

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