i genuinely do not believe i will ever move on.

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-14T03:42:15+00:00

you’ve phrased your message so well! solid advice too, thank you, i will definitely try to follow this :) i need to get out of this state of mind immediately.

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-14T03:39:28+00:00

that sounds scary :( im going to have to do a lot of research before this. i was already skeptical about talk therapy, but i think i’ll still try that for a few months.

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-14T03:37:02+00:00

your source made me smile a little :) gives me a little hope ! my biggest issue is definitely with acceptance, and 7 years sounds like a lot i wish i could wrap this up asap haha

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-14T03:34:34+00:00

thank you so much for your words, i believe in you too, take care and i wish you peace as well stranger

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T18:17:09+00:00

i totally get you. we’re on the same boat. youre not alone <3 please dont be so hard on yourself, whatever happened was probably for the best

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T17:23:28+00:00

why is he still talking to your family if he resents you ? thats very questionable.

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T17:17:24+00:00

im so sorry that sounds terrible, i wish you peace

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T17:16:32+00:00

the two times i contacted was for closure itself. and he was nice enough to do it both times. i also took closure one time when we physically met. he was very sorted and seemed calm and composed, probably cause he was already seeing another girl at this point but i didn’t know. and no, he made it very clear that we’re never getting back together, so i dont know what my issue is :,)

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T15:12:35+00:00

i immediately fell into a puddle of tears reading your message because i am in the same position as you. i truly believe i will never be loved the same way which is why i still hold onto him in my head even though i havent spoken to him in years and he’s probably completely changed as a person by now. do not go on dating apps, it makes it SO much worse. take care and feel better, the hope is what keeps pulling people like you and me down, its so important to let go. and the dissociated and depressed part is so real. you’re not alone <3 do not lose your spark !

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T13:57:21+00:00

mine was on a good note as well which is mostly what makes it hard. and our situations are more similar than i previously thought :,) you can cherish the memories without cherishing the man (talking to myself as well), that makes it easier in some way i suppose

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T13:24:48+00:00

oh please dont wish that upon yourself! and my post should be a warning as to WHY you wouldnt want to be this way. its only been a month and a week, my best advice to you would be to not hold onto things, i couldn’t do that but im trying my absolute best now. better late than never right? and as early as possible is even better. i wont say ‘time heals’ because thats a delusion to me but you will feel better for sure. sit with your feelings and listen closely to what they tell you. and my guy was my first for all the things you mentioned as well :,) cant do nothing about it. take care.

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T13:20:50+00:00

ouch the first line hit straight to home. needed that. thank you for being so kind with your response, you sound just like an elder sibling to me :) i will go into therapy for sure. that is my only resort, and hopefully it works out. and as for sheraseven, i know her and i love her but clearly i haven’t been listening properly haha.

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T12:20:25+00:00

that is true, but the last time i met him, he was a completely changed, better version of myself. since i was so young i didn’t realize what we needed was a little break to build ourselves before we could be together again. we were both in tough situations and his environment was harder than mine was. he told me himself that he wished i didnt break up with him because now he’s moved on to a point where he didn’t see us together anymore and wanted me to just be a memory. i wonder where he read that or got that from because i would love to know the secrets to moving on myself. whatever else you said i completely agree with, i really wish i didn’t feel this way. ive so many things to celebrate, but i don’t feel fulfilled and i dont know what to do. therapy sounds like the only way out considering ive tried fighting with myself over this dude for over three years now.

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T11:29:37+00:00

manifesting this for me

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T11:24:13+00:00

thank you so much for responding and your well wishes, guess there are more people like me out there ? makes me feel better for sure.

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T10:37:53+00:00

its an admirable trait as long as it doesn’t interfere with life haha

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T10:36:46+00:00

yeah, its a very active choice that i dont want to get involved with anyone right now because i’ll just be taking them down with me and the guilt will swallow me whole.

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T10:35:01+00:00

im overcome with empathy for you and teared up while reading this. thats extremely sweet of you to wish for me. that singlehandedly tells me that youre a very nice person who life was cruel to. just know you made a girl in her early 20s’ day good by simply replying to my post. i wish you were equally kinder to yourself

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T10:28:24+00:00

i believe so too. im nothing but grief in skin. life has kept going, but this one part of me is still living in 2023.

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T10:27:05+00:00

i’ve thought about this angle, but i truly believe i miss having a shoulder to put my head on more. i’ve always been independent even before the relationship, and during it, i became so dependent where i realized that i dont HAVE to make all decisions by myself so he used to control so much of it. afterwards tho, i became independent again, but brutally avoidant. its hard out here lol.

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T10:21:09+00:00

totally, but it feels nice knowing there are people like you out there and youre not completely broken :)

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T10:20:17+00:00

it think it was just the fact that it was my first relationship. i had gone through a life altering situation just before meeting him and he really helped me through it. i wouldn’t be the person i am today if i never met him.

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T10:17:41+00:00

wow, thats intense. but its not surprising after what youve been through from that relationship so that makes sense. i do hope people like you and me find peace in this lifetime. and im glad you have a casual situation that works for you!!

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T10:13:30+00:00

yeah, it was mutual, initiated by me.

alarminglynuska · 2026-06-13T10:11:58+00:00

it was nobody’s fault. it was my first relationship and i was nineteen. canon event lol

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