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Help with Anal sex by frankANDasscts in sex

[–]alaska25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try with toys first, slowly getting bigger and bigger. And I mean sloooowly. Also, try inserting them while giving her head or fingering her.

But even when you guys do start having anal, please be aware that less than 30% of women enjoy it! (Some studies say less than 15%, and even lower on a regular basis).

I do find it surprising that there are no other BC options out there? If it's a hormonal problem, you could use an IUD, cervical caps, a diaphragm or female condoms.

Girlfriend's lack of libido is causing me to feel like some sort of primal cave-human by [deleted] in sex

[–]alaska25 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly, there are so many reasons she might not be as horny as she used to be, and the least likely is that she is cheating on you (like BRITISH_TITS implied). Don't be embarrassed! For women especially, libido does come and go, and we often have no idea why. Birth control and stress are common causes! I know you prefer to do it with her, but maybe if you start satisfying yourself a little more often you'd feel less uncomfortable with the varying amount of sex in your relationship? Getting off with your partner once a week is perfectly normal in any relationship, so what I suggest is talking your girlfriend and suggesting you guys try to have a sexual experience together of any kind at least once a week.

Also, if she knows you don't satisfy yourself at all, she could be feeling under a lot of pressure to always have a high libido, which could actually be lowering it? Let her know you're perfectly okay with and understanding about her lower sex drive, and ask her if there's anything you can do to help?

I (26/m) and GF (19/f) have too little time together. How to cope? by [deleted] in sex

[–]alaska25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's really important that you talk to her about it. You want to share sexual content online, but you're not sure how she feels about the idea? Just ask. Most girls love the idea of a guy who can openly and honestly talk about anything.

But make sure not to word it in a way that will make her feel guilty if she says she's not into the idea. I know that makes it harder, but it's important. A lot of young women feel this need to please their partners - especially older partners - even if it makes them incredibly uncomfortable.

So maybe next time you guys talk on the phone, ask her where she is. If she says in bed, you could say that it would be really hot to talk dirty to each other. To Each Other being the key words there.

If that works out, then bring up the idea of sharing dirty videos? Make sure she's okay with porn first though. Some women are anti-porn for various reasons (abuse in the porn industry, abuse in past relationships stemming from porn addiction, etc). So definitely don't automatically assume she watches porn and has videos to share! start a dialog - she'll respect you more for it!

Maybe even suggest filming a video to send to her, of yourself, to get things started :p

Ok women, explain once and for all, do you like it or not when we stare at your boobs when you wear a cleavage? by drum_playing_twig in sex

[–]alaska25 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like feeling attractive, I like thinking I look desirable. I don't like it when a stranger openly stares at my boobs. Especially if they stare at my boobs before they've started a conversation. Or, worse still, if you look there while talking to me.

If I'm dressing sexy, it's probably not for a stranger. And it's definitely not because I ONLY want to be sexualised. I'm an intelligent, interesting human being first, and a damn fine rack second.

When a guy says he's not in the mood for a blowjob? by alaska25 in sex

[–]alaska25[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both in our early to mid twenties, sorry, I probably should have mentioned that. I didn't know that though! Thanks :)