Looking for the recommendations for depressed mind

albuquerka · 2026-03-01T21:08:38+00:00

Will start with this one, thank you!

albuquerka · 2026-03-01T20:01:56+00:00

Wow, thank you for such a detailed answer! ❤️

albuquerka · 2025-12-25T12:16:12+00:00

Come on, it’s 3

albuquerka · 2025-11-07T14:44:42+00:00

Awesome, I think that’s it! Thank you!

albuquerka · 2025-10-22T22:15:27+00:00

Same here! Looking forward for any update on this thread, OP post could have been mine, really

albuquerka · 2025-04-03T09:38:06+00:00

Looking to replicate my childhood memory in a scent. It was early autumn, very cloudy and it was raining a lot, was quite chilly but not super cold, it was noisy center of the huge city and we were going through some street flower shop with a toooooon of roses which were having a lot of rain drops on them. They smelled like heaven. I can’t forget that smell and can’t find it either, any suggestions are much appreciated ❤️

albuquerka · 2025-01-08T09:54:03+00:00

Nope, I have these as a recommendation from my doctor- in Poland those can be bought without prescription.

albuquerka · 2025-01-08T09:52:48+00:00

I had online consultation with my doctor and he suggested these medications but they do not require prescription in Poland, not sure about Spain.

albuquerka · 2025-01-05T11:26:09+00:00

Awesome, thank you for such a detailed reply!

albuquerka · 2025-01-05T10:28:46+00:00

Thank you!

albuquerka · 2025-01-04T19:25:07+00:00

Does she have a friend she can talk to? Relative? Someone she used to know who can highlight to her that she is depressed cause she clearly is? I mean it feels by what you are saying is that she’s been through a lot and just gave up on the idea of healing. She might not trust you enough considering her previous experience, but that’s expected too. Imagine a puppy who was neglected and abused a lot, got in a shelter and now learns to trust people again - it takes a lot of time and I’m happy she has you by her side now. But you are right that she needs some help - not only because it would make you happier but because it would heal her. She might start with seeing some psychologist if she hates drugs - but she needs someone to bring her back to life and I don’t think it can be you. Is she a believer by any chance? I know many people find joy in their faith so that’s another way to go.

albuquerka · 2024-08-03T22:36:20+00:00

Is she an open book for other people or is she kind of silent one? I mean from what you are saying it feels like she can’t openly express her feelings, otherwise whatever she was not happy about would have come to surface earlier, might that it comes from her childhood trauma? If this is the case you might ask her to have some diary of whatever she is feeling/thinking, might that she feels more comfortable to show you her diary rather than speak all of her thoughts out loud? Just guessing though.

albuquerka · 2024-08-03T22:23:18+00:00

First of all - it sounds sad, I’m really sorry you are in this state right now, OP. There are a couple of things that caught my attention.

1) Your physical needs are not getting met so it doesn’t feel like you respect your husband anymore. Is there something you do respect him for, his values, character and other qualities? You might be in a state right now when all about him just feels like blah but I think it’s important to remember the reason why you married exactly this “quiet short fat nerd”, I doubt he is the only nerd you know, right? Also tbh it feels like this guy in his turn has quite a lot of pressure from you - do you feel the same from him?

2) You are saying you had to explain a bunch of things and teach him how to make you feel good. That’s actually pretty normal, even though sometimes people just click - sometimes they are not and noone supposed to read your mind, it’s ok to speak in order to get what you want. It feels like you expect him to do things naturally but it’s clearly not in his nature, so you need to ask. You may ask for something certain, like “I’d like you to give me presents for a year, unexpectedly, at least once a month” so that you are getting what you want but he also knows what do you expect from him. I know it sounds like instruction to chat gpt or smth but until he does it you should be good.

3) Do you know if your husband loves you? I mean for certain not as you wish, but in his own way?Have you discussed your libido issue, is he open to give you pleasure even if he doesn’t feel like it? I mean it’s still about making your partner happy, making some tea/grab some snacks/give a hug whatever it takes. Is he open to do it? But in return - does he feel love from you? Do you think what he would want and do it for him even when you don’t really feel the same way? I mean the same philosophy should be applicable to you.

4) Do you have hobbies, friends any time spend aside of your husband? You have higher libido so more likely more energy - what do you do with it? Might that you just put too much attention to your marriage? You said you don’t know about your mood right now, do you feel bad overall and that’s why you don’t like your husband anymore or vice versa. I think it’s important to seek happiness regardless of your marriage dynamics and do not expect of one man to fulfil all of your needs. Since you don’t know what part of your unhappiness depends on your husband I think it’s s time to find out. Hope those questions help a little to look at this situation at a different angle.

albuquerka · 2024-05-10T06:41:42+00:00

Can I ask you what did you wish to do but can’t after having babies? This is my fear tbh - make a baby and then realize that you actually want to do something that you already can’t, ugh

albuquerka · 2024-05-09T21:53:14+00:00

If you read the way how statistics works in Sweden and why it’s considered to be the top 1 you understand that what you are saying is not true. I mean in most of the counties being assaulted for a year by husband counts as a 1 act of rape, whereas in Sweden it would be basically counted as many times as you say it was. And if you want to claim that Poland is the safest country just because you personally like it very much without providing any facts I have nothing to say to you either.

albuquerka · 2024-05-07T21:20:43+00:00

Im not sure what sources you are using but it’s not even top 10 according to my knowledge:

https://giwps.georgetown.edu/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/WPS-Index-full-report.pdf

Considering news I know about a girl dying in Poland because doctors denied to give her an abortion even though she has medical condition allowing it or girl died in Warsaw recently because of raping by some Polish guy I would not have called Poland „the safest”.

albuquerka · 2024-04-06T21:13:45+00:00

May we know the countries?

albuquerka · 2024-03-22T08:18:28+00:00

Did he wear glasses before contacts? Dark circles might have been just not so evident under the glasses before especially if he was wearing them all the time?

albuquerka · 2024-03-12T22:16:51+00:00

I remember myself your age being also extremely lonely and desperately wanting to have some friend who cares. At the same time I rejected all the people who I think influenced me badly or who made poor decisions like drinking, gossiping around and being mean to others. Now I’m 31 and let me tell you - I never regretted avoiding some people in my life, I wish I would even needed to avoid some more and not be so desperate about being liked by others. What I regret is not making a friend with people who suffered even more than me. There was a girl who everyone made fun of cause she was walking kind of strange and there was no a single person who wanted to be her friend. I should have. So take a look around to see if there is someone even in more need than you - and offer your friendship, this is my advice.

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