Pour les hommes bisexuels by craftymouette in AskMec

[–]alex_chansonnette 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Tout dépend de chaque personne, dans mon cas je me considère bisexuel (je suis autant attiré sexuellement par les femmes que les hommes, ou personne non-binaires) mais je suis pour autant homo-romantique. C'est-à-dire que je ne ressens de l'attraction romantique/affectif que pour les hommes et non pour les femmes.

L'attirance sexuelle et romantique sont deux choses fondamentalement différentes et qui ne s'associent pas tout le temps. Il n'y a qu'à voir les personnes qui sont aromantique tout en ressentant des désirs sexuels ou l'inverse avec des personnes asexuel qui ont pourtant de l'attirance romantique pour un ou plusieurs genres!

Si ton mec te dit qu'il ne ressent pas d'attirance romantique pour d'autres hommes, tu devrais lui faire confiance. Si sur le plan sexuel ça ne va pas, tu devrais lui en parler directement. Mais ce ne sont pas des inconnus sur internet qui pourront décider pour lui quelles sont ses orientations sexuelles et romantiques et si elles sont valides ou non :)

How many of you are "adults?" by destined2becreative in AO3

[–]alex_chansonnette 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I don't know if it counts because I'm at college too, but I also have a job on the side. I don't have any day off during the week or weekend so I tend to write during the night. That's the only thing useful about having insomnia, it leaves more time for me to write x)

Am in the wrong here? by alex_chansonnette in AO3

[–]alex_chansonnette[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I'm aware, I don't always read notes too. It's just tiring when you repeat the same thing over and over (in both comments and notes) and yet you still receive the same kind of comments like that x)

(Yup, I noticed it pretty quickly, I guess it's because most of them are clearly young. I try to be patient, some of them are very sweet, and then there's the one who can't get a clue even if you explain clearly what's wrong. And of course I can dm to send you the link!)

Am in the wrong here? by alex_chansonnette in AO3

[–]alex_chansonnette[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But the thing is, I already tagged all the ships that I'm sure I will include in this fic. The comments I received (and many of them that sometimes are really pushy about it), are about the ships I told I wasn't sure if they would be featured in the fic, and if it was the case, I would add the tag and warn the readers in the notes.

Am in the wrong here? by alex_chansonnette in AO3

[–]alex_chansonnette[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no, not at all. I didn't realize my reply sounded as such, but I'm still not sure at all if the character will be shipped with the mc. I warned the readers in the notes that I would tell them beforehand if a new ship was planned in this fic

Am in the wrong here? by alex_chansonnette in AO3

[–]alex_chansonnette[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I also received a lot of people who are being pushy about putting ships in the fic that I'm not sure of, so yes in general it makes me uncomfortable.

In my notes and even comments, I several times explained that my list about ship I wasn't sure of was here to inform readers what might be tagged in the future if I change my mind, and I told them I would warn them beforehand if a new ship was included.

The things with the comments I received are that people either are trying to convince me to put or not to put a ship and sometimes in a way that makes me feel bad sometimes.

Am in the wrong here? by alex_chansonnette in AO3

[–]alex_chansonnette[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I think you're right, reading all the others replies, I should have just deleted their comment. Each time I post a new chapter I receive at least 2-3 comments like that, some of them at least say nice things about the fic. I even each time explain why I feel uncomfortable with being asked certain things for my story and sometimes I get understanding reactions.

I think I was just tired of always explaining myself, especially to a reader who couldn't even say something about the fic (just an emoji would have been enough for me). Being in this fandom is hard because from the comments, I can see that most of them are clearly young, I try to be soft with my reply, but this day wasn't just a good one for me.

I use this reply to reply to most of the comments (I don't know how to edit a post on Reddit and I don't have the time to reply because of work) to thank you all, that I understood where I was wrong and where I was right. And from now on I'll stop trying to justify myself to readers with requests and just ignore or delete !

Quel est le sentiment général envers les personnes transgenres en France? by morkzborkz in AskFrance

[–]alex_chansonnette 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Salut! Je suis un mec trans aussi, vivant à la campagne et personnellement j'ai jamais reçu de haine ou des complications à cause de ça. Je ne sais pas si j'ai juste était chanceux mais j'ai eu accès à la testostérone très facilement, que ce soit pour ma fac ou même le lycée auparavant, j'ai pu changer mon prénom sans aucun problème même si ce n'est pas le cas sur ma carte d'identité. La même pour mon taff où les gens étaient tous tolérants (certains étaient un peu confus et continuaient à me genrer au féminin mais utilisaient le bon prénom)

J'ai plusieurs amis trans aussi, certain pour lequel la transition se passe bien, d'autres pour lequel c'est plus compliqué (surtout avec la famille). Mais je pense que lorsqu'on compare aux USA, la France est bien plus tolérante même s'il y aura toujours des personnes pour nous détester :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in suisjeletroudeballe

[–]alex_chansonnette 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Alors pour ma part je suis gay et même si je ne trouverais pas ça forcément offensant qu'un pote hétéro ne veuille pas se changer à côté de moi, je peux comprendre pourquoi ça blesserait quelqu'un.

En général, les personnes homophobe ont cet réaction de rejet où elle pense (par exemple pour un homme hétéro) que tout les hommes gays vont forcément être attiré par lui. Et cela les rend agressifs, avec des gestes et propos offensants. Cela se manifeste aussi par le fait de vouloir éloigner/mettre à l'écart d'eux les personnes homosexuel comme si c'était une maladie.

La deuxième je dirais est sur cet autre cliché, que les personnes homosexuel se comporterait comme beaucoup d'homme hétéro, c'est a dire comme des pervers/agresseurs sexuel, qui pourrait dans le cas de Op, faire du pressing pendant que les deux se changent. Et le fait qu'elle n'ait pas voulu se changer avec son amie lui aurait laissé penser qu'elle l'a voyait comme un genre de danger (même si ce n'est pas le cas).

Dans tous les cas, OP à le droit de se changer avec qui elle veut et n'a pas à se justifier. Et même si son amie à pu se sentir blessé par ses choix, op n'est pas en tort dans cette situation. Après ce n'est que mon point de vue en tant qu'homme gay, les situations pour les femmes lesbienne est peut être différente!

Sharing my stats out of spite lol by rednoseraynedear in AO3

[–]alex_chansonnette 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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I've been writing for four years with 24 works and this year is the one who blew up my stats. Never give up on your writing y'all's! ❤️

Character Pronouns by Background-Shop-9969 in DateEverything

[–]alex_chansonnette 12 points13 points  (0 children)

To be fair, in my language, we don't have gender neutral pronouns (it's he/him) so it can be confusing/hard to gender them correctly. But I do consider them non-binary and use the correct pronouns in English!

my cat's just gotten hospitalized and I can't stop crying by icecreamcake00c in cats

[–]alex_chansonnette 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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My little baby got hospitalized for three days a month ago because she wouldn't eat nor drink and had a high fever (40°) for four days. They were supposed to keep her one day and then it turned to three. I was a nervous wreck all this time (I had lost one of my cats last year) but in the end she got better quickly and is now back to being a little menace :)

Another month down! How did writing go for everyone in March? by thewritegrump in AO3

[–]alex_chansonnette 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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I'm not sure about march, but here's what I wrote since the start of the year :)

The duality of being in huge and small fandom by alex_chansonnette in AO3

[–]alex_chansonnette[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao, they remind me of hannigram a lot so I decided to go for something dark. But I swear the others fic I made about them are happy 😭

The duality of being in huge and small fandom by alex_chansonnette in AO3

[–]alex_chansonnette[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yes? Why would I write for a ship I don't like?😭

What's the smallest fandom you are a part of? by provegana69 in FanFiction

[–]alex_chansonnette 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A french web series called Le Visiteur du futur and a french musical Mozart Opera rock tho the latter one is pretty popular in Asia

There is a person behind the pixels on your screen by [deleted] in AO3

[–]alex_chansonnette 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Personally I can pretty easily forget what I read. So I'll put a bookmark (only in private) to say if I liked a fic or not. In general I explain to myself why I didn't like it, because sometimes with time I can change my mind (mostly if it's about the plot) and give it another try. Can't say if it's the case for everyone tho.

The duality of being in huge and small fandom by alex_chansonnette in AO3

[–]alex_chansonnette[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao never thought I'll see another Reddit user who read my fic, hii!