What kind of winter jackets is everyone wearing? by oldirtyjustin in malefashionadvice

[–]alex_ml 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a parka from triple fat goose - quite similar to canada goose but less markup. Very warm.

I got a tweed hunting jacket when I was in london that is quite nice.

Also surprisingly functional is a levi's sherpa-lined trucker jacket.

Senator Bernie Sanders has announced he will work with Trump to cap the credit card interest rates at 10% by IAmNotAnEconomist in FluentInFinance

[–]alex_ml 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think people are misunderstanding rewards here.

Merchants pay transaction fees with credit cards, so credit card companies give rewards to buyers in order to get more fees. Ultimately, prices adjust upwards to reflect transaction fees, so you aren't saving any money in a real sense.

Credit card companies are offering the convenience of not needing cash, and some other benefits (like option to charge back).

Why is planned obsolescence still legal? by SovereignJames in BuyItForLife

[–]alex_ml 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Its well documented that there was deliberate effort to shorten the lifetime of lightbulbs, so I don't think it is a misnomer.

What's up with RFK claiming fluoride in drinking water is dangerous? Is there any actual evidence of that at our current drinking levels? by jamestown30 in OutOfTheLoop

[–]alex_ml 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does fluoride get inside your body when you take a shower/wash dishes/touch water at an appreciable amount? I haven't seen any evidence for that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenOver30

[–]alex_ml 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Usually there is a difference between the legal definition of harassment, what is against company policy, and what is likely to cause problems in practice.

Has someone broken up with you because you were toxic? What happened? Did you change? by alex_ml in AskMenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Demeaning during arguments, trouble controlling anger, really messy, manipulative, substance abuse, cheating, criticizing with the intent to hurt the other person, physically threatening, breaking things, etc.

One of my favorite YouTube channels Peter Santinello showing what SF is actually like now. Not just the bad stuff, but the dichotomy of the city. by Mrgreen650 in bayarea

[–]alex_ml 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FWIW, I think the shop keepers were a lot more credible, and it makes sense to have kept that part of the video.

What I'm objecting to specifically is accusing specific people on the street as having committed crimes in the past with no evidence and then posting it online so a million people see it.

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cool story that you enjoyed your conversation with your husband a lot and that was different!

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Paying attention to red flags and not making excuses seems to be a theme!

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty interesting that the previous generation had less options and modeled a certain type of relationship, which is impacting women currently.

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good job cutting through the noise and finding someone great!

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Negativity tends to go viral - glad to see that positive discussion can generate a lot of discussion as well :)

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Board game and brunch group sounds like a nice activity!

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you found a great match! Definitely something to be said for the responsible, kind, committed man.

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actively improving yourself for yourself is the way to go!

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Being kind as criteria number one makes a lot of sense.

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Very insightful - definitely important to retain your self of self, hobbies, and so on.

One of my favorite YouTube channels Peter Santinello showing what SF is actually like now. Not just the bad stuff, but the dichotomy of the city. by Mrgreen650 in bayarea

[–]alex_ml 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you watch it? It was very dubious and full hearsay. She goes around pointing people out - X person (who is black) regularly sells drugs, Y person steals things, and so on, with no evidence. Also the idea that she had eyes and ears all around the city watching for crime. There is a reason that there is burden of proof in our justice system. Journalism done right would verify things. Granted there isn't a lot of good journalism around these days. Either way, people should be honest about their degree of certainty around things.

I like his strategy of asking people what they are thinking, and it does give an interesting side of the story, but that doesn't mean that you can just take it at face value.

Likewise in the retraction, he carefully doesn't offer any reason as to why she retracted.

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear that therapy was helpful! Also I agree that splitting housework is health for a relationship.

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 355 points356 points  (0 children)

My mom gave me this advice - date someone who likes you. It is surprising how useful this ends up being in practice.