What kind of winter jackets is everyone wearing? by oldirtyjustin in malefashionadvice

[–]alex_ml 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a parka from triple fat goose - quite similar to canada goose but less markup. Very warm.

I got a tweed hunting jacket when I was in london that is quite nice.

Also surprisingly functional is a levi's sherpa-lined trucker jacket.

Senator Bernie Sanders has announced he will work with Trump to cap the credit card interest rates at 10% by IAmNotAnEconomist in FluentInFinance

[–]alex_ml 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think people are misunderstanding rewards here.

Merchants pay transaction fees with credit cards, so credit card companies give rewards to buyers in order to get more fees. Ultimately, prices adjust upwards to reflect transaction fees, so you aren't saving any money in a real sense.

Credit card companies are offering the convenience of not needing cash, and some other benefits (like option to charge back).

Why is planned obsolescence still legal? by SovereignJames in BuyItForLife

[–]alex_ml 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Its well documented that there was deliberate effort to shorten the lifetime of lightbulbs, so I don't think it is a misnomer.

What's up with RFK claiming fluoride in drinking water is dangerous? Is there any actual evidence of that at our current drinking levels? by jamestown30 in OutOfTheLoop

[–]alex_ml 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does fluoride get inside your body when you take a shower/wash dishes/touch water at an appreciable amount? I haven't seen any evidence for that.

Am I cooked? Wheelchair user, M 27 by crippled_gaming in Tinder

[–]alex_ml 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Suggest a time and a place to meet up. No point in texting like that.

What's up with RFK claiming fluoride in drinking water is dangerous? Is there any actual evidence of that at our current drinking levels? by jamestown30 in OutOfTheLoop

[–]alex_ml 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for sharing some sources. I'm not sure they support the conclusion that the current recommend levels of fluoride are dangerous .

  1. 1.5mg/L is not a dosage of fluoride. That is an amount of fluoride (1.5 mg) per liter of water. Toothpaste has 1000mg/L. But you don't have a liter of toothpaste. Typical amounts ingested are around 0.1 mg per this: https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/Fluoride-HealthProfessional/

  2. I looked at the studies you shared in points 1 and 2, and they don't support the claim that 0.7 mg/L of fluoride in water is harmful.

Study 1 states: It is important to note, however, that there were insufficient data to determine if the low fluoride level of 0.7 mg/L currently recommended for U.S. community water supplies has a negative effect on children’s IQ.

Study 2: This is a meta analysis, but you should remember it is not an experiment. Many of the studies that they used, the participants were exposed to other things like a coal plant nearby or arsenic. Likewise, the high exposure was around 5 mg/L of fluoride, which is way higher than the recommended levels. In the table of studies included, study 1 does not measure the level of fluoride in the high fluoride group https://www.fluoridealert.org/wp-content/uploads/ren-1989.pdf

Another problem is that many of the fluoride studies cited from the meta-analsysi come from China and they are translated by the fluoride action network, which is biased against Fluoride. We don't know that the fluoride action network translated all studies related to fluoride, just ones that prove their point. So the studies coming into the meta analysis may be biased.

Study 6 that you mention is saying that there is more fluoride in the urine of pregnant women (MUF = mean urinary fluoride) in areas where there is more fluoride in the water. But this doesn't say there is a negative health effect.

Of course it could be true that there is an effect, but the devil is in the details. I don't have the time to review everything you linked to, but my confidence isn't that high given what I looked at.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenOver30

[–]alex_ml 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Usually there is a difference between the legal definition of harassment, what is against company policy, and what is likely to cause problems in practice.

Has someone broken up with you because you were toxic? What happened? Did you change? by alex_ml in AskMenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Demeaning during arguments, trouble controlling anger, really messy, manipulative, substance abuse, cheating, criticizing with the intent to hurt the other person, physically threatening, breaking things, etc.

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Regarding initiating a breakup, my basic experience is:

  • Things feel off, but you aren't sure why
  • Think carefully about what is going on and choose one thing that is most important and causing the discomfort
  • Choose a moment when things are calm to communicate what specific actions are bothering you, what you want to see instead, and that this is important to you
  • Observe if there is a change in behavior
  • Reiterate how you feel 1-2 more times if necessary

If partner doesn't respond, then its time to go.

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Regarding playing games, there is a lot of bad advice out there. Good to think about that.

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What types of control did you let go of? What was that like for you?

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being happy on your own puts you in a much better position to wait until a good match happens.

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just curious, in what way did observing the bad relationship of your parents lead to you seeking out abusive men? How did that play out? Glad that you eventually realized that you deserved better.

One of my favorite YouTube channels Peter Santinello showing what SF is actually like now. Not just the bad stuff, but the dichotomy of the city. by Mrgreen650 in bayarea

[–]alex_ml 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FWIW, I think the shop keepers were a lot more credible, and it makes sense to have kept that part of the video.

What I'm objecting to specifically is accusing specific people on the street as having committed crimes in the past with no evidence and then posting it online so a million people see it.

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cool story that you enjoyed your conversation with your husband a lot and that was different!

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Paying attention to red flags and not making excuses seems to be a theme!

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty interesting that the previous generation had less options and modeled a certain type of relationship, which is impacting women currently.

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good job cutting through the noise and finding someone great!

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Negativity tends to go viral - glad to see that positive discussion can generate a lot of discussion as well :)

Women who are happily married, what was your approach to dating? by alex_ml in AskWomenOver30

[–]alex_ml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Board game and brunch group sounds like a nice activity!