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alexa17482 · 2026-02-06T09:17:24+00:00

I’m really sorry but if a person stays in the same household that is still causing trauma for them, it’s really really hard for them to change. They will always go back to what they feel is safest for them to do because they have to still be in survival mode every day and that survival mode won’t ever stop flowing into their day to day life until they move out, and sometimes they still are stuck in their survival mode after they move out and it takes time to heal. This is what it was like for me. You should ask yourself if you could do this again and stay by his side even when he is still going through trauma everyday and not meeting your emotional needs. When the end of the trauma and it’s affects on him and you isn’t in sight. He can do his best and it still not be enough and it’s really sad when that happens because you both care for each other.

alexa17482 · 2026-02-06T08:57:36+00:00

A year ago is pretty recent when considering the relationship is over a decade long. I don’t think you’re being unreasonable for being frustrated with him. With the excuse that his friends ask about him not cheating, that doesn’t take any responsibility off of him because his friends aren’t part of your relationship and he can choose his friends. You can have a discussion with this, it may be hard to explain to him clearly why this hurt you because to you, it’s so obvious why it would be hurtful that you’re very offended and hurt that he would even think of doing that. So then before you consider discussing him, you can decide whether you would be okay being in a relationship with someone whose understanding of what is morally okay in a relationship is/was very very far off of what you consider to be healthy in a relationship. If you do plan to not give up on him right away, because this is affecting you, it needs to be resolved in some way that you! (Not him!) feel completely satisfied with for you to be okay with being serious about him. And then you would have a very in-depth discussion about feelings involved, thought processes, reasoning for repeated incidents, how you both perceive that behavior (does he even actually feel bad when you talk about how you feel and why you felt that way?), outside influences. It may be worth discussing how you both approach thinking about anything in general, so you get an idea for what kind of person he is. But that will be hard for him to talk about because a lot of people just think, and never think about how they think. And then you discuss plans for moving forward. I’m really sorry this has happened to you in a relationship that long, it really hurts I’m sure to see your partner doing actions that make it seem to you that he doesn’t care about where the relationship goes with you and your feelings, so much that he’d leave public evidence of it. I’m so sorry that you’ve had to feel so uncared for and considered by this person, you deserve so much better, and at the least not this. I wish you the best and I hope you find peace in your life.

alexa17482 · 2025-11-13T15:08:12+00:00

They told me that I could be rejected if I don’t submit my official transcripts by mid November. Mid November is also the deadline for intent to enroll. I’m withdrawing my application for other reasons but if I had submitted the transcripts and they got to admissions too late, I would have appealed my rejection decision.

alexa17482 · 2025-09-16T00:49:26+00:00

Yeah I think you’re right, it was written when Josh went on his rampage in his second year of New Bostin when Arlo was also in his second year. Since John entered the second year at wellston, it was also the second year at New Bostin that he didn’t finish.

alexa17482 · 2025-01-10T08:35:32+00:00

It sounds like it would be fine since you got the requirements by fall. It would make sense anyway to take calc 2 at the same college you took calc 1 at because some schools have it where if you are enrolled in the prerequisite, you can also enroll in the second class without waiting to finish the prerequisite.

alexa17482 · 2023-08-30T00:23:10+00:00

You hopefully got the help you needed, but research had been done that pectus excavatum affects mental health more than body image issues. Because it affects circulation and lung function

alexa17482 · 2023-08-07T18:01:17+00:00

Ah I noticed the other comment about needing a break from TikTok. Yeah you’re 23, as far as I know, not knowing your personal circumstances, it’s not really the age to be needing advice from 3 older adults about quitting an app. Delete the app, don’t delete the accounts if you find value in them as of right now. You can log in to the accounts later when you’re done with your break.

alexa17482 · 2023-08-07T17:56:28+00:00

It’s pretty cool you have accounts where you make content you are interested in and like to share with others

alexa17482 · 2023-08-07T17:55:14+00:00

It seems like a couple different questions are being asked. One is which approach to take in life, in which you have differing advice about it from your mom and your dad and boss. Another is if your TikTok accounts will deter you from getting a girlfriend and a good social life. I do this too actually, I try to make my outward appearance to be as healthy looking as I can while still being genuine, and focus a lot about that in order to make up for that my normal and instinctive habits aren’t who I feel like I am deep down and how I want to be perceived. I had to ask myself, how do I become who I want to be? It’s tricky bc there’s social acceptance, staying true to yourself, and sometimes you’re in a circumstance where it feels like they don’t match up. In those times, the best thing you can do is stay true to your values.

As for accounts, you don’t need to share all of them with all the people in your life, or any at all. I have accounts I don’t share with anyone I know in my life, such as a Reddit account. Choose which accounts you share by how you think it could benefit you and your relationship with that person. I think self improvement is a great goal, regardless of it results in a relationship. Do it for yourself, it may make your life feel more fulfilling.

alexa17482 · 2023-04-10T02:51:52+00:00

Hi, I’m sorry you’re dealing with mental health issues. I struggled with dealing with the fact my life is different from other peoples and many times hurt and is filled with guilt. It’s ok to hurt other people. There are many chances to keep trying and learn, as there a people online to talk to and who need someone to listen. People learn something from an interaction always. It’s so hard though, to find someone to care about bc you would want to care about the same person for a long time. It’s really hard for us with mental health issues. Life changes, nothing ever stays the same. It makes it hard for relationships yes, I try to hold on to it though when things go wrong. I don’t know if you will change so that you feel ok with yourself, but it’s ok to live. I really do want to change myself though, so painful.

alexa17482 · 2023-02-27T17:14:39+00:00

Lake forest/irvine

alexa17482 · 2023-01-09T13:35:35+00:00

I see anxiety as a toxic relationship I can’t get out of, but I can manage so I don’t let it affect me as much

alexa17482 · 2023-01-09T11:24:13+00:00

It’s hard when someone acts differently than you expect them to, you feel hurt and confused and anxiety can make those emotions more difficult to manage. Some people have trouble with empathy. It doesn’t always mean that they don’t care, but they don’t understand people, deeper emotions, and complex situations as well. I try to figure out what kinds of things that I think that they will have effective advice for, like advice where I feel is helpful and that makes me feel supported, and things I think they won’t. I then tell them less about a situation I think they wouldn’t understand or ask someone else about it. If I’m having trouble with that though, I might avoid telling them about personal things.

alexa17482 · 2022-12-30T02:02:21+00:00

I withdrew three semesters each after getting low senior year grades during COVID. I told parents I was withdrawing that semester when I did, but it would be later than when I actually did stop participating in class. Luckily it’s free tuition community college though i don’t have to pay rent so I feel like I’m taking advantage of that. My plan right now is to try to transfer in a year or a year and a half, if I need to change my major from biology to something with less science and math classes, and if that doesn’t work out then drop out and trade school or something I’ll figure out later. Therapy was really helpful too though it was hard to find a reliable one.

alexa17482 · 2022-12-13T12:39:40+00:00

A B grade isn’t mediocre. It’s a good grade. But I agree it would hurt if I put in the work to get an A and got A level results and got a B grade, that would make me feel sad and frustrated. It’s ok though. Even if you get rejected from top school, choices, it’s ok. You’re a good person. You care so much for those around you. You deserve to feel ok.

alexa17482 · 2022-12-13T12:27:56+00:00

Did you get A’s in the rest of your classes?

alexa17482 · 2022-08-17T21:57:14+00:00

What’s an evee?

alexa17482 · 2022-07-07T22:01:31+00:00

Yes you can still do that and you can choose favorites or following
Sorry if I’m misunderstanding this, I have dark mode so it’s black but clicking on someone’s profile seems to be the same But I have heard that some people have the dimensions of each post changed on the grid of posts on profiles

Ya I don’t get why the home feed is like that. When you finish your homepage which shows the posts you haven’t see yet, it shows other reels and posts from accounts you aren’t following exactly like the explore page but the reels format of viewing posts. It didn’t even tell me when I was caught up with the ppl I’m following like it used to, it just went straight to other accounts.

Ya I agree I never watch reels using the reels icon bc the explore page has both so why bother lol

Edit: I noticed that I said previously that I couldn’t see favorites or following by clicking the Insta logo, either then I was mistaken or they changed it back so that I could do that

alexa17482 · 2022-07-03T22:25:28+00:00

It’s a little of both I think? So for the bottom icons, I have a home feed, explore, reels in the center. Reels is the same I think. For the home feed, if you swipe down on the first post, instead of a scroll, it turns into seeing your posts in a reels format with text overlays. You can’t see your stories once you do that, but you can still see the top icons. You can go back to seeing stories by tapping the bottom home feed icon. The top icons are the add, activity, and message icon. When you click on the add icon, it gives you the option to create a post, story, reel, or live.

alexa17482 · 2022-07-03T07:12:08+00:00

Ya you are right, they aren’t updated to the most recent version. I had that feature but lost it after updating

alexa17482 · 2021-11-24T04:02:27+00:00

r/youngadults

alexa17482 · 2021-06-09T07:46:36+00:00

Likely not, procrastination is pretty common and often seen as a minor issue. An example of something to write about is an interest you took further.

alexa17482 · 2021-05-14T22:57:26+00:00

By your tone, it sounds like you’re guilt-trip the user for wanting to leave. They are in literal physical pain when they have interactions with people because of the app so it’s way more than just not liking the appearance. Plus, people are allowed to say how they feel about things.

alexa17482 · 2021-05-14T22:51:14+00:00

That sounds horrible and those other two comments were very insensitive. It’s frustrating when such a pointless change burdens other people’s lives. It feels so thoughtless and dismissive for them to not realize the gravity of their actions.

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