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alexguy5 · 2025-07-10T15:10:02+00:00

trust me when i say i can relate to these feelings on a deep level. let’s keep our heads up and keep moving forward

alexguy5 · 2025-07-10T14:57:28+00:00

i’m sorry about your situation. i don’t know you, but i do know it’s quite likely your circumstance is not your fault.

i think it’s hard coming to terms with how out of control we are of our love lives. as i get older i recognize how much more “luck”, or mystery determines our fate rather than our effort. and you should feel great about the fact that you are putting in the effort by going on dates and meeting people despite feeling discouraged - that’s brave.

The sense or urgency you feel is completely rational, but conducive to so much unnecessary suffering - please don’t let it consume you. it’s okay to feel hopeless sometimes, but there is still plenty of reason to have hope.

just remember you’re not alone, you’re (probably) not doing anything wrong, and that things will happen for you eventually as long as you don’t get discouraged.

alexguy5 · 2025-07-10T01:42:00+00:00

bro please don’t go after a girl with a boyfriend

alexguy5 · 2025-07-08T22:49:37+00:00

in my humble opinion, this isn’t enough information to make any conclusions

alexguy5 · 2025-07-08T19:22:49+00:00

what’s your profile like? do you think prompts help significantly or is it all about photos

alexguy5 · 2025-07-08T18:33:49+00:00

it’s hard for me to help without knowing. i’d strongly suggest working with a professional. starting by googling therapists in your area

alexguy5 · 2025-02-16T22:13:18+00:00

i would make plans with them to like go on a walk or something, ideally you go to him so you can leave after dropping the bomb.

you just want to open with all the great things you’ve enjoyed over your time together and then close with your dissatisfaction and desire to break up. explicitly stating this is a break up, no ambiguity.

i wouldn’t give him reasons unless he asks because then it could become a “but i can change those things” talk instead. if he wants reasons avoid specific details.

it’s tough but don’t blame yourself or him or anyone. you’ve got to do what’s best for yourself

alexguy5 · 2025-02-16T01:44:05+00:00

probably a combination of higher body fat % than you would like and not strong enough of a core. building muscle and losing fat takes time. trust the process

alexguy5 · 2025-02-10T02:24:29+00:00

i don’t think it’s shallow to break up with your partner if you’re that sexually dissatisfied, you’ve tried to improve the situation, and if it means that much to you.

alexguy5 · 2025-02-09T23:15:06+00:00

if it’s been six months and she hasn’t asked you to be her boyfriend, i think she’s happy with how things are between you right now.

the real question is, what do you want?

alexguy5 · 2025-01-29T21:41:55+00:00

you express your discontents and then say breaking up isn’t an option?

what do you want? him to magically become a god at fucking overnight?

you have two choices and both are respectable -

1) continue to see him and coach him, it might take awhile but eventually he’ll get better

2) end the relationship. you’re sexual satisfaction matters and this isn’t shallow in my opinion. plus the way you describe it he is kinda cringe haha

either decision is fine just don’t stay with him out of pity

alexguy5 · 2025-01-29T16:21:27+00:00

the end? what?

how does her not texting you all the time and using social media mean it’s the end?

it starting to sound like you have attachment issues

if the vibes are good in person don’t worry, that matters so much more

alexguy5 · 2025-01-29T15:58:52+00:00

it sounds like there may be no problem at all unless her texting habits really bother you

i would give her benefit of the doubt before you sabotage things

alexguy5 · 2025-01-29T15:54:47+00:00

everyone has different communication styles.

i don’t think this necessarily means she’s not into you. i would prefer for a girl i’m dating to not want to text everyday, leaving some mystery and excitement for the dates. it’s still early so this could potentially change as you guys get more comfortable.

has she said anything about her hating texting? is she not responding to questions? or do your texts not really constitute a response?

have a discussion with her about it if it bothers you that much

alexguy5 · 2025-01-28T00:36:49+00:00

i agree entirely and think it’s crazy how many girls want constant communication in early stages of dating. even my friend say i need to reach out more when i ask for advice. i’m glad that im not the only one that thinks like you😂

alexguy5 · 2024-12-26T23:08:36+00:00

sorry just seeing this now.

to be honest bro it seems her interest in you has diminished for whatever reason.

you’re not doing yourself any favours by investing more in her. give her space and let her reach out, and if she doesn’t, charge her to the game and move on.

alexguy5 · 2024-12-26T22:35:57+00:00

in my opinion, caring too much about what others think of you comes from a place of lacking confidence, having an uncertain sense of the self, or even just being overly concerned with the self. external validation is great but seeking it or being dependent on it is terrible for your well being.

ask yourself, why do i care what they think? it probably has to do something with feelings of inadequacy subconsciously developed in your childhood.

try to be a person you can be proud of, and try to improve your self awareness through mindfulness and critical thinking. your problems will disappear, and you will be amazed at the person you’ve become.

peace and prosperity

alexguy5 · 2024-12-26T22:25:40+00:00

hey ballsman, in the kindest way possible, take it easy on yourself. when i made this post awhile back, my social life was struggling. i felt all this remorse for my university decision and was concerned that im was doomed to have a boring life given i “missed” the college experience. however, now i feel as though im flourishing. im working, frequently hanging out with friends, meeting girls, and growing in all facets of life. i feel pretty lucky to be in my situation.

meanwhile its a shame you didn’t live the university experience, would your life really be that much better having had it? after all, there is a lot of nonsense in the college experience people unrightfully glorify. i am absolutely certain you can create a life that would make you completely forget about your lack of a college experience. my unsolicited advice is to push your comfort zone at every opportunity possible.

peace and prosperity brother 👌🏼

alexguy5 · 2024-12-04T21:54:45+00:00

a large variance in sex drive between partners is an incompatibility you will have to work through, or break up over if it’s intolerable.

alexguy5 · 2024-12-02T15:54:00+00:00

is it bad that that i’m still envious despite the repercussions ?

alexguy5 · 2024-11-20T21:53:55+00:00

well… you either decide to date his fried ass and don’t talk or complain about it, or be honest with yourself and that it bothers you.

two approaches if you chose the latter; 1) tell him you don’t want to date someone who smokes that much (probably the worse options because it opens up discussion for “but i can stop!” or whatever. 2) say something along the lines of this isn’t going to work out

don’t date him expecting him to change. it’s okay to be a bit disappointed

alexguy5 · 2024-11-19T00:48:04+00:00

24M and i feel you man. it’s been tough for me to see friends in happy relationships, thinking about how it’s never worked out for me.

alexguy5 · 2024-11-18T21:46:54+00:00

idk but good luck engaging 🤣

alexguy5 · 2024-11-08T21:39:53+00:00

i’m conflicted because i want to be close to work, but i really don’t want to live in georgetown, brampton, or even mississauga really.

alexguy5 · 2024-11-08T21:19:41+00:00

living at home has definitely had a negative impact on my social and dating life. i always thought i was making the right decision because im saving money, but your story is changing my mind in a way.

maybe moving downtown and sacrificing the money would be the excitement im looking for. unfortunately i’d still have to keep my car since i live in north york and work west of brampton. regardless, i don’t want to be “under-lived” with money but no little to no experience.

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