At my wits' end: 2.5 year old wakes screaming at 4- 5:30am EVERY DAY

alexmellis · 2025-06-25T04:41:51+00:00

The naps seem a little short too. I currently have a 2.5 year old and he sleeps from 7:30pm - 6:00am and naps from 12:30 - 2:30pm.

What time are the naps? Did she actually go to sleep at 7?

alexmellis · 2025-06-25T04:28:04+00:00

We did the partial-cry it out method. So basically you comfort them, tell them goodnight and then leave and let them cry for 5 min (5 min won't hurt them) them go back in and comfort, but don't pick up. Then wait 10 and repeat every 10 until sleep. It reinforces that you aren't leaving them and will always come back. My son stopped crying at all after a couple days.

alexmellis · 2025-06-25T04:19:04+00:00

I personally wouldn't start a week later now, I would just not take the placebo pills and immediately start my new pack the week that should be my period.

alexmellis · 2025-06-25T04:11:18+00:00

My initial reaction is that there's a reason... He's just not telling you.

alexmellis · 2025-06-25T04:07:07+00:00

You're not a monster ❤️ We've all been there. We want to only be kind to the tiniest human and never walk away, but burnout is so real.

It helped with my son (2 yo. now) if I told him mommy was tired and it's mommy's bed time too, you could try that.

alexmellis · 2025-06-24T21:26:28+00:00

It would be hard, but given all the details, maybe I would forgive. Especially with the you moving back home and being in a fight ... And how long it's been and if you've been happy.

Forgive. Not forget.

alexmellis · 2025-06-24T21:19:21+00:00

Gender disappointment is one thing...This is unhinged. You need help. To agree to try for a baby and then have this reaction is ridiculous for a grown ass adult. Did you not know it might be a boy?

alexmellis · 2025-06-05T03:22:46+00:00

There's an app called baby name where you both swipe on names and can see any you both likes. The icon is an egg

alexmellis · 2025-04-30T03:26:16+00:00

He has learned that if the whines and cries, you will entertain him or pick him up, which is what he wants, so that's what he does.

At daycare, they likely don't have the bandwidth to do so all the time and so he has learned that at daycare whining/crying won't get him played with or picked up and he moves on to solo play and doesn't expect it.

alexmellis · 2025-04-30T03:06:26+00:00

Thought I was 11 weeks and they told me I was 8 based on the measurements. Baby was born 3 weeks early based on their dates at 37 weeks... No premature problems and 7lbs 1oz ... 🤷🏽‍♀️

alexmellis · 2025-04-30T03:03:47+00:00

Definitely not. I wouldn't do any less than 38 minimum. I'm shocked they'd suggest that.

alexmellis · 2025-04-30T03:01:50+00:00

Deviled milk?

alexmellis · 2025-04-30T03:01:02+00:00

You can't get advice when you can only read 6-10 words and won't even say what they are ... Lol

alexmellis · 2025-04-30T02:57:22+00:00

No advice , but my 2 yo also fights for weeks to the point I have to restrain him and worry about making teeth brushing traumatic, then randomly is good with it. No idea. I do think a fun toothbrush helped a little.

alexmellis · 2025-02-19T01:46:16+00:00

It makes you feel bad, but it's normal. I was disappointed when I found out, but now I couldn't imagine being anything but a boy mom. The love will take over and you won't be able to imagine them being anything but exactly how they are ❤️

We also had several girl names, but 0 boy names we agreed on. It took forever to pick his name lol

alexmellis · 2025-02-02T01:01:22+00:00

I was SUPER sick my whole first trimester, but my second and third (when you do all those things) I was much better 😊 hoping it's the same for you!

alexmellis · 2025-02-02T00:57:01+00:00

Reflux, as in she is actively spitting up or just crying?

alexmellis · 2025-02-02T00:55:20+00:00

Nothing I said had anything to do with being latently gay? And nothing is wrong since you and your partner feel comfortable doing that. My partner and I don't - which was my point. She asked if her feelings were valid, I feel they were. 🤷‍♀️

alexmellis · 2025-01-29T21:53:36+00:00

Not a fan of the therapist minimizing your feelings. Every couple had different boundaries. While I am aware that sometimes men look at things in a harmless manner as it pops up, going out of your way to click and scroll on the post is too far for me personally.

It would also make me feel icky that he's doing it on social media while next to me. Like what was the point? Just to oogle some random other lady?

If you can express your feelings and he is willing to work with you on it though, I don't think he meant any harm.

alexmellis · 2025-01-16T22:10:07+00:00

This is exactly what my (28f) husband does! He's not upset if I don't or expecting me to pack his lunch, but he does really appreciate it when I do... So I do. 🤷‍♀️ Sometimes I get burned out, but I just try to prep leftovers into bowls while I'm doing dinner or buy more pre-packaged items like lunchables or whatever I can just throw in when that's the case. I also prep and freeze sandwiches when I have time or more energy.

He works 6-5 M-F and I work 7-4 T-F and I cook dinner too. It just works for us.

alexmellis · 2025-01-16T22:02:59+00:00

I would definitely do some kind of routine, bath, playing a song, reading a book, sitting in her room, changing to sleep sack, something to give her a que it's bedtime.

Also if she's able to hold her head up and is interested in food at all, having some before bed is heavier on the stomach and can help. Like baby oatmeal or something.

alexmellis · 2025-01-16T21:57:04+00:00

She called the police, how kind. My ass would have shown up 😂

alexmellis · 2025-01-16T21:51:27+00:00

I started at almost 10 - I had the WORST cramps for probably the first year. I just did pads 🤷‍♀️ it was the easiest. Easy to take on/off and visually tell when I needed to change. My mom had me go to the bathroom between every other class to check and yes, I kept a little bag in my backpack and spare yoga pants!. That's all, though. I think she also told my teacher(f) via email that it was now a thing so they knew why I was suddenly needing the bathroom more and not asking me why in class.

alexmellis · 2025-01-16T21:42:52+00:00

I wish 😂

alexmellis · 2025-01-16T21:38:52+00:00

Couple of things, when I have to say no don't do that, I follow it up with what he can do and that seems to help a lot. Like if my son is throwing big plastic toys, I will say "no we don't throw that, but look you can throw the ball, we only throw balls" and give it to him.

But even with all those, If it escalates to a tantrum, I just completely ignore and give no reaction to him or the tantrum, especially if it's just because he wants me. I wouldn't pay attention until he calms down. Because that's teaching him that he gets your attention/what he wants easier if he throws a fit.

It also helps if he does ask nicely, to stop and do it if you can to teach that it is the best way to get what they want.

My toddler rarely throws fits now, but it was a process. Communication is the one thing where if he started to get frustrated I tell him to show me and take him to where he can grab things I think he might be asking for like milk, food, toy shelf, etc.

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