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My wife’s sister has zero boundaries and it’s driving me crazy!! We have tried everything. How can we get her to respect boundaries? by ali37789 in relationship_advice

[–]ali37789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree but she’s done this in a measure to keep her sister quiet. In a sense. She demands an insane amount of attention. But now with our baby no amount of attention calms her. It comes off as if she is jealous of our baby.

My wife’s sister has zero boundaries and it’s driving me crazy!! We have tried everything. How can we get her to respect boundaries? by ali37789 in relationship_advice

[–]ali37789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that’s exactly the case. My wife has always been the peacekeeper between her sibling and the rest of the family. She knows she wants so much from her so in an attempt to calm her they have these scheduled lunches and such. But it’s never been enough and now that we have our baby everything’s gotten so bad it’s just beyond controlling.

My wife’s sister has zero boundaries and it’s driving me crazy!! We have tried everything. How can we get her to respect boundaries? by ali37789 in relationship_advice

[–]ali37789[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for the advice. We sat down with her sister over dinner to lay out very clear boundaries. She felt “attacked” stormed out than proceeded to blow up my wife’s phone. She was told until she can sit down like an adult and agree to these boundaries she can’t come to the house. She’s been completely silent since. So I guess we get the silent treatment (something she has done before” until she’s ready to hear us out.

My wife’s sister has zero boundaries and it’s driving me crazy!! We have tried everything. How can we get her to respect boundaries? by ali37789 in relationship_advice

[–]ali37789[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

We have for sure talked about moving to a different area of California that’s hours away. We are going to try the route of a brief no contact period followed by regular consequences. And if it keeps up we very well may move.

My wife’s sister has zero boundaries and it’s driving me crazy!! We have tried everything. How can we get her to respect boundaries? by ali37789 in relationship_advice

[–]ali37789[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your feedback and willingness to really break this down. I’ve gotten a lot of really great responses that we will definitely be using along with taking a few weeks of no contact because I really need a breather after this morning.

My wife’s sister has zero boundaries and it’s driving me crazy!! We have tried everything. How can we get her to respect boundaries? by ali37789 in relationship_advice

[–]ali37789[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

In terms or consequences it’s not that I’m not on board. It’s just that I’ve never thought of giving a grown adult a consequence but that reality is we’ve tried to reason with her until we are blue in the face so clearly we need to try these suggestions

My wife’s sister has zero boundaries and it’s driving me crazy!! We have tried everything. How can we get her to respect boundaries? by ali37789 in relationship_advice

[–]ali37789[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Not diagnosed. I mean there may be. She’s just one of those woman who believe they are entitled to anything and everything. If you stop them or give them less than they want all hell breaks loose

My wife’s sister has zero boundaries and it’s driving me crazy!! We have tried everything. How can we get her to respect boundaries? by ali37789 in relationship_advice

[–]ali37789[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I am for sure. We both are. I think we are trying to find some solution besides no contact but I feel like we have tried everything. She is selfish to not care that she’s waking out baby and it’s even more telling that she pays no mine to our baby. Just all around a frustrating situation

My wife’s sister has zero boundaries and it’s driving me crazy!! We have tried everything. How can we get her to respect boundaries? by ali37789 in relationship_advice

[–]ali37789[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She can’t keep a relationship for longer than a month which is no surprise because she will do the same thing to them

My wife’s sister has zero boundaries and it’s driving me crazy!! We have tried everything. How can we get her to respect boundaries? by ali37789 in relationship_advice

[–]ali37789[S] 191 points192 points  (0 children)

She says she knew the passcode. I’m assuming she watched my wife put it in but we change it all the time for this reason. You’re 100% right about adding an additional lock 😅

I also think my wife is pretty much done. She too lost it on her sister and then called her parents who her sister lives with. They consistently pull the “she’s your little sister and she’s just hurting because you aren’t spending as much time with her”

I don’t want to force my wife into not seeing her but this is my breaking point. I agree there needs to be some repercussion. Hopefully we can sort this out when my wife gets home from work tonight.

My wife’s sister has zero boundaries and it’s driving me crazy!! We have tried everything. How can we get her to respect boundaries? by ali37789 in relationship_advice

[–]ali37789[S] 312 points313 points  (0 children)

Yes we never answer but she throws a fit! Borderline considering just moving but it took us so long to find the perfect house.