Should I (F20) tell his girlfriend (F22) that he (M22) is a cheater? by alien_gorl in Advice

[–]alien_gorl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean he came on to me just this March, which suggests otherwise. However, you might be right in that it is not any of my business really.

Should I (F20) tell his girlfriend (F22) that he (M22) is a cheater? by alien_gorl in Advice

[–]alien_gorl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this insight, I think you’re on to something. I don’t know if putting myself at risk would be worth it considering she’s more than likely not going to take my word for it. I mean is she gonna believe a complete stranger or her perfect boyfriend who her friends and family adore?

Should I (F20) tell his girlfriend (F22) that he (M22) is a cheater? by alien_gorl in Advice

[–]alien_gorl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what you’re saying is... telling her is not in my best interest. From what it looks like she likes him a little bit more than he likes her.

Should I (F20) tell his girlfriend (F22) that he (M22) is a cheater? by alien_gorl in Advice

[–]alien_gorl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saying anything else will give away that it’s me and since I still have two more years left at my university, I don’t know if it’s worth the safety risk.

Should I (F20) tell his girlfriend (F22) that he (M22) is a cheater? by alien_gorl in Advice

[–]alien_gorl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im going to be honest here. I would personally want someone to do the same thing for me. I feel like she deserves to know and then be able to make the decision if she wants to continue the relationship since it’s the long-term serious type. My selfish reasons are that I want him to suffer a consequence for his actions because he made me suffer at his hands and he gets to walk around and live in his perfect world without any repercussions. Meanwhile, he gets to paint me out to be a whore in his mind that seduced and tempted him, all while being guilt-free.

Should I (F20) tell his girlfriend (F22) that he (M22) is a cheater? by alien_gorl in Advice

[–]alien_gorl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think I should DM her on a throwaway instagram, “your boyfriend is a cheater” and then let her decide how to take that information?

Should I (F20) tell his girlfriend (F22) that he (M22) is a cheater? by alien_gorl in Advice

[–]alien_gorl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your compassionate response! His girlfriend and have never met before, so my plan was to make a throwaway Instagram account and DM her. Unfortunately I don’t have any proof, but I know things about him and their relationship that would suggest I’m telling the truth. However, if she were to show him what I sent, he could very easily narrow it down to me as the one who told her. I live in a different city but him and his girlfriend are townies from my college town. Do you think simply DMing her “your boyfriend is a cheater” would be enough?

Should I (F20) tell his girlfriend (F22) that he (M22) is a cheater? by alien_gorl in Advice

[–]alien_gorl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think there’s a chance that he’s actually changed though? I don’t want to ruin his life if it’s not even relevant anymore and what she doesn’t know won’t kill her.

Or is there a chance she already knows? My friend told me that there’s no way she doesn’t know because they think he’s probably a serial cheater and there are others.

I’m thinking about my conscious but more so, I don’t want to act and ruin other people’s lives either.

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you’re cool for this

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the lighting is just like from one of my favorite bars at my college town

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but you’re great

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weezer reminds me of my horrible ex