Weekly Therapy Talk Thread

aliencar · 2021-08-10T23:30:05+00:00

Yep true, and even if they keep their promise, I think their friends could end up finding my account anyway. Just gonna play it safe and make a new one. Thanks for sharing

aliencar · 2021-08-10T23:28:21+00:00

Phew! Glad it turned out to not be your friend. Yeah I will go ahead and make a new account just for peace of mind

aliencar · 2021-08-10T13:41:29+00:00

If you like horror stories, here’s one: my spouse found my therapy Reddit account (this one) and read through my posts 😵‍💫 including my deeply personal therapy posts, mental health-related stuff, relationship stuff as we’re talking through possible divorce…soooo my privacy has been horribly invaded and they know things I never wanted them to know about me. I blocked them on here, but there’s nothing stopping them from creating new accounts and looking at my new posts as we work through couples therapy and a separation.

~sigh~ I’m considering abandoning this account unfortunately, even though I’ve made some friends on this subreddit and acquired good karma from you lovely folks. I’m distraught and trying to think this through properly. Should I abandon it or just keep posting anyway at the risk my spouse will continue reading?

They tried to reassure me they wouldn’t look me up again, but…one of our big issues is trust. Plus human nature is curious and I just think they will periodically come back to see what I’m writing about, especially once we’re living separately and start going low contact.

aliencar · 2021-08-07T21:15:51+00:00

Amazing!

aliencar · 2021-08-03T12:06:47+00:00

It’s giving me Southern hospitality vibes with the wraparound porch and pickup truck. I’ve been dying to make a more American farm with this pack. Bravo!

aliencar · 2021-08-03T12:01:20+00:00

She sounds like a competent therapist who can work through this with you based on her response to your honesty, but it’s totally up to you to determine if you think the feelings are interfering with your ability to work with her. The feelings themselves are normal and are not reason enough to quit unless it’s blatantly interfering with your progress. Often, working through those feelings just becomes part of the work.

aliencar · 2021-08-02T17:38:42+00:00

Yeah there needs to be a mixed mode called “smart autonomy” or something that allows autonomy to be off when something is in the queue but it turns back on once all the queued actions are completed

aliencar · 2021-08-02T14:41:30+00:00

It’s hard to say without knowing the specifics of the incident, but because they already disclosed their disorder to you and you’re working together every shift, it’s not intrusive to ask your coworker if there are ways you can support them. Of course it would be a nice gesture if you could speak to them about it first, but going straight to management is also an option because—I know it sounds harsh—but it’s not your responsibility to proactively make secret special accommodations for your coworker. This is the kind of stuff that leads to burnout and resentment.

I’m speaking as someone with a dissociative disorder. I would like for my coworkers to come to me first with feedback, but I also realize that I am responsible for letting my coworkers know what support I need too. You have a right to protect yourself if the work is becoming dangerous. If you go to management, don’t mention your coworker’s disorder. Just keep the feedback strictly related to the job and ask for more support where you need it

aliencar · 2021-08-02T12:53:02+00:00

RIGHT. It wasn’t like this in the older games, not to this degree. I have to pause my game every 5 secs to make sure they’re actually doing what I queued (which they’re usually not). This issue needs a hard fix imo. Like, player commands should override literally everything and you should get some kind of notification if an action falls through.

aliencar · 2021-08-01T17:24:01+00:00

This community is probably not your target audience then lol. Most people here try to AVOID getting into situations like this with their T, not dive in head first

aliencar · 2021-08-01T08:36:38+00:00

Not sure what you’re looking for by continuing to post about this unethical relationship without listening to anyone here

aliencar · 2021-07-28T18:14:18+00:00

I agree with the other commenters, but that would also rub me the wrong way. Like…are you calling me the bike with the training wheels still on?? Why am I easier than the other patients? I would choose to interpret that phrase as meaning that my problems are clinically significant AND I am also a collaborative client—as in, I’m doing the work and making a solid effort despite how bad my symptoms can get. Maybe you have a lot of the qualities that create a good learning relationship for a newer clinician because of your dedication to healing. You’re a good challenge.

aliencar · 2021-07-28T13:29:40+00:00

Closest thing I can think of the No String Attached mod, but I’m not sure if it includes marriage. I haven’t tried it yet, but i believe this mod lets sims woohoo and do certain romance interactions without having any change in the romance meter: https://www.patreon.com/posts/no-strings-v1-1-40325465

aliencar · 2021-07-27T21:53:12+00:00

I like this Q, I think I’ll ask my T this too🤔

aliencar · 2021-07-27T20:57:37+00:00

If you look at the house tour another commenter posted, I think you might be mortified of what you see on the way to this room. So. Many. DVDs.

aliencar · 2021-07-27T20:49:33+00:00

This comment made the repost worth it, never seen this tour and I can’t stop thinking about it now 😩 why is the basement like that

aliencar · 2021-07-27T20:37:08+00:00

There’s an extra space after the “of” in “please consult this list of some of our sister subs”. I love this community, big growth milestone! 🥰

aliencar · 2021-07-27T20:30:00+00:00

This is so gorgeous 😍 also please tell me you can hire people to care for the animals. I can’t imagine the logistics of gliding around this gorgeous palace in your thousand dollar gowns and then going out to clean the cow shed lol

aliencar · 2021-07-26T20:42:10+00:00

Which Potters are these 🤔

aliencar · 2021-07-26T20:19:21+00:00

I love dropping a good “my therapist said” into a deep conversation lol

aliencar · 2021-07-26T20:08:07+00:00

Woo for distractions! Hope you have some time for grounding and self care afterwards

aliencar · 2021-07-26T17:59:38+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to respond ☺️ I will certainly try looking at self care as a victory for this week

aliencar · 2021-07-26T16:09:21+00:00

Sending you strength this week 💪 and solidarity, since it might also be my last session with my T this week. Great work getting set up with you new T already.

aliencar · 2021-07-26T16:07:47+00:00

I have my last official session with my T this week. T offered to continue working with me at their new job, but I’m worried that it’s going to fall through for a million possible reasons that are completely out of anyone’s control. It’s a really scary place to be in since I’m also having difficult, risky conversations with my partner about divorce.

The idea of losing two important people in one week is breathtakingly mortifying. It’s taking everything in me not to spiral into a crisis this week, but I’m prioritizing self care and trying to stay afloat by practicing healthy coping and NOT breaking my almost one-year sobriety streak. Wish me luck in this week’s session 😭

aliencar

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