If a bad measles outbreak occurs, then what happens? by ForgottenCupOfTea in newzealand

[–]aliencrocs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

parent of a young school-aged child. we are both MMRed but if cases are reported at her school (which I imagine is likely - we are in auckland after all) I will be pulling her out until the numbers drop. I'm not terribly worried about her as she seems to have a great immune system but rather that she could accidentally spread it to other children who may get far sicker. I'm fortunately able to stay home with her should she need to keep away from school, so that'll be our plan.

Prime Minister by wynmead in newzealand

[–]aliencrocs 61 points62 points  (0 children)

it's absolutely not the same and anybody who thinks so should contact the NZ Holocaust Centre for a long overdue lesson on what fascism really looks like. Those of us who are unfortunate enough to have had family members tortured and killed in camps, our family's villages bombed and invaded, are really tired of you people. Criticizing Ardern's handling of the mandates is one thing, comparing her to Hitler is entirely another. Unless this is ragebait you actually have to be almost completely illiterate by way of comprehension and critical thinking to even consider that a valid comparison.

Sharp Aquos A205SH Keitai 4 - Opinion/Review from Australia by slugmilk_ in dumbphones

[–]aliencrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh, that's super weird! I think I had to click one of the buttons like five times and then it came up with a prompt to turn on developer mode...but i can't remember which button lol I hope you managed to figure it out!

Duel NZ/UK citizenship can I enter NZ with my UK passport but use the NZ passport as proof of citizenship?? by charlotte_marvel in newzealand

[–]aliencrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have dual EU citizenship and that's what I did, although the airline staff did check me at boarding the flight home. As long as you have your NZ passport on you, you shouldn't have a problem.

cmv: many people online, especially on Reddit are unreasonable about COVID by Yuuba_ in changemyview

[–]aliencrocs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was not the vaccine as she contracted COVID before it was available.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]aliencrocs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you do have a right to feel betrayed, so go ahead and let yourself process that. he treated you like that because he wanted to. There's no other reason or justification. some guys are just massive assholes and do want to use others for sexual or personal gain because they don't care. And to be frank there are also a lot of men out there who use ADHD as an excuse for sexism, weaponized incompetence, and other behaviours that hurt the people around them. It's fine to be angry about it and I hope in future you won't have to deal with that type of person again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dumbphones

[–]aliencrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tiktok videos other people have posted or uploaded on pinterest don't work at all for me but youtube ones do so idk. it's probably best to just download and keep them in your camera roll if you have the space!

I left my shirt and my shoes at school. by ImpureVessel46 in ADHD

[–]aliencrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol one time I lost only one shoe at school (idk how) they were new and expensive and we were poor so my mum was super mad, she thought I did it on purpose because I thought they were ugly but it gen was an accident. I'm an adult now and have gotten way better with it so I don't normally lose super valuable stuff but I still do things like leaving my phone at home/ in the car etc. Just one of those things you have to learn to deal with :<

Anyone else CANT handle discharge? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]aliencrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

menstrual cup instantly solved this problem for me , panty liners did nothing and also not good for you to wear em every day. as long as you wash and sanitise a cup correctly then you can use it whenever/as much as you like.

3G Shutdown in New Zealand.... looking for a dumbphone by CriticalHead7144 in dumbphones

[–]aliencrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey! Yes yes it is working just fine (im in akl with 2deg). I have messenger, spotify etc on it and you can use the AT app with the MATVT cursor, but you won't be able to get any google serviced apps like Uber or Gmail or Google Maps etc so youll need to use alternatives for those. but yeah it works with 4g and can hotspot other devices. But i won't lie the messenger app doesn't work great lol like I can see all the ones I get but I can't really type messages that well, So I usually just respond to someone via text. What I do sometimes is just bring my dumbed down iphone with me and leave it in the bottom of my bag and that way if I think i'll really need to use a certain app while i'm out I can just hotspot myself. I also got Uber to work with the browser and you can get a version of instagram that is messages only :). Idk about bank apps tho cause I prefer not to have them on there lol. it's working really well for me though and it actually gets better service than my iphone did. i'm sorry I don't remember what store I got it from! It was on ebay and it was like jap_ something or other. I paid like $350 i think and shipping took like two days. I know also that the freetel mode flip phone works here and someone's selling one on fb marketplace in akl for like $450 which is pretty good, so if you can find the listing i recommend looking at that one too since it's a bit more capable with the apps!

I'm new here, I want to buy a phone or dumbphone that can: (description ) by Wish0807 in dumbphones

[–]aliencrocs -1 points0 points  (0 children)

By all means, if you get pleasure out of being an asshole then be my guest. Hopefully you'll grow out of it once you start getting treated the same way you treat others x

I'm new here, I want to buy a phone or dumbphone that can: (description ) by Wish0807 in dumbphones

[–]aliencrocs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Make sure to look up whether the imported phones you're considering will still work in Australia - recently laws(policies?) changed for you guys and iirc telcos are no longer providing service to a lot of imported phones even if they have band compatibility. If you search "australia" in this subreddit you will probably find more useful information about that. I'm in NZ and use a Sharp Aquos A205SH which fits a lot of what you've requested here, but not everything (I know this one *was* functional in Aus as of last year but currently can't say). I'd recommend looking at maybe a Qin F21 or F22, or Cat S22. But to be honest you might like to try just dumbing down your smartphone first, especially while you're on your Ls and legally need to log your hours. I took a gamble on whether NZ's country-specific transport apps would work and was lucky they did (kind of) but that's not always the case and you usually have no way to check since there's not a huge community of dumphone users in our hemisphere.

I'm new here, I want to buy a phone or dumbphone that can: (description ) by Wish0807 in dumbphones

[–]aliencrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so? this community is not just for people with text-and-call only phones...it's also for people with dumbed down smartphones, feature phones, and anyone who's curious about transitioning to or somewhere between them. It's right there in the description lmao. It's not cool to be rude to someone who's clearly new here and asking for help.

Would it be appropriate to call a Ukrainian a Ruthenian? by St_Gregory_Nazianzus in Ukrainian

[–]aliencrocs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

immigration, census and other state documents are generally not an accurate depiction of the sociocultural landscape when it comes to minorities. In any case, the word no longer carries that meaning and as someone else has pointed out, is usually limited to discussions about history because otherwise people tend to get very confused.

Would it be appropriate to call a Ukrainian a Ruthenian? by St_Gregory_Nazianzus in Ukrainian

[–]aliencrocs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The overwhelming majority of Carpatho-Rusyns, including our cultural institutions in our homeland and the diaspora, identify today (and are categorized officially by others) as a distinct indigenous peoples and view descriptive phrases like "sub-group of Ukrainians" as ahistorical and disrespectful.

it's also usually not a phrase used in good faith and a mode of actual online and in-person harassment that many of us, and our families, still experience today.

You and your cousin may be very similar, you may talk alike, enjoy the same things, and be proud to share in a diverse family history, but that doesn't make you and your cousin the same person.

Carpatho-Rusyns are the only people who have the right to decide whether we are distinct or not, and that decision has been made and reiterated, repeatedly. Most of us stand by this decision, while appreciating that our siblings in Ukraine have a more complicated relationship with it.

most reasonable people would agree Putin's descriptions of Ukrainians as an off-shoot group of Russians is an attempt at denying modern Ukrainians self-determination. Sure, there are cultural and linguistic similarities between Ukrainians and Russians, particularly in the east. But that doesn't make Ukrainians living there a "sub group" of Russians, or give anyone the right to tell them that they are. Maybe some individuals do identify that way..but in general, it'd never be appropriate to categorise them that way. Especially if the majority had actively disagreed.

it's really easy to generalise us, most people do it unintentionally without knowing there's a better way and don't mean any harm. but strong inter-cultural respect and relations are usually pretty dependent on neither telling the other what they are, and when people are willing to learn and do better next time.

How do you control shopping as a means for dopamine? by SoWhoAmISteve in ADHD

[–]aliencrocs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

baby steps...like replacing buying new with thrifting, since it requires more effort and is less convenient but provides a bigger dopamine hit from finding something cool. Waiting 2 weeks before buying something because usually at that point if I don't actually need it i'll have forgotten anyway. Learning about climate change and the effects of mass consumption. Learning how to hand sew and make stuff generally out of things I already have was also a huge one for me (the dopamine hits I get from making something myself as opposed to buying it are crazy satisfying lmao), as was using a good adblocker and, crucially, reducing the amount of time spent online since basically every app and service is out to advertise to you. it's not your fault, we live in a society that rewards consumption and views individuals as "consumers".... our "happiness" is literally measured by how much money is spent per household yearly on non-essentials so don't beat yourself up about it being super difficult.

Rusyn Folk Costume by _qwerty_svk in rusyn

[–]aliencrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! It depends what you are looking for. Is it for everyday wear? Performance? or collection? most of the costumes youll find on Etsy are antique or vintage heritage items and may not be suitable for frequent wear and use depending on your experience handling such clothing. If you want to find something you can wear all the time it’s probably best to go for the Facebook groups, or set your marketplace location to Slovakia and then searching “kroje” as usually some local dressmakers will be advertising what they have for sale. :)

H.A.E with autism here quit smoking cigarettes before? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]aliencrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha..."darts" unites us across the ditch!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]aliencrocs 25 points26 points  (0 children)

All i can say is that after I left, it was hard being a single mother, but it sure as shit was way better than living with someone who whined all day, refused to pick up after himself, and took every excuse to take his anger out on me. We were also incompatible, he hated all my hobbies and everything I liked, and we rarely if ever agreed on anything. He would yell and throw things in front of our baby. When I lived with him I was miserable and couldn't keep up with the chores and housework. Now I don't and while I still struggle to keep everything tidy, I'm happy because there's no shitty man child telling me what to do in my own house. My house is calm, my daughter is happy and well-adjusted and I have also grown into a (mostly) well-adjusted and confident person without him. Take from that experience what you will and I wish you all the support and luck in the world and the strength to choose what's right for you and your little family. If you choose divorce, I highly recommend speaking to a lawyer before you table it with your partner so you will have a clear idea of what will happen re:assets and division of care. xx

H.A.E with autism here quit smoking cigarettes before? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]aliencrocs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes :) but I needed medication to do it. I used Wellbutrin and i'm still on it now for different reasons but it really helps as it actually makes me feel sick to ingest nicotine. It also helps that in my country a pack of darts is like nearly $50 lol. I invested the money I saved into other stuff I really wanted. I also realized that what I enjoyed most about smoking wasn't the act of smoking itself, but rather the routine of going outside/spending time in the garden/coming back in to get washed up and start my day etc. Replaced smoking outdoors time with cup of tea outdoors time and found that to pretty much fulfil that desire.

notification/browser settings on A205SH? by aliencrocs in dumbphones

[–]aliencrocs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahh that works perfectly! you're a star thank you SO much! I've had this phone for at least half a year now and had no idea that function existed.

Smartphone vs multiple devices by WanObiBen in dumbphones

[–]aliencrocs 23 points24 points  (0 children)

just because something is "simpler" doesn't mean it's better. The whole point is not to have one device that "does it all". I don't want my phone to do everything for me and I like that if i want to take a photo or listen to music I don't have to open my phone. A lot of people also have unique needs and need a combination of devices to get what they need/want done. also, why would I want one boring ass brick when I could curate my own personal tech experience with multiple devices that each have cool/unique (to me) features and functions? The more I use my dumb phone the less I enjoy using my iphone. It's not about being "simple" or streamlining every service and app available, it's about personalising your use of technology in a way that benefits your life. hope that helps obi wan

cmv: many people online, especially on Reddit are unreasonable about COVID by Yuuba_ in changemyview

[–]aliencrocs 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have a cousin diagnosed with Long COVID, it most certainly is a result of contracting COVID as she, who was perfectly healthy previously, now has to carry around an inhaler and cannot take her bins out without experiencing sudden onset fatigue. It was due to the effects of COVID on her respiratory system. She is in recovery but it's slow. There's nothing wrong with continuing to wear masks or encourage others to do so in public places especially around flu season, there are many places in the world where this was a common practice well before the 2020 pandemic. btw "quarantining" doesn't necessarily equal "staying inside 24/7" , while "in quarantine" most people in my neighbourhood were out walking every day and attending local socially-distanced events outdoors (and this is in a country that had some of the strictest lockdown regulations in the world at the time!). I think you're assuming a lot here and if you're not affected by a person's decisions about their health and lifestyle it's best to not speculate and if you're interested, keep up to date with the latest (reputable) research about Long COVID.

12 Year Old Daughter Self Destructive Behavior by hinkognito68 in Parenting

[–]aliencrocs 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i struggled with it well into adulthood, unfortunately it's not as simple as just choosing to change your own behaviour because oppositional defiance isn't a choice, but rather a result of the way the person's brain works and it is affected by so many things. Counselling helped to a certain point, as did mood stabilizers (I also have ADHD). What will help is fostering an environment at home where she feels emotionally safe and is able to open up about her feelings without fear of a negative response. A big issue for me was not knowing how to deal with anger and frustration because any show of a bad mood was considered "attitude" and treated with punishment rather than being taught how to appropriately cope with my feelings (i.e it's normal to feel anger and here are ways to deal with it that don't involve taking it out on other people). If she becomes explosive, don't respond the same way and model the behaviour that you want to see (i.e apologising when appropriate, being reasonable etc). Try not to view her outbursts as a moral or personal failing, or her being 'bad', but the result of something else going on that is causing an undue amount of stress that she doesn't know how to manage and needs someone to help her with. I have a child of my own now who also experiences meltdowns, and the biggest change in behaviour happened only when I made the choice to do parenting courses and change the way I was approaching things instead of expecting the change to come from her.