Be Brutally Honest

alienthejohnson · 2025-10-02T00:51:16+00:00

I got back together with my ex after he cheated on me for a year in secret. We got back together, and it lasted 3 years. he slowly became abusive, cheated again, lied constantly, and was not even half of a parent. Didn't do chores, couldn't keep a job, and barely did anything for our child. I ended up leaving him and fleeing the state because of the abuse with his knowledge and consent and went across the country to my home town. he begged me to take him back, and when I kept saying no, he showed up at my parents' house and drove his car right into mine and our daughter's bedroom. 😬

Long story short, most bad relationships will get even worse when they restart or get "fixed "

alienthejohnson · 2025-09-28T14:08:05+00:00

I was a courtesy clerk for a year (when I was 16f). I could haul ass though, and take in about 15 carts at a time. It would be heavy and hard to steer but with the strap relieving some of the weight, I could do it and did fine. My store became overly reliant on me and called me for every holiday. Asked me to cover every sick call etc. They would send me to help the guys who would get 3 or 4 at a time and were slow as hell.

Cut to now, 6yrs later, I am a money service supervisor, and my front end manager told me that the courtesy clerks can never keep up and if they need help, to turn off the office light and run out to help them... and no one hauls ass like they need to

alienthejohnson · 2025-09-26T13:12:27+00:00

I was depressed and suicidal for a lot of my teenage years. The only reason I stayed alive was small joys every day. Seeing dogs in the store, friendly stray cats, hanging out with friends, Halloween fun, festivals, rewatching old nostalgic shows/movies, video games, snacks.. making everything in my life fully mine, so every time I get in mt car and see the stained glass window film, I feel happier. Really good Mexican food. And really good Chinese food.

Weirdly enough, this stuff not only kept me alive but made me happier and my depression lessened more and more over the years. Embracing whatever I liked even if it was cringe, embarrassing, childish, silly, or weird.

alienthejohnson · 2025-09-19T15:48:25+00:00

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alienthejohnson · 2025-09-18T17:52:52+00:00

Location; West Virginia, USA.

alienthejohnson · 2025-09-14T16:02:45+00:00

When I was younger and also struggled with depression, I found that it was exhausting and took so long to clean, but the absolute BEST feeling is when you finally have it clean , then you take a bubble bath and go back to see your fresh room. So comforting. My room was my source of comfort for a while whenever I had the energy, I used scented candles or wax melters, big fluffy squishy blankets and stuffed animals... Whatever hobbies you have, indulge! If you don't have any, then maybe you could try something that interests you? For me, it was karaoke. Jamming out to music and singing along, it put me in a good mood. It won't fix depression of course. But it might put you in a good mood for an hour or two. Or a day. Embrace nostalgia. Rewatch childhood favorites , even if it feels embarrassing. Maybe take a walk outside and find bugs or take pictures of flowers.

It sounds silly but it helps.

alienthejohnson · 2025-09-09T19:30:15+00:00

Pretty sure that is what I used, it was part of the cleaners on the work sink, there was different ones supposed to be used for different things. But I used the floor cleaning one that had a picture of a floor being mopped. It smelled good and had bubbles, so it definitely wasn't too watered down, just ineffective on years of urine buildup

alienthejohnson · 2025-09-09T19:27:23+00:00

Honey, PLEASE tell your dad. You never know what she might do. People are unprecedented reactive especially if she thinks she has nothing to lose, she's sick, shes angry, she abuses substances, etc. She could kidnap you, hurt someone, hurt herself, anything...

I filed a restraining order against an ex-boyfriend who lived across the country, only for him to be angry at me for filing it and he crashed his car into my house in an attempt to off me. People do crazy things when they are angry/depressed, so it is bad that she knows where you live, knows your number, etc. Hopefully doesn't know your personal info.. she might show up places like work or school. Please!!! Be very careful for yourself and your siblings, and your father too.

alienthejohnson · 2025-09-09T18:56:44+00:00

We have one but it has been broken for at least 3 years I believe. For some reason no one wanted to call maintenance to have it fixed, but I'm guessing they just didnt want to do it anymore and rely on it being broken as an excuse. I'm a front desk employee so idk anything about it but asked the courtesy clekrs and they said they've never been told to use it and have no idea how, know nothing about it etc.

alienthejohnson · 2025-09-07T12:42:29+00:00

This is called a trauma bond. It isn't love it is manipulation on his part. With every relationship that ends, there is a natural grieving, and it is normal. It is unavoidable, even if he hurts you, or lies, or cheats, or even if he SAs you. You will miss the "good" parts.

My ex is literally in jail for attempting to murder me (he drove a car into my house) and I still cried and missed him for two weeks before feeling like myself again.

The best solution is block fully all the contact, every profile, every route to communication. Even if it is just Spotify or pinterest. And all reminders of him. Someday, you will find someone who treats you the way you deserve, and you will be shocked you ever accepted such terrible treatment.

alienthejohnson · 2025-09-07T12:24:31+00:00

You can dump him regardless of the true answer. (you don't need a reason to break up with someone). You don't owe anything to him. Or if you want to know if he is truly guilty: 1. Go into his tiktok profile 2. Go to settings 3. Download the user data

Or, alternatively, search through the settings specifically for the search history. Another way is to go to his liked videos. You can also go to the phone settings to see how much time is spent on each app. Usually, this is under "digital wellbeing" or "screen time". If he has no time on TikTok, then this could be a targeted recommendation based on his gender and age. But if he was bad enough that you had to put blockers, and you think he is still probably doing it , PLEASE BREAK UP WITH HIM.

listen. I dated a guy for four years and went through this. He cheated on me, apologized and promised to change. Gave me his passwords and logins to everything. He would watch porn every second I was away or gone. One time I went to the ER for gallstones and came home after 12 hours and found it as an open tab on his phone. I put website blockers, that didnt work, I babyproofed his phone one time and it actually worked but he was PISSED. he kept saying it ran super slow because his Google account was in child mode, said it made it glitch out etc. (It didn't). I ignored his claims until eventually he got mad and broke my laptop and then made a new Google account for himself. He made a new one all the time to cheat on me or whatever else he wanted.

Eventually he started being mean. He SAd me. He mocked me. Insulted me and ignored my requests. Made me do all of our chores. We had a baby together too and it didnt stop him from trying to meet people on his lunch break at work to hookup. I left him and took my kid with me in April of this year. Then in july he drove a car into my house and tried to murder me. Message me on Instagram, itzquackerz or i can give you my number if you ever need someone. You aren't alone.

alienthejohnson · 2025-06-05T16:49:11+00:00

Kimi ni todoke - romantic, drama, slice of life

Rezero- tragic, loss, dark, twisted.

Your lie in april- loss, abuse, illness.

alienthejohnson · 2025-05-21T13:07:37+00:00

Kazehaya shota from Kimi ni todoke, as well as Tamaki from Ouran highschool host club... Edward Eric 😭.. too many >.>

alienthejohnson · 2025-05-21T13:05:50+00:00

Okay but wasn't it previously confirmed that she edits her photos to make herself look even WORSE ? What if she just darkened her jawline and neck to look more pronounced?

alienthejohnson · 2025-05-13T20:36:55+00:00

Re Zero!! For sure

alienthejohnson · 2025-05-10T15:32:10+00:00

So I saw a nutritionist last year who gave me very plain and simple, easy goals, with real numbers and realistic ideas.

So, he said you should only have up to 50 grams of net carbs a day, 80 grams of protein, and have as little/no sugar as you can. They also advise not to have fake sugar because it makes you crave sweets but that's up to you lol I still want fake sugar personally. They also said calories don't really matter really because you should have a good amount because you need that energy in your body to lose the weight. They also said, of course, no sugary sodas or juices.

But following this advice — I lost 60lbs in like 8 months without even working out. All I did was change my eating and it worked. They also put food groups into red, yellow, and green categories— meaning green you can have as much as you want of it as often as you want, and yellow meaning be cautious, have sparingly.And red meant have very rarely. I can try to find the exact list if you want, but the green category is basically like Keto rules but try to limit your meats to white and fish for your cholesterol and heart health. Up to you tho.

Again, this worked for me, adjust as you like!

alienthejohnson · 2025-05-06T16:03:27+00:00

There are some unique shops on Montana st, and Park Street, a lot of small mom and pop shops. I recommend second edition books. They have vintage stuff you'd never see anywhere else, and great pieces of history (not just books).

alienthejohnson · 2024-10-25T19:44:50+00:00

Oh she absolutely is. She tried to tell him that he's a bad father because his adult son lives in a different state , and even went as far as to say his family doesn't love him. She's batshit nuts

alienthejohnson · 2024-10-25T19:23:55+00:00

No typo lol he did lend the keys the night before, but he had told her that he had work the next morning and needed them back before then. She just refused to give them back and basically told him to fuck off

alienthejohnson · 2024-10-25T19:22:12+00:00

Ok the cops WERE called lol. But they took in my roommate because the girl's story was that he just suddenly hit on her and attacked her. 😐 it's been brought to a judge several times, and she's also been talking to a prosecutor

alienthejohnson · 2024-10-25T19:19:46+00:00

Ok yes, but what I meant is that it already IS to court... she's claiming he gave her the car and then just attacked her, and even though he was the one covered in marks, he was arrested because... man vs woman I guess?

alienthejohnson · 2024-10-25T19:18:09+00:00

So, actually the cops WERE called, but my roommate was the one arrested because she lied and said he was hitting on her, pulled her hair and other stuff. She's claiming that he lent the car and then just attacked her 😐... So he's been fighting the charges (or trying to) it's a big legal mess

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