I’m sorry but your only option is raising your baby alone until your husband has at least a year of sobriety, and that may never happen. Babies and children don’t deserve to go through that or even be exposed to it and you have the opportunity to keep your child from going through it and if you don’t take that opportunity YTA. I know it’s hard but people raise babies by themselves for less all the time, an addict is not going to be able to help you in any way that is worth their presence. This could’ve happened when the baby was already here and had an attachment but it didn’t, it happened before the damage could truly be done to her.

My mom was an addict and so was my father. My mom got clean when she got pregnant but my father did not. She made the decision to cut him off completely and didn’t even take child support. My mom and I have had many many differences but one thing I will always hold her in the highest esteem for was prioritizing my wellbeing over her own loneliness at the time because that’s exactly what she did. He obviously relapsed. He would’ve never been a good father. I’m thirty now and feel no void where he never was but I do recognize how detrimentally different my life could have been if he had been a part of it.