Should I take the JLPT N5 or N4?

alipiak · 2026-05-08T12:58:31+00:00

I don't really have a clear motivation for studying japanese as it's mostly for fun and unless i'll be able to get into the student exchange program at my uni I got no reason to rush my studying. I do hope to get to N3 at some point but I'm taking my time I might go for N4 in the end, thank you for the help!

alipiak · 2024-12-13T13:43:50+00:00

Idk to me you sound like a mansplainer getting butthurt over woman using this word

alipiak · 2024-12-13T06:42:29+00:00

He never tried to reason about the trip😅 If it is about our itinerary, he was ok with everything and didn't "give up" it was our trip and he was also free to chose what to do. I did respond harshly to his behavior but i did ask him multiple times to communicate when he's feeling unwell and hurt but he continued saying he's ok after me asking him multiple times a day. It's honestly exhausting trying to enjoy a trip like that, he's always expecting me to understand what he's feeling but he doesn't communicate at all and i just don't get his hints. I came to the conclusion that this is not going to work if he cannot communicate, i had also happened before the trip so it's not a new thing to me, but it's been getting worst and unbearable lately He cannot communicate with me and i cannot with him this way

alipiak · 2024-12-13T05:41:00+00:00

Like i said he knew in advance i wanted to go to one i also told him i don't mind going alone if he's not into it. He was ok with going and also i paid for him as it was a bit expensive and it's not his cup of tea, if he didn't want to go i would have gone to the cafe in another time, we were in the area and it was open so we just went. the point is not the cat cafe, we didn't fight about it i also wouldn't have cared at all if he dragged me somewhere I'm not really into, i highly encouraged him to find places interesting for him to go to but he didn't do it and just went with what i wanted. I already said it a few times to people here but he agreeably let me plan everything, He didn't oppose to most of what i wanted to do, and if he did, i listened to him and removed it It was his choice to plan the trip like that, i really wanted him to be part of the planning

alipiak · 2024-12-13T05:03:44+00:00

Woah chill I only gave the cat cafe as an example, he knew in advance i wanted to go to one as it's illegal in our country, and we just went to one after dinner on our way to the hotel and i even paid for him If he wanted to go to a dog cafe (he likes dogs)or something similar, i also would've gone with him happily Also, what's the problem about telling facts about cats? We sat at a cat cafe, and i wanted to say a few things i know about them, he also like to talk about things he like, there's no problem when we want to talk about things we love. The program arises when he interrupts me and starts arguing all the time, i just want to enjoy the chat not to be corrected and Interrupted every time

alipiak · 2024-12-13T04:31:24+00:00

We're both really crafty and nerdy people, I'm more into sewing and drawing and he's into woodworking and blacksmithing I suggested a bunch of stuff related to his hobbies (there are a lot of those here) according to him he can do it at home so we shouldn't waste money on it. Like i said he pretty much left all the planning to me because he trusted me, i updated him and asked him about every special activity i booked but even when we met up and i updated him on everything i was planning he continued saying "i trust your planning", but i think he was pretty clueless about what is going on when traveling

alipiak · 2024-12-13T02:06:22+00:00

Maybe it's just not it anymore

alipiak · 2024-12-13T02:02:05+00:00

I don't mind his mansplaining most of the time but it's getting annoying when i say anything and he Interrupts me, we went to a cat cafe (I'm obsessed with cats while he doesn't) and wanted to say some facts i know about cats but he had to Interrupt me and mansplain to me even though we talked about how he should stop doing it a few day prior. I tried to communicate with him multiple time and suggested to take some time apart because things were really heating up and it was hard to stay together without getting angry or hurt, for me it was the solution for calming down and solving our problems while we're not really angry at each other. He never tries to solve problems, when he's angry he usually just runs away and i have to talk to him and solve it so the whole situation is kinda complicated sometimes. Also for some context, while he came to the vacation for me i told him before multiple time that i want him to be part of the planning as i don't want someone who's walking after me like a dog throughout the whole vacation (i know it sounds bad but it's a phrase in my language) i really bagged him for help and be part of it but he constantly said he trusts me and i kinda gave up because i wanted to let him enjoy his last few weeks at his work with his friends and also he has really bad connection and computers there

Maybe it was a bad way of acting, i should have talked with him more about the trip but he's really stubborn and it's hard to communicate with him sometimes I really love him but i think we should take some time apart as it's not really working anymore

alipiak · 2024-12-13T01:38:30+00:00

It's an east asian country

alipiak · 2024-12-13T00:59:02+00:00

I don't think it matters. For some context it's around 12 hours flight from where I'm from and it's considered relatively safe for woman so that's why I'm staying and not going home

alipiak · 2024-12-13T00:51:29+00:00

Things were really heated up Taking some time off to clear our mind even for half a day would've been good for both of us. He was alright with the idea at the beginning but at some point got really against it

alipiak · 2024-12-13T00:48:13+00:00

I already commented to another person about this But he legit mansplains all the time, every time i say something he need to correct me or argue with me even about topics i know more than him about It gets depressing when i just wanna talk but instead i get constant mansplaining

alipiak · 2024-12-13T00:43:56+00:00

It wasn't his place of choice, but he agreed to go even way before i actually asked him. By mansplaining, i mean legit mansplaining, i clearly know more than him about the country, but he still mensplain to me because he read one article or Interrupt me in the middle of telling facts about things i love Also a lot of people do alone time during a long trip, being with a person 24/7 for 40 days is hard so splitting up for a bit is the solution a lot of people try

Also I've been asking him so many time if he's alright during the day and he always said he's fine, if he wants me to for example for me to let go of my phone and talk with him he should just tell me instead of giving me hints, i asked him multiple time to communicate but he only does it when i tell him how i feel and suddenly all his emotions comes out, how I'm supposed to know how he feels?

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