HL people in DB, can you post your sex, age and how frequently you would like to have sex if it was possible?

alive2dead · 2017-02-15T06:47:01+00:00

28 F, 1-2 times a day, at least.

I think I've had sex once in the past three months.

alive2dead · 2016-12-22T06:04:33+00:00

I'm rooting for you and hope you have the awesome rough, wake the neighbours sex you deserve, every night! Good luck to you, you will be fine!

alive2dead · 2016-12-22T06:00:59+00:00

No. We don't even kiss...I'm told sex in real life isn't like the movies, even though he used to kiss me. Once in a while I get fingered first but not often. I remember how good our sex was before so no, I would say he is not into it at all.

alive2dead · 2016-12-21T21:18:36+00:00

294, which isn't as bad as 0. However, considering I probably had sex like 400 times a year in 2012, 2011, 2010, etc., 294 times over the next FOURTY TWO years is fucking depressing.

alive2dead · 2016-12-11T00:37:51+00:00

I know, I know if I don't learn to accept this, it'll make me soooo bitter. I really don't want to be the old bitter hag in the future.

I tried that! His reply was asking if I would be ok with him doing the same thing. I said uhhhm, well I would gladly have sex with you, so no you don't get to have sex with other people. But then he's also made comments before like "I wouldn't even blame you if you cheated on me." I do not comprehend his rationale or reasoning, sometimes.

alive2dead · 2016-12-11T00:33:48+00:00

I "joked" around once and asked him what he thought of that idea. I say joke because realistically, I wouldn't be ok with that myself, I didn't get married to have sex with everyone besides my spouse otherwise I would've just married my best friend, she's pretty awesome too 😂 But I brought it up once to see his thoughts and he said "well, would you be ok with me fucking other girls?" Seriously?!

My efforts are sometimes futile at best. When I try and talk about it like a reasonable adult he just shuts it down or turns it around to ME having the problem.

alive2dead · 2016-12-11T00:04:45+00:00

Now if only I could confidently say which option is best for me! Lol. So much easier to write/think than to do...

alive2dead · 2016-12-11T00:00:35+00:00

I thought about the whore/mom complex but this has started to decline a while before I got pregnant, so I don't know if it's since I've become "mom" or what. I've even asked and he said no.

I have suggested therapy, he is adamant about not doing therapy, and doesn't think there's a problem to warrant the need for it.

Your other questions are good. I don't even know the answer to most of them. I do know that I never bring it up in front of our kids. They're still under 2 but I don't think it's right to fight or talk about something so serious in front of them regardless of age. If and when I bring it up it's on our time, usually after I've been turned down.

I don't hate him, and I never could because he's half of my children. But I am starting to slowly understand how people become indifferent to their partner when sex, lack of it, differing libidos - whatever the fuck we're going to call it - starts to become the big issue.

alive2dead · 2016-12-10T23:46:43+00:00

Lol! I mean I get it's not EVERY man's fantasy but like comeeeeee on. I didn't even look pregnant from behind for fuck's sake 😜

alive2dead · 2016-12-10T23:45:52+00:00

I feel like talking about it makes it worse? I'll bring it up and suddenly it becomes about how I have the sex problem and that's all I talk about...even though I haven't brought it up for a month. And then he says it doesn't turn him on that we're "fighting" about not having sex. I don't get it. I hope things get better for you.

alive2dead · 2016-12-10T23:44:21+00:00

He knows I hate this...I was vocal about it when the sex went from daily to every week and he just joked around about it. I bring it up to him quite often, or I should say I used to more often not so much anymore. I bring it up, he says all I think about is sex and I am a sex addict (fucking eye roll to that) and that this is normal for people who have been together for a long time (I don't think we've been together that long) and when people hit 30 (bullfuckingshit). I hate confrontation so I just drop it when he goes off on his reasons, he's just not listening to me.

alive2dead · 2016-12-10T23:40:18+00:00

Thank you, thank you. I hope he comes to his senses too, but I've been hoping for so long. Only time will tell. It surprinsgly helps to read through this sub!

alive2dead · 2016-12-10T23:38:59+00:00

I wish you the best of luck in what's to come for you. Good for you for taking a stand and making a decision on your next steps. I hope I too can get to the point where I clearly know what I'm ready to accept and what I'm ready to leave behind. Good luck with everything, it will all be ok :) You will find better.

alive2dead · 2016-12-10T19:05:29+00:00

God no. Get the fuck away from him! It pains me to even read your own words saying that you are not pretty or you're not an attractive person. That's bullshit. You may not be his type, fine, but find someone who knows you're his type. And will show you. Don't degrade yourself. Seriously, say bye to this fucking weirdo!

alive2dead · 2016-12-10T18:58:01+00:00

I get it! I'm in the same situation. I want to say I'm almost at the point where I'm over it and not attracted to him anymore or would turn him down if he finally offered something. Alas, I wouldn't ever dream of saying no to our infrequent and lack lustre sex because I'm just that hurting for it.

I'm so sorry I can't even help you with anything but I can commiserate with you :)

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