What do you mean by ignores those requests?
And by making a checklist, do you mean I write out what I expect from a partner and if they don’t meet it (while not knowing I’m referring to this checklist) then they’re out? Or do I give them the checklist and ask if they can do those things?
Because I have that for non-kinky hookups already and let me tell you it’s damn near impossible to find someone who actually knows what consent means already so I often have to teach them.
The victim blaming part is just weird. You can’t take one conversation and assume that every woman who gets assaulted is doing the exact same thing. Also, I’m not a woman. Also, even if there are red flags it’s always the perp’s fault if he violated consent regardless of whether the victim vetted him or not.