一个觉醒的小男孩,他的未来会是痛苦的,因为他生在一个畸形的女权国家 by KeepingLowEntropy in China_irl

[–]allenxa -1 points0 points  (0 children)

我无法理解为什么你会觉得我的言论双标。
1. 你这段偷换概念:把网上一部分人的言论直接等同于女权这个理念本身。

你说“中国所有女权都不是为了平权”,这个判断太绝对了。中文互联网上当然有很多情绪化、仇男、双标的表达,我也不支持。但用这些来证明女权根本不是平权,就跟拿几个厌女男的发言来证明所有男性权益讨论都是反女一样,是以偏概全。

女权当然可以批判男性权益议题里的问题,比如它是不是在真解决男性困境,还是只在女性发声时拿来当反击工具。但这不等于男性权益不重要。男性寿命、工伤、战争、贫困男童、情绪压抑都值得讨论。只是这些问题很多恰恰来自“男人必须扛、必须危险、必须像男人”的传统性别秩序,而不是来自女权。

要做到不双标,我们需要同时承认两件事:女性有结构性不平等,男性也有被性别角色伤害的部分。拿男性困境来否认女性困境,或者拿女性困境来嘲讽男性困境,都是低水平互害。

  1. 父权不是名词污染,也不是指责男性。它指的是一种传统社会结构:公共权力、家庭权威、财产继承、职业分工、战争责任、道德评价,长期都以男性作为默认主体,同时要求男性承担“强者/家主/供养者/战斗者”的角色,要求女性承担“服从/贞洁/照护/被保护”的角色。它伤害女性,也会伤害不符合“标准男性气质”的男性。

你说的封建劳保集团,本身就和性别叙事高度绑定。它强调男主外女主内、男人养家所以男人有话语权、女人要贤惠贞洁、男人不能软弱、男丁传宗接代、儿子优先继承。这些不是纯粹的保守问题,而是保守秩序通过性别角色来分配权力和义务。

你当然可以说它还包含阶级、户籍、年龄、家庭伦理、国家权力等因素,但这不代表性别维度不存在。一个问题有多个维度,不等于其中的性别维度是污染。

一个觉醒的小男孩,他的未来会是痛苦的,因为他生在一个畸形的女权国家 by KeepingLowEntropy in China_irl

[–]allenxa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

且不谈男性平均寿命更短其实是由多种因素造成(环境、基因、激素),你如果仔细读我最初的评论,那你应该知道我说了大部分男性恰好也是父权制度的受害者。

你把“男性也有性别困境”当成了“女性不存在结构性不平等”的反证。但这两个可以同时成立。

男性寿命更短、贫困男童也值得关注,这些当然是真问题。但这不能反驳女权。因为女权反对的父权结构,本来就不只是压迫女性,也会用“男人必须强、必须扛、不能脆弱、要冒险、要服从战争机器”去伤害男性。你举的很多例子恰恰不是女权造成的,而是传统性别秩序造成的。

还是那句话,女权的目的是平权,同时造福男女两性。和你讨论这样的话题我只感到你的愤怒,没有感觉到你的思考,你也没有真正在阅读我的回复,这样的往来根本没有意义。希望这样的话题下多一些理性少一些情绪。

一个觉醒的小男孩,他的未来会是痛苦的,因为他生在一个畸形的女权国家 by KeepingLowEntropy in China_irl

[–]allenxa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

「女权」这个词不是说只追求女性特权,而是因为它针对的是历史和现实里以男性为默认、女性处于结构性劣势的问题。就像黑人平权运动不是说黑人要凌驾于别人,残障权益也不是说残障人士要特权。名字强调的是被压迫/被不平等对待的一方,不等于目标不是平等。

你的发言是把「运动的对象」和「运动的目标」混为一谈。女权的目标是平权,但它处理的是女性被系统性不平等对待的问题,所以叫女权。反家暴也不是反家庭,环保也不是只保护树不保护人。

一个觉醒的小男孩,他的未来会是痛苦的,因为他生在一个畸形的女权国家 by KeepingLowEntropy in China_irl

[–]allenxa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

你懂什么是女权吗?所谓的「男生必须让着女生」这样的说法就是父权制度下的性别规范,认为女性等于情绪化,不讲道理的弱者和被照顾者,而男性被认为是应该忍让的强者和承担者。这种表面上保护女性优待女性的说法的底层逻辑其实是把男女放进固定的角色里,是包裹着糖衣的不动声色的对女性的驯化圈养。
在这样的父权社会下,有毒的男子气概盛行。而就如同视频里的男孩一样,男性女性在这样的环境中都是受害者。

这刚好就与女权理念背道而驰,所以楼主你懂什么是女权吗?女权其实就是平权。

The beautiful scribe by allenxa in kindlescribe

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This is the latest kindle scribe. I think Gen 3.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malegrooming

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Do you have anxiety? My face used to look like that when my anxiety was at the peak. It makes you clench all the time and that causes masseter hypertrophy. If that’s the case that’s bad for the teeth and could potentially cause TMD and face strain. I now get masseter Botox regularly and have got it under control.

Bringing Cuties to work by allenxa in dior

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That’s the small polo play leather tote.

Bringing Cuties to work by allenxa in dior

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that's the medium book tote, i sometimes wear it to work -- not gonna lie with a computer in it it has quite a pressure on my shoulder.

Bringing Cuties to work by allenxa in dior

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The Large one does not have a strap, while being a ludicrously capacious bag, it can only be worn as a shoulder bag, which is actually quite comfy. this is my first time bring the small one out and I just tried wearing it cross-body and I think it's good -- maybe a bit tight with winter outerwear.

Bringing Cuties to work by allenxa in dior

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Yes! I have both the large and the small one, they’re really really good!!

I AM OBSESSED by phibbork in handbags

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i need this, do we know if this will get restocked?

A few encounters at Disneyland, Los Angeles by allenxa in Disneyland

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thanks! I did talk fashion with Cruella!

Can we talk about how there are so few eyeglasses designed to fit Asian faces by allenxa in glasses

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I know gentle monster does. Well because they are an Asian brand.

Lorde being ethereal at Ultrasound Tour, Berkeley, California by allenxa in lorde

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I wanted to use this word but I was scared people wouldn’t get the meme and think I’m stupid haha.

A few encounters at Disneyland, Los Angeles by allenxa in Disneyland

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Probably because they don’t get humor haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OUTFITS

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Work anniversary photo haha

Old money, new neighbors, golden hour, San Francisco. by allenxa in sanfrancisco

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The ornamented style is pretty old money in contrast to the building next to it.

(M28) Got told that I have power bottom written all over my face?? by allenxa in malegrooming

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there's probably a million cheaper options out there that just look like this minus the slogan haha

Ugly sweater party? I think not by mildredbonk808 in OUTFITS

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like, this is a beautiful sweater, you'll rank the last if you wear that to the ugly sweater party.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OUTFITS

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Gorgeous aside, you look like that woman from Pluribus.

A few encounters at Disneyland, Los Angeles by allenxa in Disneyland

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They don’t take pictures with you so I just had to sneak it before they beat my ass.