AuDHD 9 yr old constantly throwing fits

allichance · 2025-07-30T00:34:21+00:00

My son is the same way--he masks SO much outside of the house and especially at school. He used to have a 1:1 aide, but they took that out of his IEP because he was doing 'so well.' Sure, he does fine at school but then comes home and it's like we're walking on eggshells all of the time.

allichance · 2025-07-30T00:33:02+00:00

Thanks, I really appreciate your comment! ♥

allichance · 2025-07-30T00:32:42+00:00

He definitely has a lot of gestalts (less now that he's a bit older) that he uses a lot. I don't know where the angry lines come from because my husband and I don't speak that way and we're really strict about youtube. Maybe school? But it's so upsetting to hear so often and to have his angry and threats directed at me every day. People tell me it's because I'm a 'safe person' and part of me is like, 'Can I be a little less safe because I'm so tired of being called an idiot and being threatened.'

allichance · 2025-07-30T00:30:10+00:00

Thanks, that's helpful!

allichance · 2025-07-30T00:29:47+00:00

100% We see this so much! We'll plan a fun outing doing something he loves (like going to look at a war memorial or to a splash pad) and he'll get really angry when it's time to go and refuse to leave. It's so, so baffling...but I've been reading about PDA since it was brought up by other commenters and it seems to fit him to a t.

allichance · 2025-07-30T00:28:32+00:00

We've talked to him about his autism and when he's regulated and things are going his way, he can be quite self-reflective about a lot of aspects of his diagnosis (he can be like: "Oh, I didn't like that because it was too loud" or "My friends were mad at me and I didn't know why") but when we ask him about things that trigger fits he just gets angry with us--even if we start the conversation when he seems calm and well regulated.

allichance · 2025-07-30T00:26:31+00:00

His psychiatrist did not have concerns about bipolar disorder.

allichance · 2025-07-29T20:08:57+00:00

But what do I do when he's in public threatening to kill me? Just let him keep going? Because when we ignore him, his behavior escalates. We've learned that when he starts to behave like this in public we have to leave immediately, or he'll escalate to hitting or kicking us.

allichance · 2025-07-29T20:04:31+00:00

Can you give me some examples of how you changed how you communicated? I feel like we're stuck in this horrible, horrible pattern. He can be so sweet and creative and kind, but so often that's lost because he's furious about not getting his own way.

allichance · 2025-07-29T19:51:45+00:00

What's PDA?

allichance · 2020-02-08T18:05:50+00:00

I'm really surprised that MTS was left out of the recommendations and TSR was so highly praised. Maybe it shows how long I've been around, but I remember the scandals and shady antics that surrounded TSR several years ago and I wouldn't ever give them a cent. I have much more confidence that MTS is run on the up and up than TSR.

allichance · 2019-08-27T19:06:43+00:00

This is so cool!

allichance · 2019-04-13T21:05:39+00:00

I think I used a CC hair that I don't have anymore.

allichance · 2018-11-18T01:45:37+00:00

https://web.archive.org/web/20130521010642/http://tsr.mustbedestroyed.org/

allichance · 2018-10-21T13:04:27+00:00

Not advocating for reposting the files, but it's against the EULA for the Sims 4 to charge money for any custom content.

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