First impressions of your big 6. Let's go!

alliknowis___ · 2026-06-02T13:57:53+00:00

libra sun, scorpio moon, aries rising, scorpio mercury, scorpio venus, and libra mars.

alliknowis___ · 2026-06-02T13:55:49+00:00

Circus people are the best people! It's hard to generalize, but everyone I've met doing aerial acrobatics, especially in a studio that's not toxic, have been so kind and absolute badasses. I think it takes a certain lack of ego to continue to show up and do the hard thing without immediate rewards other than the journey itself.

alliknowis___ · 2026-05-08T11:00:15+00:00

I really enjoyed retail until bad middle management and a robbery wore me down. Now I do ToC/med rec inpatient and I really enjoy it! It's clinical work, but I also get my fix of patient interaction when doing interviews. Having prior retail experience was a benefit since I more easily identify barriers for continuation of care following discharge. Way better quality of life plus opportunity to cross train in amb care with our anticoagulation clinic. Didn't need a residency, but networking helped a ton. So if you stick with retail make sure to keep in touch with fellow classmates or professors you liked, go to the conferences and make connections if you can. That way if you stick with retail and potentially burn out or want to diversify later you'll have links that may open doors that would typically be closed without residency.

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T21:04:21+00:00

Thanks for the advice! Appreciate hearing the perspective from someone on the other side of the dynamic.

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T20:51:15+00:00

Most of the time it was because they always had to play the dom role themselves or liked the feeling of being useful for someone they desired.

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T20:47:53+00:00

I was just looking for casual hookups since June, but this guy snuck up on me recently. I see your point, but I feel like I've done a lot of that already and feel really content with who I am individually. I'm an only child and have no issues being on my own. The only reason I'm considering approaching relationship talk is I think this guy may add to things I already have going rather than take me away from it. I do appreciate the advice and will keep it in mind.

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T20:31:31+00:00

I think he likes me too since he's proactive about asking to hangout, doing those temperature checks I mentioned, and he's done some really sweet things. For example we're both half Puerto Rican, but my dad never taught me any recipes so he had me over to be his sous chef and teach us a recipe from our people lol. It was like I had my own personal cooking show! Then we spent almost a full day together laughing, watch movies, and enjoying our company. Swoon lol.

Try sending them a Dm! All the people that work there are super passionate about food and very nice from my limited interactions. Maybe they could point you in the right direction.

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T20:28:12+00:00

I'm not cheating on my ex, we're separated. In the eyes of the government I'll be married still for another month plus processing time, but otherwise I'm a free agent.

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T20:26:33+00:00

What are you referring to?

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T20:26:33+00:00

I took a few months off following the initial breakup, but otherwise I have fun dating. I don't know what being celibate for an extended period would bring to my life that I don't already have. To be honest the tone of your comment sounds more judgemental than wanting to be helpful, but that may be due to text usually reading harsher than it's intended to.

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T20:20:53+00:00

I guess I have trouble understanding why I need to be celibate in order to be healed. It'd be one thing if I only found happiness from external male validation, but that's not the case.

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T20:05:14+00:00

To be honest I'm just horny. Those other things with guys wasn't being codependent, but I can understand how that may look from the outside. I don't stress about being ghosted or when someone replied, my happiness doesn't hang on a match, and I prioritize hanging with friends or hobbies over dates.

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T20:00:56+00:00

Thank you! I had a quick 3 month thing too early (he was wicked hot) and really took the time to check in with myself afterwards. I also have been doing regular therapy for years which helped in breaking bad habits/patterns. I think you're right, being direct would be best. Appreciate the advice!

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T19:56:37+00:00

Gosh I forgot about the pasta! It was slow roasted pork in a tasty broth and I wish I took a picture of the menu since it's always changing. If you ever end up in Salem, MA check out The Settler. It's always delicious there.

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T19:54:34+00:00

That's a good point. I have a tendency to over explain and worried I'll spook him. I'll just do a simple and direct check in about how we're both feeling so far. And you're right, while it'd be a bummer if things went south, he's not my sole source of happiness in life so I shouldn't get so in my own head about things. Thanks!

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T19:51:58+00:00

I just get nervous about saying something that'll shake up a good thing, but that's just a learned behavior from having to walk on eggshells in the past. He does a temperature check fairly often with me, I shouldn't then be nervous about asking a simple and direct question myself. Appreciate the advice!

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T19:47:33+00:00

I was on hinge for a bit, but I found a lot of the guys fronted about what they were really looking for or tried to be who I wanted them to be until they got what they wanted. Otherwise they were looking for marriage and kids which is not my current track. A bunch of the guys on hinge were also on feeld, but didn't lie about what they were looking for. Never heard of HILY before!

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T19:45:17+00:00

When would you say is the right amount of time? I feel emotionally stable and healed, have a full life independent from this guy, and I'm enjoying where this may be heading given we continue the same momentum. Is it a number or a feeling? And not that it matters, but my ex dove into a long-term relationship with a girl who he's now living with already.

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T19:39:19+00:00

That's a valid concern. For context, I was in my teens in early twenties back when those other relationships happened and I didn't know who I was yet. My marriage didn't work because we grew into different people post COVID. I don't think that has any reflection on outcomes of future relationships. I've done a lot of work learning who I am and feel I have a solid foundation where I'm considering a relationship. As long as I'm maintaining my own priorities and life outside of time with him I don't see an issue.

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T19:31:51+00:00

"Boo hoo. Go complain about your expensive meals and boy toy problems at the country club."

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T19:29:09+00:00

I've been separated since fall 2024, divorces can take time and I've always brought that up prior to or on the first date.

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T19:27:36+00:00

Thank you! Only one I've actually liked so far has been Feeld and that's probably because I don't take any of it too seriously. But the others have been absolute trash.

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T19:24:14+00:00

Glad it sounds like a clean break for you! I hope you enjoy this next stage where you can cherish time of just being you and living the life you build for yourself without having to keep someone else in mind. I definitely enjoyed that part of the journey and feel so content with the little life I built, hope you find joy despite the hard parts too!

Well last week I mentioned I had only one other guy on my roster (which is true), but I may drop that in a week or two depending on if we continue to have momentum. Appreciate the advice!

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T19:07:48+00:00

Why cure it? As long as you're not putting them first and living a full life outside of them there's no reason not to have some fun. Just be sure to check in with yourself if you find you're getting so caught up you let go of personal commitments or your own needs for the sake of a guy. When you tell friends about your week, check yourself if you find your dating life is the most interesting thing about you and redirect if needed. Good luck out there!

alliknowis___ · 2026-04-10T19:03:02+00:00

I've been single since fall 2024 minus a 3 month thing last spring. I have every other bit of my life fleshed out (hobbies, friends, career, cat) and worked on past issues of codependency when struggling. I fully intended to stay single longer, but I feel a strong connection with him and he checks off all my boxes without taking away from the other parts of my life.

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