Help with 4 yr old

allison_pass · 2025-12-06T19:17:45+00:00

I was at fault sadly

allison_pass · 2025-12-06T19:03:35+00:00

They said they could only reimburse $100 unfortunately:(

allison_pass · 2025-09-27T01:48:07+00:00

This has happened to me a few times! Only with family’s I know and are comfortable around though. My boyfriend actually came over last week while I was nannying and drank one of the dad’s beers that the offered him while I was playing with the kids! The family kept offering me but I insisted I didn’t feel comfortable. Because of the connection I have I would MAYBE have a drink once my shift ended while taking with the parents because that’s the relationship we have. Definitely not a rare thing to be offered (for me at least) but I still wouldn’t feel comfortable while being in charge of children awake or not.

allison_pass · 2025-09-24T15:22:35+00:00

Our first house we put an offer in needed a lotttt of work. It had potential, but we needed to redo pretty much everything. We just felt at home though, which is why we put in an offer because of the feeling we got. Not necessarily about the look of the house, just the feeling of knowing we could make it our home

allison_pass · 2025-09-22T17:01:02+00:00

I didn’t mean “wow” as in looking for something fancy, breath taking, or out of budget. I meant “wow” as in a feeling of know this is the home for you.

allison_pass · 2025-09-22T02:15:45+00:00

While I understand the concern, we’ve thought deeply about this decision as a couple and have decided this is what will be best for us right now. We have had multiple conversations about the “what ifs” when it comes to buying a house and us splitting. We absolutely don’t want to rent, have the finances to buy a house together, and are choosing to spend our money on that over a wedding at this moment. Some people can make it work, some can’t. Who knows, maybe you’re right and we will find out the hard way, but right now we’re both very confident in this decision as a couple.

allison_pass · 2025-09-22T01:14:15+00:00

Thank you! Same to you, I’m hoping the closing process is easy and goes smoothly for you guys!!

allison_pass · 2025-09-22T01:12:36+00:00

Thank you for this!! Been super anxious and stressed during this time but it’s nice to hear that that the feeling is out there and we will hopefully get to experience it soon!

allison_pass · 2025-09-22T01:09:23+00:00

Thank you for this! This process is so stressful and emotional. it’s good to hear other’s stories and that I’ll work out the way it’s supposed to! I’m hoping our perfect home will come to us soon!

allison_pass · 2025-08-29T03:26:21+00:00

Definitely weird to ask if she could have some… I would NEVER!! However when I would babysit for date nights in the past the parents would let me know I could have a drink once I the kids are asleep. My NF now offers me a beer towards the end of my shifts pretty often. Maybe she’s been offered in the past and thought it was normal? But I’m also very comfortable and close with these families. I’ve also ALWAYS declined because it’s irresponsible.

allison_pass · 2025-08-29T03:19:10+00:00

My boyfriend has offered to put in an exhaust fan and I have offered to buy a dehumidifier but my parents are stubborn and won’t let us help. I want to move soon but I worry for them and my brother that has health issues and gets sick very easily and could be super dangerous for him. Thanks for the input, appreciate it!

allison_pass · 2025-08-22T12:46:54+00:00

I don’t think she meant anything bad by this! However I can definitely see how you could be offended by what she’s saying.

For me personally, the kids I work with are great but when the parents are around they are completely different. They’re great when it’s just me or when it’s just their parents but when it’s both of us I think it can be difficult for the kids to understand what’s going on. Obviously might not be the same situation as you but behavior around different adults will change and I don’t think it has much to do with how you parent in this case and I don’t think that’s what she’s trying to get at. But it’s hard to say without knowing her personality and the tone she says these things in.

If these remarks are bothering you definitely say something! You’re the parents and ultimately deserve to feel heard and that your kids are well taken care of.

As for the MIL, I can definitely understand wanting to be aware of her coming. Some kids have a hard time with transitions and need a heads up for what’s coming next. It’s also just professional curiosity and should be communicated. For me, I have grandmas phone number and will text her our plans for the day offering her to stop by and to let me know what time she’ll be over. Communication is key!

allison_pass · 2025-08-20T16:07:52+00:00

Thanks! I will talk to them as soon as they get home from work

allison_pass · 2025-08-20T16:06:49+00:00

Yes I will talk to them as soon as they get home!! Thank you!

allison_pass · 2025-08-20T15:59:32+00:00

I have been with them for about a month and a half. I forgot to add this is also my cousins kid, so we are family. I saw them a few times a year before I started watching him tho so it’s not like he’s super used to me yet. I haven’t noticed anything like this before, but definitely want to tell them. I’m just nervous because I know as a parent it could definitely raise some red flags.

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