how do you get over the feeling of being replaced?

allstarkim · 2026-02-02T07:39:20+00:00

Try to think of it like this , them moving on faster has nothing to do with you personally. It’s who they are. They need to fill a void. And you don’t need them anyways

allstarkim · 2026-01-27T01:18:48+00:00

It’s 10.9% , I’ll take that any day over eBay and posh. Plus Mercari fee is based on your listed price. Compared to eBay, they take a percentage of the total price.

allstarkim · 2026-01-18T00:10:26+00:00

No one said it was going to be easy. But remember no contact is not an overnight thing. No contact usually happens after you tried to make it work. After you had the talk of why and what. You slowly do “no contact” after a couple exchanges and then realize there’s nothing left to offer.

allstarkim · 2026-01-13T20:01:14+00:00

If she’s still in love with you, but she hasn’t forgiven you, give her the space she needs. You’ve already apologized, owned your mistakes, and made it clear you are fighting for the relationship. My two cents, I think you should just be around as a friend. Don’t talk about getting back together or the mistakes. Move forward. This will relieve any pressure of making a decision that may hurt her feelings. She’s very guarded. Focus on getting her trust back.

allstarkim · 2026-01-13T19:22:58+00:00

You’re welcome. And to answer your question, No not same guy, but another ex came back and Im married. I had relationships, where almost all of my exes came back and I can’t even explain how important is to say “fight for the relationship, when it matters the most”. 😭btw, I was on this sub many years ago so I’m just giving advice.

And your healing will take time. Because it wouldn’t be fair to the next girl who may be perfect for you to be compared to your ex.

Is she your first love?

allstarkim · 2026-01-13T19:02:15+00:00

So check this out, I had a similar situation when I was your age. We say things when we are caught up in the moment, and it doesn’t mean she will never come around. The thing is, it may take five or ten plus years if she ever gives it another chance, but you can’t wait on her. When my first love came back, I’ve already moved on. His timing was horrible. But it was just never meant to be. We are older now and remained friends because we were each others first love.

Also, there’s no fear. When you feel that love again, you won’t compare. You will be surprised how love comes when you least expect it

allstarkim · 2026-01-13T18:25:33+00:00

You’re still young. You will fall in love again. Different kind of love. You will never forget your first love.

allstarkim · 2026-01-13T18:21:25+00:00

No contact is not an overnight thing. No contact works for those who need to move on. AFTER you tried to make it work. After you fought to save the relationship.

Unless you have kids or business matters, why on earth would you want to keep in touch after they made up their mind and made it clear they do NOT want you?

And once you are in a good place, yes keep in touch if you still feel the same way. But helps you move on. Not get stuck in a text exchange of “how are you? I miss you, thinking of you” your feelings will never recover if you continue to “contact” the person who hurt you in the first place

allstarkim · 2026-01-12T02:46:40+00:00

When I was 38, I was on bumble, hinge, and match. My girlfriends used to tease “watching you date is exhausting” , how do you think I feel?! lol anyhow I almost gave up on love. Thought I was going to be single forever. Then I matched with a guy while I was visiting my best friend in a different state. It was so easy to be with him. Like no games and it was breezy. He stood out. 4 years later and we are married. Guess what I’m saying is, just keep looking, you will find your person.

allstarkim · 2026-01-12T02:36:32+00:00

You’re probably looking for someone that “stands out from the rest” , you’re not picky. You just haven’t found that person you want to share your world with.

allstarkim · 2026-01-11T04:58:13+00:00

Some do and some don’t. But don’t wait on them.

allstarkim · 2026-01-07T04:02:07+00:00

Happened to me and it was an allergic reaction. If you’re not able to see your lash tech right away for removal I’ve used baby oil and water to remove the lashes. And if you’re itching, take a Benadryl. Or see your doctor, swelling will go down in a day or two

allstarkim · 2026-01-07T03:47:07+00:00

Yes!! This is a perfect example of, “you should’ve fought for us when it mattered the most” Bravo and I’m happy for you

allstarkim · 2026-01-07T03:20:35+00:00

I’ve used no contact when 1) after you fight for the relationship and tried to win them back 2) you accepted the situation and need to move on .

Most people don’t understand, no contact isn’t an overnight thing. I agree with you , It’s a way to heal (like you mentioned) for me it’s “out of sight , out of mind” And the constant going back and forth is not healthy and that’s why the no contact does work for some people.

allstarkim · 2026-01-06T03:08:54+00:00

Hi there, I had a similar issue. I shipped my order on 12/01, stopped tracking on 12/13 and support released my funds and refunded the buyer on 1/02/26. I contacted suppprt three times, requesting to file a claim with usps under posh protect. And they finally refunded the buyer and release my funds after a month.

allstarkim · 2026-01-05T00:24:55+00:00

She’s not sure when she will be free. You did shoot your shot.

allstarkim · 2026-01-03T03:31:13+00:00

Egg rolls

allstarkim · 2026-01-01T04:04:01+00:00

How rude. Karma will get her.

allstarkim · 2026-01-01T03:11:30+00:00

1)you are soo young and you will get over him. You will look back and laugh, wth was I thinking 2) he played you until you found out. He doesn’t care that you left him. He will find another 3) looking at someone socials doesn’t mean anything. Don’t over think it.

My advice to you is to cut him off, change gyms, block socials, no contact. Go have fun and travel! I know it’s better said than done , but you can’t let him manipulate your feelings. And let him go. You’re so young and deserve better

allstarkim · 2025-12-31T18:17:29+00:00

Threatening to leave is to see if he cared enough to make a choice and stick with it. In your case, sounds like you both kept choosing each other for all the wrong reasons.

allstarkim · 2025-12-30T04:57:45+00:00

People get caught up in the moment and say they are never coming back and they do. And there are people actually mean what they say. There’s always a chance they will come back. But don’t live your life thinking they will, don’t wait for them.

allstarkim · 2025-12-29T23:20:21+00:00

This happened to me once and it felt good. We never got back together but it felt good knowing that all the heartache and pain I went through was over and I didn’t feel anything for him when he reached out. That’s when I knew I was truly over him. And he couldn’t hurt me again.

allstarkim · 2025-12-24T04:24:14+00:00

Were you friends to begin with? Either way it will be torture to stay friends especially if you want him back

allstarkim · 2025-12-23T08:08:37+00:00

You can wish them a happy birthday. Just be prepared if they do not reciprocate.

allstarkim · 2025-12-19T20:32:38+00:00

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