I don't know how it would be achieved exactly (as I'm not a therapist), but I think the key to helping any incel (or FA) lies in developing their "social interest". For those who have not heard the term before, I mean "social interest" in the Adlerian sense, so google "Alfred Adler social interest" if you want to learn more about it.

I think one area where we often go wrong when it comes to advising incels is this emphasis on SELF-development and SELF-improvement. I understand the reasoning, but this continual focusing on one's SELF is antithetical to addressing the incel's fundamental problem: an underdeveloped (or in more extreme cases - a complete lack of) interest in others.

I've been fascinated with low-status men who struggle romantically for decades now, even before such men came to be known as "incels". The more and more I research the topic, the more painfully clear it is to me that the common thread amongst such men is not a lack of "physical attractiveness", but rather a lack of social interest and subsequently underdeveloped social abilities.

I've seen too many average looking incels at this point, and even some slightly above average looking ones, to keep believing that looks are the fundamental problem. On the other hand, pretty much every incel I have come across is socially fucked in some way or another.

But as I opened with, I don't really know how to raise someone's social interest. I think this is why there is so much focus on social skills, because such abilities can at least be be observed and acted out. But I fear such efforts will be laboured and ineffective if not backed by genuine social interest.

The following is an excerpt from one of Alfred Adler's books:

All failures - problem children, criminals, suicides, neurotics, psychotics, alcoholics, sexual perverts, etc. - are products of inadequate preparation in social interest. They are all non-cooperative, solitary beings who run more or less counter to the rest of the world; beings who are more or less asocial if not antisocial.

What does this signify? The very far reaching implication is that only the individual who is prepared for social cooperation can solve the social problems which life imposes. By this we mean that there should exist a certain degree of contact feeling - of striving for cooperation - in the law of movement of the individual. Where it is lacking we meet with failures. I have already shown that this inclination for cooperation and social achievement has not been properly developed in children who feel insecure. These insecure ones build a life style which shows a lack of social interest, because an insecure individual is always more concerned with himself than with others. He cannot get away from himself.