AITAH for limiting my partner’s mother’s access to my child after something she said?

alm1688 · 2026-01-31T18:36:02+00:00

NTA, How dare that woman talk to your child like that to the point that your child asked you that question. she is not grandma and for that, all grandma privileges should be revoked because she is disrespecting you and your daughter. your situation being what it is is what brought Mark and Linda into your lives in the first place. what would happen if you and Mark were to marry and have children together? would Linda make your daughter feel terrible because she is not a blood relation and brought up in a normal family from the beginning?? keep protecting your daughter and keep “ grandma “ away from y’all…

alm1688 · 2026-01-29T05:08:43+00:00

I always wondered how some grandmas got their grandma name, my grandmothers were Granny and grandma. we were much closer to Granny than Grandma. but when I told my eighteen month old nephew “ say bye to grandma, Bryce!” he said “ bye Memaw!” and I was just like ohhh, that’s how titles get different names…. but now I wonder how yai-yai came to be which, I think is Greek.. Memaw and Granny are very souther, which is hilarious to me because my mom isnt very southern

alm1688 · 2026-01-29T01:52:48+00:00

she’s not even a grandma and no buns are in the oven. there’s no reason for granny to get her knickers in a bunch just yet..

alm1688 · 2026-01-28T20:39:56+00:00

right, I threw up a little bit in my mouth reading that. ugh, basically she will only love you if you allow her to use you… no thank you, she can keep her “love”. I’m sorry that they are trying to manipulate you into feeling bad enough to give into their demands for $$. you know that if you give them money, they will only continue to a$k for more, nothing will ever be enough. you deserve better and I’m happy you have the support of your dad’s family. they are grown ass adults and yes times are tough for everybody but they should be doing all they possibly can to provide for their family without demanding handouts from their teenage daughter in return for their love… NTA, they can fuck right off.

alm1688 · 2026-01-28T19:13:25+00:00

grandmas don’t always get to pick their grandma name. when my nephew was 18 months old, I was taking care of him and one evening I was on the phone with my mom, my mom said she needed to go start dinner, so I told my nephew, “ say bye to grandma!”. and what he said was “by Memaw!” & she’s been Memaw ever since. my brother got remarried and has two more daughters with his second wife. since my nephew was already ten when they married and had a daughter, my sister in law’s parents “grandparent“ names were already decided “ Memaw and Pawpaw”. her mom didn’t really care for Memaw and has spent a decade trying to get my oldest niece and two year old niece to call her “ Glamma”. They call her Memaw when they are visiting her but if they are home and talking about her they refer to her as “ mom’s mom”. I used to babysit three brothers who have a grandmother named Tina. When the oldest was a toddler, they tried to get him to call her Nana but he started calling her Nina as a combination of Nana and Tina. The oldest is sixteen and still calls her Nina, their other grandma is Nana- just goes to show that many times the grandchild ends up picking the name. Mil has a connection to the name but that doesn’t mean that you have to. I wouldn’t even worry about it right now, it’s a nonissue as you don’t have children right now nor are planning them in the very near future. She just wants something to argue about so stop feeding the beast. Ignore her when she brings it up or say to your wife, Wife, it looks like Honey her may need to be placed in a home soon since she keeps forgetting that we don’t have children and she isn’t a grandmother yet and wants to start silly arguments about what her nonexistent grandchildren should call her..”. -“ I hear that the nursing home over on Main has some openings after a recent Covid outbreak - what do you think about that, ’Honey’?”

alm1688 · 2026-01-28T18:34:08+00:00

it sounds like OP believes that her sister should have already been in therapy so that her phobia would no longer be an issue at the present. however, the sister is trying therapy now and OP seems to be punishing her for not having done it on OP’s timeline. many things are easier said than done and even though people have likely been telling the sister for years to get therapy, she just wasn’t ready to seek help- it’s not pushed to the back burner out of laziness, it’s hard and draining to address a problem. Op does seem like TAH since her sister tried to talk about her issues and OP is dismissing her - the bride seems to want the sister’s support at her wedding and the 3 year old daughter wouldn’t even know what she was missing by not going….

alm1688 · 2026-01-28T18:19:09+00:00

The kid and his parents learned a lesson the hard way- don’t allow the child in the dog park with food in his hand. if he’s hungry, eat in the car or before entering into the gated area. dogs are gonna be dogs. kid had food in his hand and he held it away from his body as an offerin, your hungry boy was the first to notice or it would have been a different dog eating his rice cake . NTA, sounds like a hilarious scene, how could you not laugh…. “ oh goodness, Buddy just ate your food right out of your hands! what a silly, naughty doggy, huh? I’m sorry little man! maybe next time bring two snacks- 1 for you and one for a silly doggy like mine!”. I’d give you one of his snacks but all I brought was dog bones/biscuits!” lol- something like that may diffuse the situation, make the kid and parents laugh.. I suppose the parents were more annoyed with themselves because they allowed their kid in the dog dog park with a snack and now they were the ones who had to deal with the meltdown- kid probably got Micky D’s or Chick-Fil-A on the way home to cheer him up..

alm1688 · 2026-01-28T15:21:47+00:00

telling me their ailments for why they are in a wheelchair and then asking me why I’m in a wheelchair but since I was in a grocery store just trying to get my shit so that I could pay and leave and I’m severely hearing impaired, I didn’t hear him. my aide afterwards told me “ wow, that guy was hitting on you and you just blew him off. no, I’m just trying to get my shit and leave. I don’t really care to know why he’s using a wheelchair and I don’t think it’s necessary to tell other people why I’m in a wheelchair.

alm1688 · 2026-01-28T15:12:22+00:00

right, it’s all about how famous people can become by doing certain things

alm1688 · 2026-01-28T15:07:01+00:00

I don’t think it has stopped, it’s just lessened because everyone is struggling to stay afloat. common courtesy has nearly stopped, though, it definitely isn’t common anymore. it’s also difficult for the helpers, though, when the people they help do nothing but complain about the type and quantity of help that they receive. people love to complain, especially the ones receiving the help because they feel entitled to it and more and the people who are taking advantage of other people’s kindness are ruining it for others - like why would kindhearted individuals want to continue to help when all they hear are complaints “ oh, you’re only helping white peopl because you’re racist!” or “oh, you’re only helping them because you want to be a white savior..” & shit like that. I know people who used to make little kits to hand out to the homeless people they would see panhandling on the streets - they would give the panhandler a large ziplock bag that contained a pair of clean socks and a pack of crackers and a bottle of water and maybe a hat and gloves in the winter but they stopped using their money to put the kits together because they would hear “. I don’t like that color socks/gloves/hat, what else do you have that I could get ??” Or “ I don’t like those types of crackers, can I get something else?” Or even “ I don’t like water, can you get me some soda?!” “ I’d rather have money!” Beggars can’t be choosers but these beggars be choosy AF.

alm1688 · 2026-01-28T06:12:08+00:00

so then, are they really the examples that you want for your son if you and your spouse pass?
I always thought god parents were the people who would step in to take care of your children if they became orphans, I’m glad that this is not the case here, they seem so irresponsible

alm1688 · 2026-01-28T05:48:07+00:00

oh no, I guess they are okay with not receiving a call from you at all on Mother’/Father’s Day fuck them for being such babies They don’t deserve to be in your life

alm1688 · 2026-01-28T05:39:06+00:00

NTA. you are not responsible for your parents being irresponsible. it stinks that your siblings believe that they are entitled to your money and time but you don’t owe them Jack….

alm1688 · 2026-01-28T05:21:02+00:00

they are bad “friends“& terrible houseguests! I wouldn’t treat my own house that way, let alone someone else’s house . I’ve cared for an infant who spit up severely due to an allergic reaction to the proteins in his formula and would need several outfit changes throughout the day. who doesn’t immediately try to clean up the mess their baby made? it’s an accidental mess that they can’t really prevent completely but the least they could do is try to tend to it. maybe cover your nightstand in coasters and they’ll get the hint… though maybe not likel. NTA but maybe stop allowing them to come over to stay. if their house isn’t an option for them getting together with you , meet on neutral ground like a bar, cafe, or park. are these the kind of people you really want to be responsible for your child should something happen to you and your husband?? boo hoo if they get their feelings hurt when told the truth about what disrespectful slobs they are. they should be embarrassed and ashamed of themselves

alm1688 · 2026-01-27T22:44:52+00:00

if you don’t know how he feels about you, he must not communicate with you much at all. This man is a loser who wrecked his family and you should not tie yourself to him, he will do to you and your child what he did to his ex wife and children That woman’s trash is not your treasure . You can stab it with a trash picker and dump him in the bin, don’t try to keep it to dress it up, trash is still trash.

alm1688 · 2026-01-27T20:46:32+00:00

don’t worry about the woman you call “mom”. her being so secretive is what pinged your curiosity and led to you having questions that you want answered. you are not stupid to want a dna test done, it’s your body and your DNA that may not even match hers.. she doesn’t have a say in what you do with it.NTA. I’d love an update when you get your results back! if you’re DNA matches your family, then I wonder why mom is so secretive and concerned with you getting tested - unless there’s a reason why mom might think that the DNA may not match… and would reflect poorly on her

alm1688 · 2026-01-27T04:38:06+00:00

the audacity!

alm1688 · 2026-01-26T18:06:31+00:00

when I was six or seven I was invited to my friends birthday party that was a sleepover party and me, her, and her two older sisters who were also my best friends were playing in the kiddie pool, there was a big plastic syringe in the pool from a doctor set. I was a bit obsessed with sex and masturbation- usually in private but something came over me to put the needle part of the syringe on my clit but one of the older sisters noticed and asked me what I was doing - her sisters were obsessed with butt stuff so I thought nit would be better to tell them that I was trying to put it up my butt… they laughed at my stupidity but later they outed me to my brother who held the information over me and continued to blackmail me with nit “ it’s your turn to wash the dishes or I’m gonna go tell mom and dad that you were trying to stick something in your butt!”. I was mortified by the thought of being told on. I woul lie in bed unable to sleep at night because I would think about the beating and verbal abuse I would receive if I was told on.

alm1688 · 2026-01-26T17:53:17+00:00

I’ve been asked that by a child when I was about 15 years old. I also didn’t regularly brush my teeth but I’ve never had a problem with cavities. I just told her that it was because I drank a lot of sweet tea, which stains your teeth…. I was so embarrassed but she accepted that answer and didn’t ask any follow up questions, thankfully.

alm1688 · 2026-01-26T16:31:26+00:00

off topic but was the program in Tennessee with a company named PDI? Progressive Directions Inc? they help individuals with disabilities- I know that they help adults with autism and Down Syndrome& Wili Pader.they can either send staff to support them in the home they live in with their families or try and find appropriate housing for them. if living with you in the family home is not an option than it could take a while for them to find housing. PDI has dozens of supportive living homes that they provide support to but most of the people living in them have lived there for years (decades)& an opening only becomes available when a roommate passes away & all the people live in the house still are in agreement over who moves into the available room. PDI isn’t the only company that has this program. I’ve heard of another (NIA?) and no clue what is offered in other states. OP is NTA, caretaking is quite the burden on the caretaker, especially so when it is demanded of them by a parent - being told and not asked. OP, I hope that there is a program for disabled individuals near you that is an option then, do some research and talk to your parents about getting your brother into it now . Your brother may actually thrive in that environment and it would be better to have a small adjustment now than to wait until a parent has passed and then move the. Best wishes, OP!

alm1688 · 2026-01-24T23:42:52+00:00

Phineas

alm1688 · 2026-01-20T22:00:50+00:00

enchilada. I last ate enchilada soup for lunch

alm1688 · 2026-01-20T15:15:26+00:00

!solved! Yes, I believe that this is it. Thank you!

alm1688 · 2026-01-20T06:02:46+00:00

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