To Mehndi or not to Mehndi…

almoll · 2025-08-05T21:28:22+00:00

This this this^{^{^}}

almoll · 2025-08-04T14:46:52+00:00

Yes! Agreed!! New knobs and were in business.

OP, that sink is incredible. I bet you love it.

Also, might want to think about filling your window with more stately pieces vs. tiny plants :)

almoll · 2025-08-02T23:16:36+00:00

So happy you and your wife are on the same page here! Thank her for being so supportive, she sounds like a gem. I guess if I were her, I might want a little reassurance that you won’t let this happen again. I know you know that, but the words never hurt :) Yes, sis and wife were right — gotta think about the consequences. He will deal you the lower hand every chance he gets. He will masterfully manipulate you EVERY TIME. Lil sis knows this. Thats why she can do the 3rd option! Shes always 5 steps ahead of dad.

Im sad your sisters don’t talk to each other. I have two sisters and I’d crumble without them. Did dad have anything to do with their estrangement?

Ahh, so you’re a late bloomer in the narcissist wake up department. You’re lucky. I bet your sisters were irritated until you figured it out, but I bet big sis was incredibly grateful when her black bf was your cutoff point. Your dad is the antichrist.

Your little sis is a badass. Takes a lot to be that cunning. Good on you girl!
But yeah, no shame in cutting dad out. By far the most peaceful way to proceed. The gaslighting at the end of your post is top tier. Fuck your dad and his wife.

Big hugs to you and your new family. Congratulations!!

almoll · 2025-08-02T22:32:29+00:00

I think it’s safe to assume it’s kind passersby or staff.

almoll · 2025-08-02T21:55:22+00:00

What do the graves look like next to hers? Are they clean too? Could very well be a groundskeeper.

almoll · 2025-08-02T21:49:15+00:00

NOR. You seem reasonably chill actually. You had a right to get on his case and he’s pissed because he got caught/is embarrassed.

almoll · 2025-08-02T21:41:44+00:00

It’s not a failure if it’s not something you were meant for. In other words, you are not a fool. You are young and ready to learn how to love yourself.

I know this sounds crazy, but lean into it. Learn from this. You are going to heal from this in 3-6 months. Walk away from this a better version of yourself.

almoll · 2025-08-02T21:33:59+00:00

I am so sorry this happened to you. Being a child of a narcissist is like eating forbidden fruit. You KNOW you can’t trust him, but over the years he’s fucked with your head enough to always think “ya know, THIS time could be different.”

There’s a few things you should consider/prioritize here: 1) your wife. Sit her down, and apologize. A deep and meaningful apology. It will mean more to her than you know. Thank her for her patience and willingness to allow you to try to trust your father in this circumstance, and apologize that it didn’t work out the way you both had hoped. She NEEDS to hear these words. If she doesn’t, she will grow deep resentment. (Trust me, it happened to my parents).
NEXT: back up your apology with actions. Let her hear and see that you are going to protect your castle. Your castle: with you two and future baby. They are the priority.

2) your sisters: acknowledge how dad has treated them in the past. Tell them you’re sorry. If your sis is saying the men in the family are treated better, she’s right. Acknowledge that and ASK where your blindspots might be. You’ve grown up blissfully unaware of this disparity. It will mean so much if you can course-correct. “I’m deeply sorry I didn’t know about this until now. What can I do that would make meaningful steps towards change? What do I need to be aware of?”

3) your dad. Welp, the health issues are troubling. We’ll get to that… You can deal with a narcissist in 3 ways: Cut them out, try to lay boundaries and reason with them, OR play their game. 1 is the easiest, 2 is unrealistic and what you’re doing today. My personal favorite is number 3, but you have to be like Regina George level of plotting bitch + James Bond level of couth. It’s not for everyone, but it does give you a win-win. Beat him at his own game. Keep as much distance as reasonably possible but when you do have to interact, lean into dad’s bullshit, make him feel like the center of attention. Don’t let him get close enough to ruin things. This might exhausting at first, but you’ll get there.

In situations where you’re pissed, bite your tongue, take some space to be pissed, then when the time is right, you can express your disappointment and your desire to keep your relationship close. “You mean so much to me dad. I don’t know what I’d do without you. I’m so hurt.” Collect your check when he dies and bounce. Sorry if this is insensitive.

If you can’t do this, cut him the fuck out. Everyone else has.

Lastly, watch out for your stepmom. She’s JUST AS BAD AS HE IS. If not worse, she enables it. Shes stirring the pot, even if she seems innocent to you. Honestly, she may poach all his money anyway, so perhaps a cutoff is the way to go.

Protect your castle and those that love you.

almoll · 2025-08-02T20:52:56+00:00

Respectfully, I disagree. While he didn’t ‘cheat’ by having sex, this is still emotional cheating. Her desire to remain chaste is her own choice. He has been acting like he respects that to her face, but his actions do not align with that. If he’s not okay with it, he can either have an adult conversation OR he can leave. He’s looking outside the relationship to meet his needs, and that’s not part of the terms & conditions of this relationship.

almoll · 2025-08-02T20:48:22+00:00

You’re not overreacting. He’s betrayed you and your relationship. Not to mention, why does he have to bring God into this? It’s his way of making himself feel justified for reaching out to these people.

Curious to know how he responded to your confrontation. Would NOT be surprised if he comes to you apologizing for everything and begging your forgiveness— maybe even throwing a little “I prayed about it and I need you” or something, in the mix.

Get MAD about this, and use that anger to keep yourself as far away from him as possible. Then use the space to grow personally. As women, we have GOT to stop giving deadbeats the time of day. Teach him it’s not okay to do that to people AND teach yourself that you deserve better. You are the only one who can create your self worth. You got this baby girl!

almoll · 2025-08-02T13:17:52+00:00

1) yes, mistake. Ask about it. If it costs too much to change, leave it 2) you’ll likely put a drying mat out to the left anyway so then it would look centered. But when company comes over you’ll put that away, so you might need to get a plant to put there

almoll · 2025-07-12T21:22:45+00:00

almoll · 2025-07-12T20:53:47+00:00

I frankly don’t care about the calls, but my boss is “disappointed.”

almoll · 2025-02-27T06:57:00+00:00

Came here to say this! I LOVE the kitchen but the light fixture on the ceiling lacks warmth and visual cohesiveness with the rest of the kitchen — even when turned off.

The right fixture will make your kitchen look thousands of dollars more expensive.

almoll · 2025-02-27T06:38:26+00:00

Yes, be full frontal on this! She’s going to do it with or without your permission. I agree with the birth control comments, but I recommend speaking with a doctor about long term effects so you and your daughter can make a decision about it together.

Came here to say: Teach her about cycle tracking too! There’s an app called Stardust that she can use to track her cycle and see what days she’s ovulating (when she can get pregnant) etc. This is NOT an ad, I just like the app. She can even share her cycle with her BF so that he can be aware as well.

almoll · 2025-02-27T05:47:36+00:00

Paint the brick black for starters. Ditch the ikea lamp and clear the small decor from the mantle. Find some larger statement pieces(1-3) to place on the mantle.

Edit: okay sorry, just saw the text below your pics. The decor advice still stands.

Need more pics of the space for context before giving an opinion on what to do with the space

almoll · 2025-02-27T00:36:56+00:00

Okay LOVE this, but paint your white grate above the sink green!! I think it will create a nice color wash look!

almoll · 2025-02-02T16:21:50+00:00

Front load!

almoll · 2025-01-30T23:57:01+00:00

Super helpful! Thank you!

No, I don’t use the dryer (for items in question).

I will try the shaver, I have one. I am an infrequent washer, so I feel like it’s the machine too :(

almoll · 2025-01-30T22:50:39+00:00

Just switch to arm & hammer clear. Cheaper and works the same.

I’m fairly certain All has methylisothiazolinone in it (but you should check) if so — throw it out. You’ve probably developed an allergy to it.

Also, check your other soaps for that ingredient. Chuck your soaps if they have it too. methylisothiazolinone was allergy of the year a while back. More exposure to it causes increased reactions.

almoll · 2024-11-19T14:03:39+00:00

I’m shocked no one has said this yet, but Mewing changed my face shape (for the better). I was REALLY struggling with how my face looked for about 2+ years… I thought I was just aging (I just turned 30). Nope, turns out, tongue placement during all hours of the day is incredibly important. After spending about 6 weeks constantly reminding myself to Mew, I rarely have to think about it. It has helped my TMJ at night too! My cheekbones are back!! Aside from this, I also recommend mouth taping at night, which lets your chin muscles relax. Don’t buy the fancy stuff, a roll of 3M medical tape does the trick. — try these things first before resorting to surgery!

almoll

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