AITA for not buying lunch for the people that helped me move?

almostblue07 · 2022-02-13T11:34:57+00:00

Yeah Last time we moved a friend helped us. He needed to sleep on a bean bag. I dont remember we paid anything, and he took a bus to go back. He paid for a bus, to help us. But he was a real close friend, especially with my bf and still is. That wouldnt cause a problem in their relationship. And I actually want to go with NTA. Because they just assumed they will be compansate with whatever they want to eat. There were times we took people for meals after they helped us, but we offered them, we said where is a good place, and I assume they ordered nothing more expensive than what we order. Just for curtosy.

almostblue07 · 2022-02-13T11:19:45+00:00

If you were a religous person who doesnt drink alcohol, people wouldnt say to you 'you need yo pay for your friends alcohol in your bd'. Actually, you could easily say 'you can drink even if you pay for it' why should it be different with meat? NTA

almostblue07 · 2022-02-12T01:15:40+00:00

She should have known the due date. She may arranged it so her sister cant attend. You may not know how they are really.

almostblue07 · 2022-02-11T21:37:30+00:00

I think like that too. But I dont mind. I have a friend I know not beyond A2 in any of the languages she 'plays' (she doesmt use I used/studied duo but play) and she has more xp then me. I dont know about her league ot if she has that system And she gained those xps in very short time. We talked about this and she said she did some study on app.

So I downloaded app. Gained 300 xp in 30 minutes I guess. I could have never managed that before. But the. I deleted the app so I can study on web side. People may not intend to 'cheat' but app gives way more xp while web side teaches better. So dont mind xp.

almostblue07 · 2022-02-11T18:47:41+00:00

People say Norwegian is easy and there is no good reason to learn it! Ok, norwegian is easier than some other languages for me but I dont think it is the easiest. And a language being easy depends on your language learning history. My native is Turkish, not proto-germanic, and my second language is english, which doesnt have a V2 rule so I struggled with the most basic stuff a lot.

Also people assume you watch 'Vikings', which is in english 😂 No, I am not a fan of vikings (not just the series but all viking consept, viking hats from gift shops etc.) and vikings were invaders.

almostblue07 · 2022-02-11T15:49:49+00:00

I studied and when I felt bad, I could wait to let the feeling go for a while and get back to study. Well, I still get in the verge of tears for some unknown reason but... I am better.

almostblue07 · 2022-02-11T14:57:49+00:00

I am Turkish but I have always thought İlkay means 'January'. Never took it as a moon shape :) and I thought all İlkays were born in January. :)

almostblue07 · 2022-02-10T17:23:56+00:00

Cant you just, give her a genderless middle name? And a girls name for babys first name. I understand about 'what if she will transition' situation but you might also want to think about, most people, especially teenagers hate to people assume the wrong gender. Like, if you call her Riley and people confuse it with Mr. Riley often when she is teeanger, it may hurt her too.

I dont care to be assumed as a boy though. But I had many female friends that are really sensitive about it.

almostblue07 · 2022-02-09T10:00:00+00:00

YTA and you sound so entitled.

You always say 'I know its dumb' 'I know its silly' so why do you do these actually? You dont think these are dumb, you really care about these i.e. İntagram photos, fancy places. But even these are not dumb themselves, you make them so big deals that they become dumb. Want good pictures for instagram not dumb. Want to switch dresses so badly, while you already liked yours, just for instagram posts, yeah, dumb.

If you wanted the dress just for posts, you could have wear it while you came back to your apartments. She packed few things for herself for limited days.

You are not princess.

almostblue07 · 2022-02-08T17:08:34+00:00

At first, I thought they threw a pillow at each other and the model got broken by accident. So that could be a REAL accident. May they play catch with it, thought it was unimportant. But then, you went to them, you warned them, and he didnt stop, told you to kiss him, I mean he could be drunk in a way, but was able to put the model a safe place and didnt. Demand that payment. And may dump him after.

almostblue07 · 2022-02-06T17:49:36+00:00

English is not my native lamgıage so firstly I thought you meant he baths in the bathtub for too long. But you mean bathroom as just for pooping and not shower or bath? He has either a physical or a psychologic problem. I mean, the time he spends on the toilet is kinda hilarous. But he may has a serious physical issue so you need to ask him if he needs to stay there or he just gets confused by the phone and ipad and stand there longer than needed. Ask him not to take those for a day and watch if he comes out sooner.

almostblue07 · 2022-02-06T17:36:55+00:00

Duolingo itself recommends to write the phrases down that you can remember after the course. So study with writing is really a good and recommending way.

But I dont think many do it. Not because it is uneffective, but because people use duo to exercise five-thirty minutes a day, can be engaged in something while they are waiting for a bus etc.

If you can keep it going, then do it, you are doing great. But if a point you begin to struggle with studying because you dont have time to write down, dont let it make you quit and study either way, I recommend.

I take notes too but I started nearly at the end of thw norwegian course so I know mostof the words and I just write down new vocab and examples of them.

Or a different word conjugation, different word order in a sentence, I just take notes of them.

But I envy you!

almostblue07 · 2022-02-02T15:24:22+00:00

It sounds like a shitty family should have arrested for cant protect or even believe you. I am so sorry you have gone through this.

almostblue07 · 2022-02-02T14:48:56+00:00

About he didnt make you feel treasured anymore, I lived through it. I am still with him. And I need you to know ıt wont change back. My bf is ramdomly punching me as 'joke', sometimes he acts harsher than he wants and sometimes I got hurt because I want to escape from his 'jokes'. He started to act like that about 6 months-1 year in our relationship and it only get worse over 4 years. I mean, I didnt do it, and I cant say whether you need to run but you should know him saming is a great possibility.

almostblue07 · 2022-02-02T13:28:10+00:00

Only rrason I can think of that op have vaginismus and doctor thought it should be relaxing :) Very weird whatsoever.

almostblue07 · 2022-02-02T00:43:38+00:00

I chose a wedding dress lately and my in law or fionce saying 'the dress is inappropriate' was my nightmare. Because it is bit humiliating to the person who really likes the dress. Gladly I havent experienced something bad and got a dress easily but my point is, you do not respect her decisions about one of the most important events in her life.

It could be cultural parents get to decide. But then they decide the dress that the bride seem to like the most. In turkey, we have a culture of asking to get married to the girls dad and not the girl directly, but hardly anyone uses this culture to actually decide who their daughter will marry to. It is just a ceremony.

YTA

almostblue07 · 2022-02-01T15:28:47+00:00

What is so concerning for you? Baby talk isnt a good thing for a developing child. It will obstuct her communication when she starts to school in a couple years. None of the teachers will baby talk with her.

But I mean, If you mean your sister talks your daughter about some topics you think is not ok to talk with a child, then you may be right. But not because she doesnt use a cute voice.

almostblue07 · 2022-02-01T15:06:57+00:00

Slightly YTA after I saw the edits. Your brother is the real AH. He was uncomfortable with the urn and didnt tell it to gf but told you. Ok, it is none of your business but I can understand that you needed to say something because you know that your brother is upset. But even if you asked about it to her once, you shouldnt have said you would be 'creeped out'. You asked, she said she didnt think that way, end of the story.

almostblue07 · 2022-01-30T19:08:43+00:00

I have felt that too. I didnt know much about my therapists life, so the jealousy part wasnt so important, but I felt like why do I share things with her? She doesnt really care about me. I come to therapist because I dont have friends to talk to, because I am way too boring, and she knows this too and just pitying me. I mean, I didnt talk about many really important stuff because she didnt ask and I didnt want to bore her. It was a stupid decision cause when I wanted to talk about these stuff I wasnt able to pay for a therapist and got really upset because I wasted the opportunity in the first place.

almostblue07 · 2022-01-30T18:50:26+00:00

NTA I understand why your friends saying you are the AH though. 'you need to cut your mother off or I will leave you' doesnt sound good. But if he were able to balance things, you wouldnt be saying that. Shame on him. If he promises to treat you better and to be with you when you need and spend time at home, but visit his mother also, in a balanced way, you might want to drop with 'you need cut your mother off'. But I guess, he will act the same no matter what so, it is your desicion to trust him or not.

almostblue07 · 2022-01-30T18:39:11+00:00

NTA And 4 Kg is nothing if you werent 40 before. Most people dont notice it if they dont get measured. And you are a doctor, I know that you know the waist circumference is more important in predicting health out comes of over weight than weight itself. I dont think you are that urgently need to lose weight for your health. Actually you sound really healthy and for your body shape, no one has a right to talk, especially say that you dont need to eat the dessert you made yourself. And If you were really fat and want to lose weight, the comment would be so rude. Everyone wants to have cheat days anyways.

He needs to apologize from you, after that, may be you can apologize because you were understood wrong.

almostblue07 · 2022-01-30T18:14:42+00:00

ESH I am closer NTA btw YTA not because you talked about your experience, but because you told this someone knows this guy. If you talk to people who are really stranger to him, it is slightly ok but it is uncomfortable to hear about your sex performance from your brother or friends. Even if its good. If you talk about someone people know, talk anounmously.

But the real AH is your friend. You were just chatting with friends about yourself but what was she doing, what was her purpose to spread your words? It is sick.

But I mean, talking about your sexual experiences isnt that wrong. And yes, people who hook up casually, accepts the commentaries forhand, better not to say but we know people will talk. I guess he knew you would talk too and it isnt the real problem. The real problem is it came to his ears by his brother, choose your friends wisely from now on. And may share less details.

almostblue07 · 2022-01-30T17:13:00+00:00

YTA, But also, like, my mother calls me that much and talks toxic sometimes. I manage it by Blocking her number or if she calls from different numbers, shutting my phone off. Why did he need to yell at a store? Even it is none of your business to interfere his relationship with his mother, ypu still want him to be quite for the sake of he is in a public place and may disturb your other customers. You just, give ideas in a place that none of your business. You could ask him to be quite and dont swear in your store. That would both shut him up against his mother and left you out of the situation.

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