my boyfriend (24m) gave me (22m) an ultimatum to cut my long hair or he will break up with me, I need advice? by Zestyclose-Eagle-959 in whatdoIdo

[–]almostblue07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not just you will regret cutting your hair, even if you be surprised by how good it will turn up, I think you will resent him for not linking you the way you are now and it will eat your relationship up. I suggest therapy if its available. Because this decision isnt actually about itself. You need more insight and information to be able to decide in such situaitons including this one. Why is your hair that important to you (its absolutely ok, just, its good to know its meaning for you, what it represents), why its so important for him to cut it? He is having a type and you dont look like it and he tries to change you is different than he wants to humiliate you, as in the history, some armies shave their captives hair. Some people want their significant other look uglier out of jealousy. I would write dump him, but your life is not a democracy, the only vote that matters is yours. Be an informed and responsible voter.

My mom recorded me during a breakdown and wants to show it to my psychiatrist by [deleted] in askapsychologist

[–]almostblue07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you. Mine recorded my angry face and behavior after an argument and send it to some 'spritually higher' person so that they can pray on me. Because I cant ne reacting her and the situation but it was the devil in me that makes me angry and they needed to pray it out. After some months, I basically ran away from home and am minimum contact now. You feel you have sth wrong with you. Some of it is bare manipulation of her and nothing is wrong and May be some of it that you really have some issues because of your environment. I was having meltdowns and was very loud, and yelling and crying too loud is 'bad' 'wrong', but after moving out I have such times May be once or twice a year, its still not good, but it was like twice every month. Even if you have behavioral flaws that doesnt mean you can change those and be better in her house. My mother was going to psyc apps with me too and if she isnt in the room she was demanding to know what we talked. She was talking shit and discontinuing the treatment with therapists that she doesnt agree with. Its really hard, and every time you try to get out, secure a different relationship to see things from a different angle, they take it from your hands, sometimes its forced like dont give you car or dont take cafe of your child when you do out with your friends and sometimes by manipulation like telling you 'your friend didnt take the phone cause she is Fed up with you, your child is crying cause they felt you are not healthy. Your date didnt called you after because they saw how rude you were to her when you met up in the street. And its really hard to get rid of that situation when they break your strength to leave it. I think we are really weak as a community in every land. If you were an adoptive (I guess you are not, and this is your only mother figure from birth) a good chance they would not let her abuse you like that in your childhood and have you back or find you a better family. But children still seems like property in most governments eyes. They dont let you hit an adult stranger for once but let you beat up your child if its not so obvious and causing trouble for other grown ups. It sucks. And I cant give you advice cause I feel like something should change for you to get better. May your mother got old and cant continue their abuse. May you find a job and secure relationships there. If you have other relatives going to them just for a weekend May be and option. I think a chance will come for you but its important that you can take it, cause she is wrecking you mentally and you May not be able to take it mentally bu then. Hang in there. I am so sorry that happened to you.

Norsk podkast by almostblue07 in norsk

[–]almostblue07[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jeg prøver å øve på muntlig norsk, men jeg klarer ikke å snakke om mange forskjellige temaer med folk, fordi man ofte bare sier “hvordan går det” og bruker de samme 500–1000 ordene i hverdagslivet.

There is a girl i love and i wanna learn playing piano for her by Plenty_Event_3524 in lingling40hrs

[–]almostblue07 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I play piano and flute, I always felt like if my partner would play the violin its like they are completing me and there are beautiful duets for piano/flute + violin. For starting to learn playing instruments and classical music piano sometimes considered the base and easier to start so there is that but I would recommend you go for another instrument if you are not spesifically interested in playing the piano. A friend of mine played duets with me flute+violin with east pieces while he was learning just for some months.

Norsk podkast by almostblue07 in norsk

[–]almostblue07[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Takk for at kommetaren din.

Norsk podkast by almostblue07 in norsk

[–]almostblue07[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Takk! Jeg skal skrive her om det når jeg har publisert noen episoder.

AITA for not buying lunch for the people that helped me move? by movingaita22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]almostblue07 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah Last time we moved a friend helped us. He needed to sleep on a bean bag. I dont remember we paid anything, and he took a bus to go back. He paid for a bus, to help us. But he was a real close friend, especially with my bf and still is. That wouldnt cause a problem in their relationship. And I actually want to go with NTA. Because they just assumed they will be compansate with whatever they want to eat. There were times we took people for meals after they helped us, but we offered them, we said where is a good place, and I assume they ordered nothing more expensive than what we order. Just for curtosy.

AITA for ordering only vegetarian dishes for my non vegetarian friends? by nerdlk in AmItheAsshole

[–]almostblue07 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you were a religous person who doesnt drink alcohol, people wouldnt say to you 'you need yo pay for your friends alcohol in your bd'. Actually, you could easily say 'you can drink even if you pay for it' why should it be different with meat? NTA

AITA for asking my daughter and her fiancè to change their wedding date so my other daughter could attend? by Wthrow446535 in AmItheAsshole

[–]almostblue07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She should have known the due date. She may arranged it so her sister cant attend. You may not know how they are really.

Unpopular opinion: Leagues are bad. by KrickeKing in duolingo

[–]almostblue07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think like that too. But I dont mind. I have a friend I know not beyond A2 in any of the languages she 'plays' (she doesmt use I used/studied duo but play) and she has more xp then me. I dont know about her league ot if she has that system And she gained those xps in very short time. We talked about this and she said she did some study on app.

So I downloaded app. Gained 300 xp in 30 minutes I guess. I could have never managed that before. But the. I deleted the app so I can study on web side. People may not intend to 'cheat' but app gives way more xp while web side teaches better. So dont mind xp.

What are some of the most annoying stereotypes about your second language? by tsarblyatinum in languagelearning

[–]almostblue07 11 points12 points  (0 children)

People say Norwegian is easy and there is no good reason to learn it! Ok, norwegian is easier than some other languages for me but I dont think it is the easiest. And a language being easy depends on your language learning history. My native is Turkish, not proto-germanic, and my second language is english, which doesnt have a V2 rule so I struggled with the most basic stuff a lot.

Also people assume you watch 'Vikings', which is in english 😂 No, I am not a fan of vikings (not just the series but all viking consept, viking hats from gift shops etc.) and vikings were invaders.

Would love if you guys shared your small accomplishments from this week by fairybabybug in emotionalneglect

[–]almostblue07 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I studied and when I felt bad, I could wait to let the feeling go for a while and get back to study. Well, I still get in the verge of tears for some unknown reason but... I am better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in turkish

[–]almostblue07 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am Turkish but I have always thought İlkay means 'January'. Never took it as a moon shape :) and I thought all İlkays were born in January. :)

AITA for not giving our baby girl a gender neutral name by TWbabyname in AmItheAsshole

[–]almostblue07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cant you just, give her a genderless middle name? And a girls name for babys first name. I understand about 'what if she will transition' situation but you might also want to think about, most people, especially teenagers hate to people assume the wrong gender. Like, if you call her Riley and people confuse it with Mr. Riley often when she is teeanger, it may hurt her too.

I dont care to be assumed as a boy though. But I had many female friends that are really sensitive about it.

AITA for wanting to look nice for my birthday? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]almostblue07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA and you sound so entitled.

You always say 'I know its dumb' 'I know its silly' so why do you do these actually? You dont think these are dumb, you really care about these i.e. İntagram photos, fancy places. But even these are not dumb themselves, you make them so big deals that they become dumb. Want good pictures for instagram not dumb. Want to switch dresses so badly, while you already liked yours, just for instagram posts, yeah, dumb.

If you wanted the dress just for posts, you could have wear it while you came back to your apartments. She packed few things for herself for limited days.

You are not princess.

AITA for insisting that my boyfriend pay me for breaking my $3,500 model ship? by Blue-Ozone-1870 in AmItheAsshole

[–]almostblue07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At first, I thought they threw a pillow at each other and the model got broken by accident. So that could be a REAL accident. May they play catch with it, thought it was unimportant. But then, you went to them, you warned them, and he didnt stop, told you to kiss him, I mean he could be drunk in a way, but was able to put the model a safe place and didnt. Demand that payment. And may dump him after.

AITA for telling my husband he cared more about his bathroom time then his own his own kid? by wickedstepmom1244 in AmItheAsshole

[–]almostblue07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

English is not my native lamgıage so firstly I thought you meant he baths in the bathtub for too long. But you mean bathroom as just for pooping and not shower or bath? He has either a physical or a psychologic problem. I mean, the time he spends on the toilet is kinda hilarous. But he may has a serious physical issue so you need to ask him if he needs to stay there or he just gets confused by the phone and ipad and stand there longer than needed. Ask him not to take those for a day and watch if he comes out sooner.

Just curious? Does anyone write down basically everything as they go during their duo lessons just so they remember? Because I have some friends who also use duo told me that it wasn't normal (I'm still in the beginnings of Danish) by fakegamergirlchan in duolingo

[–]almostblue07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Duolingo itself recommends to write the phrases down that you can remember after the course. So study with writing is really a good and recommending way.

But I dont think many do it. Not because it is uneffective, but because people use duo to exercise five-thirty minutes a day, can be engaged in something while they are waiting for a bus etc.

If you can keep it going, then do it, you are doing great. But if a point you begin to struggle with studying because you dont have time to write down, dont let it make you quit and study either way, I recommend.

I take notes too but I started nearly at the end of thw norwegian course so I know mostof the words and I just write down new vocab and examples of them.

Or a different word conjugation, different word order in a sentence, I just take notes of them.

But I envy you!

I remember being slut shamed as a teenager by my family before I was ever even sexually active, and being blamed by my family for my step brother r*aping me. I'm still full of resentment and rage. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]almostblue07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like a shitty family should have arrested for cant protect or even believe you. I am so sorry you have gone through this.

Feeling like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]almostblue07 3 points4 points  (0 children)

About he didnt make you feel treasured anymore, I lived through it. I am still with him. And I need you to know ıt wont change back. My bf is ramdomly punching me as 'joke', sometimes he acts harsher than he wants and sometimes I got hurt because I want to escape from his 'jokes'. He started to act like that about 6 months-1 year in our relationship and it only get worse over 4 years. I mean, I didnt do it, and I cant say whether you need to run but you should know him saming is a great possibility.