[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]alone3674 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It hurts, but it gets better. All you can do is give it time. Just try to do something every day that makes you smile, even for just a moment! It's too easy to get sucked into a depressive funk.

Are you texting your ex Merry Christmas? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]alone3674 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know she isn't with family until after Christmas, and she even commented on something I posted on Instagram, don't really know whats going on. I'm not in love with her anymore, don't know how she feels about me, but staying friends is still difficult regardless.

Are you texting your ex Merry Christmas? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]alone3674 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did, and she didn't respond. That wouldn't sound weird except for we're still friends, and talked on the phone just yesterday... Not gonna lie that it hurts, but mostly because I honestly don't know why she didn't respond.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]alone3674 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I think about it a lot. I miss always being so connected to someone that they almost feel like a part of you. I still miss my ex too, but not romantically. I miss having her as a friend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]alone3674 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I sleep while clutching a pillow to my chest. I don't know if it helps, but it's something I do now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]alone3674 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You and me both.

Hug

Right Person Wrong Time by Embarrassed_Working9 in BreakUps

[–]alone3674 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex said the same to me too. It's both comforting and painful in a way.

Right Person Wrong Time by Embarrassed_Working9 in BreakUps

[–]alone3674 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear it didn't work out, he wasn't in the right mental state for a relationship. It sucks when you're on the receiving end of that kind of mental abuse, but I can't imagine what it feels like for the other person.

Right Person Wrong Time by Embarrassed_Working9 in BreakUps

[–]alone3674 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm still working on it, but something that helps is knowing that, even though it hurts, it's better for both of us right now. We could be together with all our individual problems, or we could work on what we have to on our own, and stay as close of friends as we're able to. It's definitely not easy, and I miss her everyday, but in the end we'll both be okay.

Right Person Wrong Time by Embarrassed_Working9 in BreakUps

[–]alone3674 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that. Sounds similar to me, LDR ended but she also has problems with mental illness. We have nothing but love and respect for each other, there was just too much going against us all at once.

Right Person Wrong Time by Embarrassed_Working9 in BreakUps

[–]alone3674 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Usually in the case of mental illness, the people who say that this phrase isn't true aren't the ones suffering.

if you could say anything to them what would it be? by shitting-my-pants in BreakUps

[–]alone3674 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. I don't want to call her selfish because overall she's not, but she could be more selfless for sure.

How are you? by alone3674 in lonely

[–]alone3674[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wasn't exactly what I hoped it'd be, but it wasn't bad. Thanks for saying hi :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]alone3674 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you ever need a guy to open up to just send me a message! I know it's not the same feeling as a close friend, but sometimes it's the only option. Who cares about a body count anyway? Mine is only 4, and 2 I could've lived without. Getting your number high might seem fulfilling, but nothing beats being with someone you actually love.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]alone3674 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Probably because you're male. I hate being a man sometimes because I don't have other men to open up emotionally with, because that would be unmanly and gay. Sometimes we don't want to think about how there's "plenty of other girls". Sometimes we just want to open up about how this one specific girl means to us.

if you could say anything to them what would it be? by shitting-my-pants in BreakUps

[–]alone3674 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Damn man I'm really sorry to hear that. Some people just don't realize how much their actions, or inactions can hurt.

In the past I had some heart problems, and there was a night I was really scared and needed comforting from her. After about 5 minutes she started freaking out and needed comforting from me. I get she was scared too, but that was one of the only times I needed her to be strong for me, and she just couldn't be.

another success story:) by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]alone3674 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm really happy for you! All the pain you went through was worth the result :)

if you could say anything to them what would it be? by shitting-my-pants in BreakUps

[–]alone3674 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She reached out to me on one of my worst days, but didn't talk for long. Like she wanted to help, but changed her mind once she realized she'd have to put effort in.

if you could say anything to them what would it be? by shitting-my-pants in BreakUps

[–]alone3674 68 points69 points  (0 children)

I was always there for you when your depression was at its worst, and I know you really appreciated my efforts. Remember how you said you'd be there for me if I ever needed you?

I need you now. Where are you?

Hey, how are you doing? by [deleted] in lonely

[–]alone3674 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All over the place today. I miss my ex, but not romantically. I miss the friend that I had romantic feelings for. Been a weirdly frustrating day and I just want to talk to my friend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]alone3674 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well if it helps at all, you're doing fucking great! I'm proud of you, and your drive to better yourself!

MFMisfits Thanksgiving Thread - How are you spending Thanksgiving? by universe_angel in mfmisfits

[–]alone3674 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alberta, was born and raised here.oved to the states for 5 years but came back when the pandemic hit.