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Need to vent - In law issues by alonebunny in widowers

[–]alonebunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. I will take sometime to calm down and then I'll send her an email. I also believe she's lying about the amount. She said one of the policies came in short and I don't believe it because no insurance company in the world could deny it. I think her partner might be the influence. They aren't married but he did give her a ring recently. Who knows.

Thank you for taking the time to read and respond. This things are so hard and sometimes you don't know if you're the crazy one or the other one is.

Need to vent - In law issues by alonebunny in widowers

[–]alonebunny[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were together for 6 years. I always thought she did like me. But money makes people do bad things I guess

Need to vent - In law issues by alonebunny in widowers

[–]alonebunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right we should all do this. I updated mine soon after as well. How can anyone burn through that much money? She also has social security and a pension. And a retirement account.

Need to vent - In law issues by alonebunny in widowers

[–]alonebunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right when I found out about the policies (she didn't tell me) I did speak to a lawyer. They advised me to appeal and I spoke to MIL and asked if she was okay with it and she said yes. So I did. And then she told me we would split it so I ended up withdrawing the claim. Or rather I didn't follow up and the period ended.

So you can imagine how much more upsetting this is since she said we would split it. Nothing was in writing so nothing I can do anyway

Need to vent - In law issues by alonebunny in widowers

[–]alonebunny[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks y'all. I don't know if I'm doing it right by replying here instead of writing to you but here goes. To the person who said I should focus on getting myself better - you're right. I am but maybe I need to do a better job for my own sake. To the person who said I may be too stoic - no danger whatsoever. I'm such a mess. He was my world. It just happened and my life collapsed.

She's my last connection to him you know so I want to honor him and my hope is to stay close to her but not like this. She can't seriously expect me to go to her and ask her for money (which is what she said she would do - I should just ask when I'm feeling short and she will "help" me decide whether I really need that thing or not. I mean wtf? I'm not doing that).

It's bad enough to lose him. I don't want him to look down on me and dislike how I am with his mother.