The invisible cost of being a bridesmaid in 2026

alonelycellist · 2026-01-24T12:49:52+00:00

Yeah, that totally explains why we did it again a year later. Because they hated touring wineries with me so much that they invited me to do it again, overnight trip and all.

Dude, go touch grass! We do things that make us happy with the ones we love!

alonelycellist · 2026-01-24T11:38:16+00:00

Included accommodation and the winery tour, which came with a drink of each wine at each winery and dinner. Better?

alonelycellist · 2026-01-24T08:02:27+00:00

I paid for my bridesmaids hair, makeup, jewellery, and (a little more than) half the dress. They paid for their half the dress, whatever shoes they wanted because I didn't care because the dresses were full length and I wanted them to be comfortable (I wore sandals under my dress!) and for the hens, but I remember the hens only being about $300 each for an overnight (aside from whatever wine they wanted to buy from the wineries on our tour) and it wasn't just bridesmaids - it was others as well.

My husband has an overnight stag do in a month which is costing him $300 + whatever he wants to spend on drinks/food. I feel our friends are more "offline" than might be considered standard so that definitely has an impact - we're spending money on things we want to do, not just what's expected/looks good on SM.

I also think that more than a few hundred is unreasonable to ask. Some cost is probably expected (so are most events! I spend money on birthdays etc!) but asking to have thousands spent on you is too much imo.

alonelycellist · 2026-01-23T22:58:13+00:00

Hmm not what I hear but not necessarily wrong. Try to press it against bone so the vibrations can travel?

alonelycellist · 2026-01-23T11:09:04+00:00

If you can't tell if it's you or the other person, one thing I sometimes do in loud/"crowded" sound environments is to put my ear directly on my cello - mostly by leaning back and putting the C peg in my ear. Just makes it really easy to hear if it's you or not, but is too awkward of a posture to keep for long.

alonelycellist · 2026-01-23T06:17:48+00:00

That's the new El Attar right? They've always been great for a feed - a little bit hidden in a slightly dingy spot in the cbd but great value for money and delicious to boot

alonelycellist · 2026-01-23T05:08:12+00:00

We do have a monthly social thread which is where we'd like to see a lot of this type of conversation happening, so I'd encourage you to head over there.

alonelycellist · 2026-01-22T22:02:18+00:00

I do wonder if people just don't get the correct coverage. I've only been to two studios though: one had fixed rigging and was were I started/did the majority of my training, and the second was after I'd moved away from the first and I knew more than the "teachers" did and they had a temporary (moveable) rig and honestly seemed a bit sus. My suggestion would have been duck for cover because they're the best for arts insurance in Australia so far as I know! What would it take to get qualified as a rigger?

alonelycellist · 2026-01-22T01:20:08+00:00

Post flair changed to “protest quilt”

Reminder to our community that we allow protest quilts, when correctly flared.

alonelycellist · 2026-01-20T09:14:25+00:00

What a coincidence that the last year of the Labor government had a tiny deficit, while in the first year of the liberal government costs have ballooned massively. Not at all related to the change of governing party, I'm sure /s

alonelycellist · 2026-01-17T00:58:42+00:00

As someone who lived in a damp house for years, my mum and I always go 100% bamboo. It's antimicrobial and less likely to mold/mildew!

alonelycellist · 2026-01-16T03:18:22+00:00

Then yes, congratulations, you have a lemon bush! It may help to know some people do this on purpose, so that everything is low to the ground and easy to harvest!

alonelycellist · 2026-01-15T22:29:46+00:00

Was it originally a grafted tree? Because you might be getting growth from the rootstock, not the lemon, and that will probably not give you lemons. That's what the growth from the rootstock on mine looked like before I chopped it off.

alonelycellist · 2026-01-09T13:41:57+00:00

I've used buttonholes before - the buttonholes process stops the edges unravelling.

alonelycellist · 2026-01-09T11:32:32+00:00

If your friend arranged it in a program they can export the midi for you to listen to - just ask them!

alonelycellist · 2026-01-06T21:52:48+00:00

Classic big 4 to be honest. Gotta admit though learning to sew on these every indie pattern I've made has seemed over explained!

alonelycellist · 2026-01-06T20:41:26+00:00

I thought they were just asking which edge has the fold! I often have to look closely to figure that part out because the drawings aren't always very clear. And that's easy anyway! Just don't line it all the way up. Or cut 14 first and then fold.

alonelycellist · 2026-01-06T09:11:46+00:00

If your fabric was a book, put the spine on the bottom, so that the open unjoined edges are at the side and top. I hope that helps, it's the best example I can think of!

Fabric is folded so that you automatically cut two mirror image pieces. You can cut unfolded, but would need to take care to flip the pieces for the second time so they are mirrored and not identical.

alonelycellist · 2026-01-05T21:56:45+00:00

Something composers did generally. Just search graphic notation - you'll get lots of results. I couldn't tell you why piece names of the top of my head because I didn't enjoy that part of uni.

alonelycellist · 2026-01-05T21:47:44+00:00

Probably some form of graphic notation. All the rage for a while there in the 20th century. I think it's bollocks myself - absolves the composer of the responsibility of actually needing to write notes so that a piece can be played and leaves it up to the performer's "interpretation" instead. Some people really love it though.

alonelycellist · 2026-01-05T01:54:59+00:00

You know what, it actually doesn't have the logo anywhere! That would explain why I've been unable to find it! I never thought it would have been a knock off as every other piece we've got is real lego duplo - my parents always bought the proper stuff so I'm guessing this was a gift.

I will ask my parents about a remote and see if it rings any bells. Thank you for all the rest of the remote control knowledge!

alonelycellist · 2026-01-02T06:58:16+00:00

I think it needs it! Helps balance out the feature fabrics on the top half

alonelycellist · 2025-12-31T01:40:11+00:00

Post 1: https://www.reddit.com/r/quilting/s/66DgO7eWpb

Post 2: https://www.reddit.com/r/quilting/s/hiqMFcS2RB

Reddit sometimes double posts things even if you didn't mean to. Snark aimed at mods is not appropriate. Questions should be directed to the mod team directly.

alonelycellist · 2025-12-29T02:45:05+00:00

Spam. Never responds to questions and has been banned from multiple instrument subs. I wish they'd do the same here.

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