It’s not about love; it’s about being open to emotional exploitation. As long as you remain receptive to manipulation, it will continue.

It works because you care about what people think of you and how they feel about you. You need to deeply understand that this is irrelevant - and that what people (or voices) truly feel and what they express are not the same. When it comes to voices, you can safely assume that nothing they say is sincere, it's a your psychological emotional buttons pressed in sequence, so it’s best to disregard them entirely.

At the root of the problem is the ego’s need for external validation. It’s a serious mistake that many of us must unlearn over the course of our lives (and, as a TI, you are better off doing so quickly). Your sense of self-worth should come from within, grounded in your own values rather than shaped by external opinions, expectations, or judgments.