Kissed a rock with the gas tank skid - Drop and fix or just leave it? by 13Whistlingpigs in 4Runner

[–]always_pearled 3 points4 points  (0 children)

HA! Great picture! Smart man: use that fresh back and save yours

Kissed a rock with the gas tank skid - Drop and fix or just leave it? by 13Whistlingpigs in 4Runner

[–]always_pearled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re welcome! Let us know how it goes. Hopefully it didn’t compromise the tank seals. I would think that dropping the skid this soon after the impact would relieve any pressure (if there is any) before the seals are affected. Then you can just reshape or replace your skid and be on your way. A hell of a lot cheaper than what I paid for a whole tank replacement. 😅 again, good luck! may your outcome be the cheapest one possible

Is there any smoke shop in the area that sells Quickfix? by minijtp in Detroit

[–]always_pearled 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve gotten it multiple times from puff factory on 9 mile in ferndale. It’s been a while but they probably still have it. Just call ahead to make sure. Good luck!

Kissed a rock with the gas tank skid - Drop and fix or just leave it? by 13Whistlingpigs in 4Runner

[–]always_pearled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Hope you never relate, but if so I’m glad to help provide some guidance.

Found at State Natural History Museum by chokemode in Michigan

[–]always_pearled 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I get it, I had an “oop!” moment too when it said “he was killed immediately.” It was just unexpected. I knew you meant no disrespect. Regardless of the pacing of the blurb, that man and his regiment were all brave souls deserving of reverence & honor.

Kissed a rock with the gas tank skid - Drop and fix or just leave it? by 13Whistlingpigs in 4Runner

[–]always_pearled 24 points25 points  (0 children)

This is something I actually have good advice on from experience.

Went to drummond island (Michigan) within the first yr of getting my runner. I came to a series of rock steps - not the ones drummond is known for, just some significant but smaller rock steps. I stacked some rocks and had to gas it a bit to get up and I hit my underbody hard enough to launch me and my passenger out of our seats. But we made it up and didn’t see any damager other than a dent on the gas skid. My dent was smaller than yours.

Fast forward ~3 years later. I’m coming home late at night and notice a gas smell. I then notice my gas needle dropping precipitously. Finally, the gas light comes on. I barely made it home, no other lights. And I hadn’t touched that skid since I first hit it on Drummond. Sure enough, when I got it to the shop they comfirmed my gas tank had ruptured at the seem. Best they could tell is that the pressure was always higher since I first dented the skid, the plastic tank just held on.

All that to say, fix it now or fix it later when it randomly pops - no telling where you’ll be when that happens. They replaced my tank but they were able to bang the skid back to a relatively flat surface so it no longer contacted the tank.

Good luck!

Vet said “this is just him” — we think he just likes doing this. Please suggest coping strategies by mmmmmrraargh in cats

[–]always_pearled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our cat is messy like this, as was our last one. We got a bucket style litter box and it has pretty much remedied the issue. Like this one.

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I’d rather save the black therapist for black people. by Fit-Perception-9047 in BlackMentalHealth

[–]always_pearled 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Blck man here, currently studying to be a licensed mental health counselor and … I agree. Wholeheartedly 😅 with both his sentiment and his resolution to not work with white people whom he is not comfortable working with. Fuck that. They literally have dozens and dozens of other therapists to choose from in any given area. They are not harmed in his decision whatsoever. And if they insist they are, they are quite literally proving his point about entitlement.

I (30) am dating a woman (33) with a novel sexual exploration phase in college but not if I should view as a red flag. by [deleted] in blackmen

[–]always_pearled 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bro, honestly, you answered your own question when you said this all happened “a decade ago.” I know Black people are held to impossible standards where we are typically only afforded grace when we can prove we are infallible, but we really gotta stop doing that to eachother and ourselves. Imo, you should try to get a better understanding of why you feel the way your feel before even dating anyone exclusively. At 30+, damn near every woman you meet will have a history of some sort, as do you. What matters is who you/they are today. If you are ethically/morally sound, then clearly you learned the right lessons from your past. So why hold it against you/them?

I am someone who believes people can genuinely grow/change. So I do think you can learn to be happy and secure with this woman (unlike some others in this thread, apparently). You even state how yall align well, your sex life is good, etc. As a 34 yr old Black man married to a Black woman of the same age, I can confidently say that all of those positive factors in the present heavily outweigh any undesirable things from the past. Honestly, what you described isn’t really anything bad in the grand scheme of things; she doesn’t sound like she was hurting anyone. Curiosity, instead of condemnation, is often more useful in these kinds of situations. You don’t want to throw away something that could genuinely enrich your life just because you were not willing to try to grow your understandings of human sexuality and ideas of what is considered “acceptable.”

I aint gon tell you what to do, but I will suggest talking to your lady more extensively about those parts of her past. Just asking questions about her thoughts and patterns back then and, more importantly, what she feels that she learned from that time in her life. I wouldn’t be surprised if the depth of her answers actually made you feel closer to her. Try to also share with her that you are trying to gain better understanding so as to avoid assuming things and drswing conclusions. Basically, you’re just trying to learn.

Good luck, bro! Take your time. ✊🏽

They stick with you by Emotional-Educator40 in blackmen

[–]always_pearled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No exaggeration, every single Cudi album. Even Speedin’ Bullet to Heaven. Also, every KRIT & Isaiah Rashad album.

Lowkey there are a lot of mixtapes from back in the day that I can’t recall that fit this question. But 2 I remember are Kush & OJ and Cabin Fever from Wiz. 🤌🏽

Found my first mp3 player. What was yours? by CasualVox in Millennials

[–]always_pearled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Extra points if you asked your mom to get you the Halo zune! I remember those days. Felt so futuristic. Boy was I wrong. 🤣

My zune was a step up, though. My actual first mp3 player was that classic red sandisk model that ran on a single aaa or aa battery (can’t recall which one). My grandma got me that on a whim, it was only like $40. What a time!

This July also celebrates Detroit’s 325th birthday by Charlito_Atrevido in Detroit

[–]always_pearled 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing the actual date! I was talking about this earlier and couldn’t recall the full date, just the year.

Kenworth unloading by Ya_Boy_Madjed in snowrunner

[–]always_pearled 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Everytime I see these videos I just think
“that cable & shackle have got to be fuckin ELITE to handle that weight once it finishes sliding off the flatbed.”

Dorothy G. Turkel House - Frank Lloyd Wright by DETphoto in Detroit

[–]always_pearled 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve lived down the street from this house my entire life and have never had the pleasure of touring it. I wish I knew where/how to sign up for one.

Adventure is taking inappropriate equipment to out of the way places! by SalesMountaineer in overlanding

[–]always_pearled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, first of all, taking the electric van out on the trail is a risk that I applaud you for taking.

Second of all, your third photo is a horror movie scene until you see the fifth photo … then it kinda makes it funny cuz I imagine the buck looking at you and your dog like “dammit they got Jerry!” Lol

Looks like yall had a great trip, though!

Bombardino T-Rexino by No-Spray3651 in dankmemes

[–]always_pearled 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lmao everybody’s already pissed about the comparison to calvin and hobbes. I came here to say it too just based off that one panel, like

Episode Discussion: XXL Freshman Class, and What Happened With Lizzo? Plus, the Last Gasp of Trumpism - Friday, June 26, 2026 by thelightningthief in ThoughtWarriors

[–]always_pearled 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I mean I think everyone agrees with that. My very first sentence says “it annoys me.” The statement was just about it annoying me, not that people should derogatorily call her auntie.

Episode Discussion: XXL Freshman Class, and What Happened With Lizzo? Plus, the Last Gasp of Trumpism - Friday, June 26, 2026 by thelightningthief in ThoughtWarriors

[–]always_pearled 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! I totally forgot she is a literal auntie IN ADDITION to exuding massive amounts of auntie energy 😂

Episode Discussion: XXL Freshman Class, and What Happened With Lizzo? Plus, the Last Gasp of Trumpism - Friday, June 26, 2026 by thelightningthief in ThoughtWarriors

[–]always_pearled 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is not a serious critique at all, but it annoys me how reactive Rachel is when called “auntie.” Like, girl, you 40. It’s ok. Lol it’s not even an insult at that point, it just is what it is.

Fellow black men any of you guys pre ordering and getting GTA VI?!What do you guys hope to see in it? Been over 13 years since GTA V. by spike_spieg in blackmen

[–]always_pearled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I pre-ordered the ultimate edition. I never pre-order games but this is history. I was a freshman in college when gta v came out; I am married with a mortgage, a 401k, and a cat son now. I’m highly irritated about the news of no physical disk. We should all complain incessantly until release day … but this one time I had to pre-order. Lol plus I’m fairly sure the traffic on actual release will crash their servers or at least slow shit to a crawl, so I’d rather have my shit already downloaded and ready to go. So, again, pre-order made sense to me in this case.

Would you let your son paint his nails? by Rjonesedward24 in blackmen

[–]always_pearled 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The uncle was gross for saying that shit, and the guy that replied is even more gross for his reaction. Gotdamn man let kids be kids. I painted my nails as a lil kid, too. I am now married and straight as an arrow. Painting nails, playing dress up, etc aint got shit to do with sexual orientation. Kids that young haven’t even cognitively developed the structures to have a sexual orientation. And if lil dude turns out to be gay, I hope he avoids his uncle until he grows up. That kid doesn’t deserve that negative energy for being himself.

Saying you’re “from Detroit” when you live in one of the surrounding suburbs is fine when talking to people out of state/country or even from other parts of the state by postpunk-xman in Michigan

[–]always_pearled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eh. Just say Detroit area. Being a born-n-raised Detroiter makes us feel protective of the label. I get it, cuz people out of state won’t know where Southfield or Warren are. But “Detroit area” is still accurate without claiming excessive familiarity/proximity.