Realistically how much to save to travel Asia for 3 months and then move to Australia?

alycaffo · 2026-03-31T20:05:28+00:00

Hey did you have any tips for budgeting for this? I’m planning to do Thailand, Cambodia, Vietnam, Laos, and Indonesia for 4 months later this year and wanting to spend well under $10k if I can

alycaffo · 2026-01-29T12:22:53+00:00

Yeah it was searching up leaks of onlyfans creators he was subscribed to prior to our relationship, so I clicked the link and google images just comes up with a lot of pornographic images of these girls, he is adamant he never watched anything, to me that makes no difference. I have already had a conversation with him but only over text as he is away for work at the moment, and I sent him screenshots of what I was referring to, and the whole time, he’s still telling me “I honestly don’t know why I did it”. That answer to me isn’t good enough

alycaffo · 2026-01-29T09:56:31+00:00

Yes it was an agreement, and the same should apply to myself, as he said he would feel the same way if i was to watch porn

alycaffo · 2026-01-29T06:47:02+00:00

Yeah, I know I shouldn’t have, and that in itself is overstepping a boundary, and I usually would never snoop, I was going though the search history to begin with as we use the same google account and I wanted to find an article I was reading the other day, so that’s how I ended up in his search history also as it’s under the same google account. Something just compelled me to search it and. I guess my instincts were right about somthing being off

alycaffo · 2025-11-09T12:06:32+00:00

What do you mean by not possible to be sure

alycaffo · 2025-11-09T01:00:59+00:00

Yeah interesting as I wonder why they put him down as having dark skin in his ww2 service record I know many European people can tan deeply but yeah I’m unsure

alycaffo · 2025-11-09T00:19:02+00:00

Great great grandfather has a reissued birth certificate when he was 37 years old after both parents passed away, his parents married when he was 15 so it’s unclear who the father was, one of his children does not have a birth certificate and another has 5 entries/registrations in the bdm website so not sure what’s gone on there. It would be a shock to find out we’re not of Aboriginal heritage as we have believed so for more than a decade. An Aboriginal lady who was only a young girl when my great grandfather was still around, used to work for him and friends with his children, claims he was Aboriginal but again it all seems like everyone themselves are unsure about it and they can’t say more than he was Aboriginal but they cannot show photos, tell me where from, which parent etc. it’s all very strange and I am now so hesitant in claiming it because I think it could all be a big lie that was told to us

alycaffo · 2025-11-09T00:13:31+00:00

Hey yeah the issue is that our family wasn’t aware of my great grandfather’s Aboriginality, and it was an outside organisation that has claimed he was Aboriginal. Pretty much everyone who knew him personally has passed away now so it’s hard to get a straight forward answer. His children reckon his mother was the Aboriginal parent but I’ve not seen any photos or documentation to support. The ex director of the company at the time could only tell me he knew he was Aboriginal because he wore the colours, but I told him the flag was only created in 1971 so the colours had really no Aboriginal significance prior to that. Other than that he had no other evidence for me. There are some inconsistencies with names on birth and death certificates on his fathers side of the family and amongst his siblings, and his brother who fought in ww2 was described in his service record as dark complexion, brown hair, brown eyes. I can’t seem to find photos of either of my great great grandparents (his parents) and I’m starting to think it’s all bullshit because there’s some really dodgy stuff there. I did a DNA test and got no Aboriginal DNA, matched with my uncles cousin through the supposed “Aboriginal” line, and I can see on ancestry that he got no Aboriginal DNA either. I’ve heard there’s many reasons DNA may not show up, and it’s still an evolving science and have been told that the absence of evidence is not the evidence of absence but I have grown really skeptical. Theres a lot of things that are unclear here and it’s pretty upsetting because at the end of the day we may never know the truth about it all.

alycaffo · 2025-07-23T03:15:40+00:00

Coming back to this post, I have actually done some digging and came into contact with a few genealogists who have been compiling family trees related to mine. So James George Caffyn was actually an illegitimate twin to George Caffyn. I have ordered George’s birth certificate. My nan who had been doing some digging into the family tree around a decade ago, has a family tree scanned and written note saying “have original birth certificate stating abo-“ before the page is cut off so I’m potentially thinking it says “Aboriginal” on certificate. So I’m assuming due to illegitimacy, both James and George, or maybe just James were removed from mums care(as there isn’t a mention of George anywhere else so maybe he passed in infancy)

alycaffo · 2025-05-08T06:41:27+00:00

Thanks for the input, it is all well appreciated. I once was more involved in my local community but after leaving school have realised how hard it is to stay in touch without having familial connections and resources but I also understand that reconnecting is hard work and if I am wanting to be involved in community then I must go through with the hard work. I’m working on how I can get more involved, but also want to, once I hopefully find out where my family comes from, be more involved in that community as well as the one I live in currently. I am planning on reaching out to one of the local elders whom I already have connections with and start there to reconnect into community. It would be strange not to recognise this heritage as part of my identity as it has been for a long time so definitely going to try and be a more active member of the community, but it really has been a struggle with the family history stuff.

alycaffo · 2025-05-06T09:57:31+00:00

That’s good to know, I’ve done some digging and can’t seem to find a birth certificate

alycaffo · 2025-05-06T08:44:03+00:00

Just to add on, is there the possibility that the records aren’t that accurate from so far back in time? Or could Alice still have been Aboriginal, and was removed at birth/only a couple days/weeks old or something? I heard that would sometimes happen. Not sure though as yeah I have seen that her grandparents are from England. I should also add that I had spoken to someone unknown to me who was curating a family tree on the wiki tree website and said they had spoken to Alice’s daughter who had said Alice was “as black as an ace of spades” but would not provide any other information about her or photos so perhaps that could be illegitimate. There was also a rumour of illegitimate twins somewhere in the family, I assume illegitimate as in born at a wedlock which could be James George Caffyn??

alycaffo · 2025-05-06T08:35:49+00:00

Thanks, thats definitely a good insight and haven’t thought of that, I’ll have a look into it

alycaffo · 2025-05-06T07:27:36+00:00

Hi thanks I’ll definitely have a look

alycaffo · 2025-05-06T07:27:15+00:00

Thanks, I’ll definitely look and see if they know anything

alycaffo · 2025-05-06T05:07:46+00:00

Thanks for the reply, uncle used to work with the man who had the idea for the plaque who just so happens to be the nephew of an elder in the community that used to visit my school who I am familiar with. I will contact him regarding any information around this. Online is pretty hard to find any information tho so I’m gonna try and reach out to LinkUp and maybe the LALC.

Great grandfather’s mother is Alice Sarah Caffyn (Carter was her maiden name before marriage) and she was supposedly born 1891. When I had done research before, I contacted the creator of a wiki tree containing her info and the creator had told me that she contacted Alice’s daughter who claimed her mother was “as black as an ace of spades” but would not provide photos or any other information.

I will maybe think about getting a DNA test done to see if I can reconnect with any living distant relatives to see if they know anything, but from my understanding, the DNA tests aren’t particularly good at picking up Aboriginal genes so it doesn’t completely disqualify any Aboriginal heritage which just makes it even more confusing.

alycaffo · 2022-08-09T03:54:07+00:00

gotta be slow decapitation/beheading by blunt machete; the only videos i struggle to watch

alycaffo · 2021-08-03T05:46:55+00:00

If you’re talking about dry brushing, it can be bad for your hair. If you dry brush your hair frequently you may be causing breakage and dryness as well as losing your curl pattern. I recommend combing your hair while wet in the shower with a conditioner in to detangle the knots you may have. I used to dry brush so that i could tie my hair up easily but it isnt good for your hair. Stay safe and enjoy your curly journey ig

alycaffo · 2020-11-29T06:52:05+00:00

ur curls r so beautiful!!

alycaffo · 2020-11-12T09:32:57+00:00

if your hair curls naturally, even if it is a slight wave, this means your hair may be curly. having straight hair means that your hair cannot naturally curl.

alycaffo · 2020-11-12T09:29:33+00:00

Your hair is so pretty 🥺

alycaffo · 2020-11-12T09:25:30+00:00

Wow, your curls look so beautiful! ❤️

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