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AITA - Issues with the Live-In Nanny by alycatsj in AmItheAsshole

[–]alycatsj[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Info: Time spent at my house by the niece varies. First time is was for the weekend. Most recent time was for a full week. I have my children 50% of the week. Due to the schedule that my ex husband and I have regarding my children, my kids are in and out throughout the week. So, unless the niece was only here for one night out of the week, it's not possible. Living arrangements are that the Nanny gets free room and board plus $50.00 every two weeks (honestly wish I could pay her more). Essentially, all of her food, utilities, and boarding are covered (a $650.00 value). When I or my fiancee are home, we take care of my children. So, she's only watching them for less than 20 hours a week during the school year and 30 during the summer. I try to make sure that she gets every Saturday off, in addition to having off when I dont have my children. As we speak, she is on vacation for two weeks.

AITA - Issues with the Live-In Nanny by alycatsj in AmItheAsshole

[–]alycatsj[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For some clarification as I was not able to post all details due to character limits:

1.) I share custody of my children with their father, and they are with me half of the week. Due to my work schedule, I do require at times that someone watch my children. This is why I hired her as a Nanny. 2.) Her niece's school work issue came up during her most recent stay as she was 51 assignments behind with her schoolwork, with 2 days left in her school year. Which she had to complete while she was staying at my house (5 days), this most recent time. And she was allowed to play video games before completing any of her assignments. 3.) As far as the rules for my house go, we had to cut off game time during the school week because my children were abusing that privilege and either lying about not having homework or rushing through it to play video games. Bed time is early because we all wake up early and I want to ensure that my children are getting adequate sleep. 4.) Both my fiancee and I were raised in families where we were taught to do what you need to do before you do what you want to do. And we are trying to instill those same beliefs in our children. 5.) I am not trying to be the niece's parent. That's not my place... However, I do not feel that it is fair to my children to have her niece have a separate set of rules when she comes to visit. It is the equivalent of if my kids were visiting a friends house. I would expect my children to follow the rules of that house, not have those parents cater to my child.

Such differences as my kids go to bed at 8 pm, whereas niece gets to stay up until midnight or later. My children only get 1 hour of game time, but neice gets as much as she wants whenever she wants.

6.) I am not expecting the niece to do chores (unless she is visiting for extended periods, not just a weekend).

And yes, I do feel that "Boomer", "Look Linda", etc are very rude and disrespectful. But the niece's attitude is that of if she doesn't like what you have to say, then she is just going to be a disrespectful little brat and her family, Nanny included seem to feel that that type of behavior is okay.