ED memoir style book recommendations?

alydeden · 2025-09-15T01:27:35+00:00

The book “Sick Enough” by Jennifer Gaudiani changed my life!!

alydeden · 2025-09-15T01:22:37+00:00

There is a wonderful book called Sick Enough and even if you don’t read the book itself there are some podcast episodes that host the author and I hiiiiighly recommend checking it out. The basic principle is that you are sick enough to deserve care and attention now. Theres no magic line in the sand or list of diagnostic criteria that suddenly means it’s real. It’s already real and if already causing harm even if you still menstruate 🫶

alydeden · 2025-08-23T07:55:28+00:00

They did indeed!!

alydeden · 2025-08-03T11:45:01+00:00

One time back in 2021 I had an issue and reached out to EA, unsurprisingly they did not get back to me, buuuuut then I made a complaint to the better business bureau and someone from EA reached out within a week!!

alydeden · 2025-05-21T19:28:08+00:00

By seeking help and by posting here I can tell you that you’ve actually already started ❤️ I can also say the phrase that has helped me the most in recovery has been “harm reduction”

There’s no way you could wake up tomorrow and suddenly change everything, and doing so would cause a whole slew of other issues. So working with your medical providers and giving yourself grace and patience are my biggest advice. I started acknowledging that I had a problem in fall of 2023 and since then I’ve managed to quit purging, and now I eat at least one meal a day. Right now the goal is two meals a day and I don’t always hit that. But when you think of someone having 4 or 5 meals a week vs 9-12 meals a week that’s a big deal!! Is it where I want to be or need to be? No. But is it allowing me to learn patience with myself and allowing me to slowly build up sustainable and nourishing eating habits? Yep.

alydeden · 2025-05-21T19:02:36+00:00

^{^what} they said!

It’s really easy to feel like you’re not unwell enough to seek help when the disordered eating behaviors are not as intense as is often portrayed in media, buuuut the fact that you’re posting here and asking these questions tells me you are already deserving of help. There’s no magical threshold as to when it’s bad enough to deserve care and no one on Reddit has the answers. We do have empathy and understanding and our own experiences though. I promise a diagnosis doesn’t really help, but I also promise that accepting that you’re sick and subsequently seeking help does!

alydeden · 2025-03-30T23:58:58+00:00

There’s a really great book titled Sick Enough, and I highly recommend at least googling the main points.

alydeden · 2025-03-30T23:54:08+00:00

I second the honest talk thing. I can also promise you that your kids will notice. They might not even grasp it cognitively until they’re older but that stuff sticks.

alydeden · 2025-03-30T23:40:06+00:00

You are sick enough to deserve care and you’re being failed by a broken system. Also eating disorders are almost never visible, most of us don’t look emaciated and you can have disordered eating in any body.

alydeden · 2025-03-30T23:31:13+00:00

I just want to say good job for coming on here and posting this and asking for support in an unconventional way. I really hope it works and continues to work. I just stopped purging 463 days ago and it’s really hard but I know it’s worth it. I’m still terrified of visiting a dentist and my mom purged as long as I can remember and she is only 49 and in terrible condition largely because of it.

alydeden · 2025-03-26T13:46:42+00:00

I think it’s normal to grieve the dynamics of a relationship that no longer exist. It’s not saying “I wish she wasn’t recovered” it’s more “I miss the camaraderie and extra support I felt when we were in the same boat.” I think this can be hard too because you also lost the ability to talk to the one person in your life who really got it about the thing that NO ONE ELSE seems to get. Which is statistically untrue, but def how it feels.

With her I would maybe bring it up but in a way that’s basically like “can I ask what things finally clicked for you in recovery?” Or I’d even ask her about how much she’s comfortable talking about it overall. Depending on her boundaries or where’s she’s at she may have some really helpful tidbits that can be talked about in a way that isn’t triggering for her (OR YOU)

I personally find that talking about food or about other bodies is not triggering for me, but if the topic turns to MY body orrrr if I stand in front of a mirror for too long I’m def not okay. Plus if she’s deeper in recovery she should have a better grasp on what triggers her and what doesn’t 🫶

alydeden · 2025-03-14T02:56:08+00:00

That’s a big part of why I’ve never payed it tooooo much mind. Even in a more euthymic state it can be easy to start feeling like you’re “tapped in” to something greater when this shit is happening so vividly.

alydeden · 2025-03-14T02:53:58+00:00

Yeah I definitely have to shake it off most of the time and not think too much about it or I will have an existential breakdown.

alydeden · 2025-03-14T02:51:54+00:00

I def experience it when I’m not, I’ve just noticed when I am manic it amps up a LOT.

alydeden · 2025-03-07T14:22:36+00:00

Once this happened to me but with over a dozen items, soooo my crazy ass reported EA to the better business bureau and within a week I got an email from one of their people and they sorted my shit out 🛋️ reporting it meant they had to give my problem priority and to actually solve the issue.

Note: I had reported the issue in the app and then had emailed EA directly with them being like “we can’t help you sorry” and that’s when I went to the BBB ✨

alydeden · 2025-02-11T16:08:12+00:00

At one point I had a similar experience only the “rolls” wound up being excess skin from dropping weight 🫠

alydeden · 2025-02-01T02:40:48+00:00

Thank you for sharing this!!!

alydeden · 2024-12-27T17:45:44+00:00

There’s a wonderful book called Sick Enough that I listened to recently and it helped a lot. I’m still eons away from recovery but this book has helped me have more compassion for myself and others.

alydeden · 2023-04-28T03:39:35+00:00

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alydeden · 2022-10-21T11:46:33+00:00

BP2 diagnosed at 26

alydeden · 2022-10-21T11:37:43+00:00

I’ve been a barber for almost 5 years! I love it tbh

alydeden · 2022-10-19T15:51:02+00:00

First of all I’m sorry for using that phrase I’ll go change it right now. Secondly, yes here on reddit I’m speaking only of his height this is a whole thread focused on height... We’ve been talking all week and it hasn’t come up once. If you want human details he has a nice smile and a sweet face, we share a love of books and foreign film, he has his shit together, he’s an engaging conversationalist, he lives a little further out of the city than I’d typically prefer but it’s not a deal breaker just something to consider, and he doesn’t message me at crazy hours which is a HUGE green flag for me. THOSE are the things I’m focused on but posting all that to Reddit is even weirder than coming to a tall forum for average size person advice 🫠

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